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Save the date cards - really?

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janeainsworth Thu 12-Apr-18 20:33:38

I think they’re a good idea too.
It saves the annoyance of having to decline an invitation that you would have liked to accept because you’ve already accepted something else.

M0nica Thu 12-Apr-18 19:41:54

The printers would not be offering these cards if there was not a demand for them and I think they are a very good idea. In our own family, our Golden Wedding celebration, a family week away will see a full house because we told everyone a year in advance. We have just sent the invitations out confirming it and the location.

A month ago two members of the family, planning a wedding, small one for a mature couple, found the only dates available for the venue of their choice was late May this year or next year sometime. They have opted for the earlier date, but know already that one close family member cannot be present because they have a commitment on that day that cannot be altered.

Antonia Thu 12-Apr-18 18:28:45

Hmm, sounds like a good excuse - "Sorry we'd love to come but by great bad luck that's the very day we'll be going indoor sky diving!" ( At our age that might just sound a tad suspicious!)

MawBroon Thu 12-Apr-18 18:25:40

“Well in advance” not “dance” grin

jusnoneed Thu 12-Apr-18 18:24:09

We received one from our Nephew and his girlfriend a couple weeks ago, a couple weeks after we had been discussing something with them about their reception. She had made them herself but still a lot of work and cost, just thinking of stamps for the ones she must of posted. The wedding isn't until July 2019.

MawBroon Thu 12-Apr-18 18:22:35

Jalima grin there ain’t no Tena lady big enough for that!

MawBroon Thu 12-Apr-18 18:21:56

Our DDs all did a “save the date” email well in dance of the actual invitations. These young people have such hectic social lives it can be hard to find a weekend that suits the majority unless you tell them in well advance once you have firmed up the wedding venue/reception/band etc. Or so they told me as happily we did not have to do any of it tcrsmile

Jalima1108 Thu 12-Apr-18 18:19:41

much more fun!!
Are you going to have a go yourself?

MawBroon Thu 12-Apr-18 18:18:57

Sadly I have had to decline anyway as I shall be watching my little grandsons (8 & 6)indoor sky-diving instead.

Jalima1108 Thu 12-Apr-18 18:17:54

Seriously though, Antonia, I think that formal wedding invitations go out six weeks in advance of the wedding, although most people are told verbally what the date is, so a card does seem to be another money-making idea by card companies.

We have been invited to a wedding the day before - yes, we knew we were 'last minute due to someone else cancelling' but went and had a wonderful time and a wonderful meal. grin

hildajenniJ Thu 12-Apr-18 18:16:32

I've never heard of "save the date" cards. If the wedding is to be held during peak holiday season, why not just send out the invitations early. Seems an extra expense to me.

Jalima1108 Thu 12-Apr-18 18:14:18

Well, we were advised to save the 19th May but our invitation has gone missing in the post.
Therefore we have arranged to be away that weekend
sad

Antonia Thu 12-Apr-18 18:11:29

Nearly every recent wedding we have been to has been preceded by a save the date card, often very many months before an actual invitation arrived. Is it just me, or do I see these cards as simply one more expense driven by stationery companies? Wouldn't you save the date anyway when you get an invitation? I do see the logic in that it might mean you adjust holiday dates or other commitments, but as DH says, it also gives you a cast iron excuse to avoid the wedding by arranging in good time to be away!