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Situpstraight Sat 05-May-18 11:01:06

Luckygirl and there we have the perfect solution! Well done.

Luckygirl Sat 05-May-18 10:43:20

Or....when he is bouncing about on the bed, rip your nightie off and fling yourself at him in a passionate embrace. He'll be out that door like a shot - can't be late for work! And the next day he will creep out! grin

midgey Sat 05-May-18 09:37:54

Sunseekergrin.
Retirement is very tedious but there’s only one person who can change it!!

sunseeker Sat 05-May-18 09:26:53

I do sympathise my DH was one of those annoying people who wake up whistling and singing, whereas I am definitely not a morning person. He learned very quickly not to even try to speak to me until he had delivered my morning cup of coffee to my bedside cabinet!!

Perhaps when he is bouncing up and down on the bed you could give him a gentle tap to remind him you are still trying to sleep (I know where you can buy a baseball bat quite cheaply!)

Juggernaut Sat 05-May-18 09:15:18

My DH used to move all his work clothes etc to another bedroom before we went to bed, so apart from being vaguely aware of his alarm going off, I wasn't disturbed at all!
However, when he retired too, he would sleep until 8-00 whereas I was waking at his old alarm time of 5-30confused

jusnoneed Sat 05-May-18 09:00:30

I wouldn't be creeping about at weekends if I was awake and he was sleeping, give him a taste of his weekday routine! Bang about and let him know how annoying it can be, might make him think about his selfish behaviour the other days of the week.

Luckygirl Sat 05-May-18 08:54:37

loved it at first, really bored and fed up now - time for action on that score - get out there lass!!!! Voluntary work, U3A, joining things.........etc! It is a waste of your retirement years being like this - and (sorry to say this) your retirement years are your last years!!!!!

As to him waking you so early - ask him to put his clothes in another room, use the main bathroom rather than the ensuite, and to creep out into the other room to dress when he wakes. Doesn't seem an unreasonable ask.

Panache Sat 05-May-18 08:51:08

There is another answer for your boredom Dontaskme....what about doing some Voluntary work?
You can choose which area and the hours best suited to you,make new friends,form another social life and furthermore have this "Feel good factor" for doing something worthwhile.

As for your thoughtless but rather boisterous hubby in the early mornings, surely a few gentle words in his "shell like"
would clearly give him the opportunity to mend his ways?.He is not a mind reader and without you protesting, of course this "disturbance" will continue, and at some point it will well and truly cause some real friction.
So strike now and make it happen............save your sanity and get those extra hours tucked up in bed!!!

Marydoll Sat 05-May-18 08:46:20

Dontaskme, I feel your pain. My DH was exactly the same when I was teaching and it was the school holidays.?.
Now retired, he is still does it, when he is off to play golf early in the morning. It drives me mad.

Poppyred Sat 05-May-18 08:39:59

When I'm up at 5am for an early shift, I move all my stuff to another bedroom so as not to disturb other half, only fair really.

Seaside22 Sat 05-May-18 08:12:13

Oh we had this problem for years.My husband had to be up at 4.30 am, I could never go back to sleep, we decided he would put his clothes in anothere bedroom, and use the other bathroom.Occasionally I would be able to drop back off to sleep, but more importantly I didn't feel as irritated with him, as you say bouncing on the edge of the bed.He has retired now , I work part time, and it feels so much better, me getting up to go to work instead of him, but we are still awake very early.I would look for something part time or at least maybe voluntary work, to fill your time.Good luck .

Greenfinch Sat 05-May-18 07:48:07

Get up with him and then have a fairly long nap in the afternoon.

travelsafar Sat 05-May-18 07:35:42

Try sleeping in another room.Lots of couple do this as lack of sleep is the worst thing ever for all concerned.

OldMeg Sat 05-May-18 07:07:16

???

I’d get a part time job if I were you. Lots of clues in your post that you need more than this. Just look around for something that you might enjoy.

Dontaskme Sat 05-May-18 07:01:26

This is a two fold moan really.
My DH gets up at 5.40am every weekday to go off to work. I stopped work a year ago (loved it at first, really bored and fed up now) but the blinking racket he makes getting up, putting the light on, using the en suite, sitting on the bed bouncing it while putting on his socks (omg he's annoying!), makes sure that I know its getting up time. I feel so guilty if I don't join him for breakfast so I still do, even though I have a flipping long day ahead of me and COULD doss in bed for a while. He doesn't do any of this in a nasty way, just does it. I think I feel bad about not getting up as although I have stopped work I don't get a pension or anything for a few years yet, so he's working for me too.

The other issue is why oh why at the blinking weekend do I find it absolutely impossible to stay asleep beyond 5.40am, yet he's happily snoring his head off ? Not once have I been able to stay asleep, even when we've been on holiday. He'll be in his pit for another couple of hours while I creep about. Its so annoying! I don't mean annoying he can sleep in, annoying that I can't!