No motivation and feeling down

I would certainly ask for feedback from the interviewing panel now you are back st work.
I applied three times to a Building Company I worked for yrs ago I applied for a Part Exchange Managers job based in the head office but was refused every time due to me making more money for the Company out on site selling new homes.

I agree Chinesecrested . I remember when my ex tried for promotion. He didn't get it, and was told he did such a good job in the current position, they didn't want to lose him from that! Intimated he would never get promotion on that basis.

They lost him altogether as he found a job elsewhere.

So sometimes the reason not to get promoted is because you are too good and valued in the job you are already doing!

When I was working I found that the only real way of getting up the career ladder was to leave and join another company. Some people I knew left and a few years later, were at a much higher level than I was (I stayed with the same company for 14 years). The new company values fresh blood, and sometimes you find that the old company suddenly realises that maybe they've made a mistake in letting you go! I was told that the ideal length of service with a company was 4 years! Start looking at the Sits Vac columns Nanano! This could be the start of something big!

Hope your week has gone a lot better than you were imagining it might nanano

Nil carborundum illegitimi!

Rejection is part of life. Rejection by lovers, rejection in job applications, rejection for promotion, offer for a dream house being rejected. DD is currently furious and down in the dumps because she was rejected when she applied for inclusion in her employers redundancy scheme. They said she was too valuable to the company. Even that failed to console her, she had other plans

I am sure, Nanano, you have faced all kinds of rejection in life and coped. Perhaps you might analyse why this particular rejection has affected you so much. Was it suggested that you were a shoe-in for the job, is the successful applicant younger than you or junior to you? Will you have to work for them? Are you menopausal or has something else happened that has made you feel you are getting older and you are afraid that age will stop you getting any further promotion?

Once you know why this rejection has upset you so much, I am sure you can then work out the best thing to do to help you get your mojo back or where and how to seek help.

It is always hard to face down rejection especially if you love your job and give everything to it.
I expect we have all been there, I know I have, but you do have to choose one of three option
Go back with bad grace, hate the “powers that be” who rejected you and continue to be miserable
Go back determined to show them what they are missing, enjoy the company of your work colleagues (who knows the person who got the job might be useless, if female go off on maternity leave or indeed be a nice person to work with
Go back, continue to do a good job and look out for the next vacancy which catches your eye.
You could of course also resign but that might be cutting off your nose to spite your face or it might be a wake up call to those who took you for granted.
Whatever you choose, dress to kill, lippy on and make sure you tell everybody what a wonderful time you have had on leave.
(Got time to do a bit of fake tan?)
What is that quote about “not letting the buggers grind you down”?

I suppose the rejection if being turned down for promotion will pass, especially once you are back at work.
Treat yourself to something and tell yourself that you are worth it!

Are there any nice shops on the way to work nanano? Maybe a little treat for yourself or something you have fancied might help you as you get near to your workplace or give yourself something to look forward to nipping out to buy at lunchtime if it's not possible on the way in? It's time to be kind to yourself. Weather probably not helping as it's easier to smile when it's very sunny.

Wishing you a brighter day

I'm sorry you are feeling downhearted. Others have given good advice above. I hope it passes soon.

Maybe try thinking of yourself as "nanayes" instead of "nanano". and .

nano I don't want to sound unsympathetic but it is a case of 'pick yourself up, dust yourself down, start all over again'. Easier said than done and you do need a bit of time to grieve your loss. Have a good cry get it out of your system then a nice bath/shower put on your nicest clothes, make up, perfume and go somewhere to treat yourself even if its only something small like a really nice coffee and a magazine. You will feel better honestly.

You sound depressed Nanano it’s easy to feel down when you have had a set back at work it is demoralising to be over looked for promotion. Did they give you feed back so that you can concentrate on making any changes? If not I would ask.
In the meantime if at all possible try to get out of the house in to nature, sunlight and fresh air are natural mood boosters even if it’s just a walk around a park. Try to plan a few treats for yourself too a little bit of pampering, and seek out the company of good friends and family as laughter is another mood booster.
However if your low mood does not improve I would suggest a trip to your GP
All the best ??

Sorry you didnt get the promotion. Its hard but if you enjoy your job gird up the old loins and slap on a smile if you can. Woukd it be worth asking for feedback.?

I have been in a similar situation and know its hard but why not contact family or a friend and invite or meet up later today.
Might cheer you up a bit if you are due to go back tomorrow. Or go for a good walk. Fresh air always envigorates.
Hope you feel better soon.