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DanniRae Fri 18-May-18 08:34:53

flowers for you and my best wishes for the future - from Danni x

Anniebach Fri 18-May-18 08:34:43

So very sorry you are distressed , the loss of a friend is hard but your daughter is safe, and a new little life , give yourself time X

sodapop Fri 18-May-18 08:33:48

Indeed a roller coaster PP so pleased about the new baby and that your daughter is recovering now. Don't bottle up your feelings, its ok to grieve for your friend as well as being happy for your family. Is there anyone you can talk to in real life about your friend ?
Lots of support here though flowers

NanKate Fri 18-May-18 08:17:35

Dear PP sent you a PM.

Aren’t we lucky to have so many supportive friends on GN.

How lovely a new baby. ?

jusnoneed Fri 18-May-18 07:47:57

What a week you've had, the highs and lows of life in a few days.
Sorry about your friend but it's good to hear your daughter is doing ok.
Congratulations to you and your daughter on the newest member of the family. Enjoy her now, she will help you cope over the next few weeks.

Purplepoppies Fri 18-May-18 07:25:10

Thank you for your kind words. Yes I'm (eternally) single.
I read on another thread the other day that grief is just love with nowhere to go. (Thank you to the lovely lady/gent who said that). It really resonated with me.
I'm totally exhausted but have to keep going. I don't sleep well as it is.
I'm glad dd has a supportive partner but I'm still available to help them when they need me. Keeping busy is a saving grace I think.

cornergran Fri 18-May-18 07:12:59

What contrasts purplepoppies, you must be exhausted.

Many congratulations on the birth of your granddaughter, so pleased your daughter is stronger and recovering now.

My condolences for the loss of your dear friend. Grief and joy are difficult to process together, so why wouldn’t you be struggling with it all? I’m so pleased you have good friends to support you. You don’t mention a partner or husband, does that mean you live alone? If so your friends will be even more needed right now.

Please don’t try to pretend, you don’t have to be ‘fine’, it is OK to just be as you are, don’t put yourself under pressure to be any particular way.

Keep talking to us if it helps. Always someone here to listen. Sending virtual hugs and flowers.

OldMeg Fri 18-May-18 07:02:30

Yes, that’s how we get through isn’t it? Brave face in public, crying inside.

Thank goodness your DD and DGD are well and congratulations on the new arrival xx

Wheniwasyourage Fri 18-May-18 06:47:28

flowers flowers You are having such a hard time.

Congratulations on the good news of your DGD. Hang on to that to help you through the bad times. [hugs]

Purplepoppies Fri 18-May-18 06:10:56

This week I have witnessed the birth of my beautiful dgd followed by a serious emergency with her mum (My dd). I've never been so frightened. Thankfully she pulled through & is doing ok. I really thought we were going to lose her ?.
Two days later I said goodbye to a very dear friend. She had been battling on for months. She was brave and stubborn and beautiful inside and out ❤. A relief that she's finally at peace but I'm so very very sad.
My heart doesn't know if it's coming or going!
I'm very lucky to have a good support of friends to see each other through the funeral when it happens and to remember her together.
Just needed to say it and have a cry in private because I'm putting on a facade of 'I'm fine' for everyone ?