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radicalnan Sun 08-Apr-18 10:40:43

I have Fibro it is a bitch.

The children will understand, tell them you feel like they felt when they were poorly and you are looking forward to being well again and resuming normal services.

Coconut Sun 08-Apr-18 10:28:09

Just a learning curve for them that grans do get poorly ... just give them another date ASAP and they will soon get over it when they have something else to look forward to.

brook2704 Sun 08-Apr-18 10:17:35

Don’t feel bad - I know how tiring one 4 year old can be never mind 2 ! Hopefully you’ll feel better soon and I agree with frue - book another date and you can all look forward to it ?

Gaggi3 Sun 08-Apr-18 10:14:14

Don't punish yourself. No-one can help feeling ill, and it's much safer for them if they don't stay when you are under par. We have twin GC who will be 4 in July, I know how taxing they can be. Hope you feel better soon. flowers

Everthankful Sun 08-Apr-18 10:09:00

I was supposed to be having my disabled grandson to stay while his parents had a well earned and neeeded rest. He never slept for more than a couple of hours because of medical conditions and they were exhausted so I felt really guilty having to let them down once, at the last minute when I felt ill. I think they forgave me, eventually!

Smithy Sun 08-Apr-18 10:07:35

It's the way we are though, Happygran. Guilt as a mother or Grandma even when we feel dreadful. When my grandson was little I used to sometimes have him in Friday's to stsy, after a busy week at work. If I didn't feel up to it I felt very guilty but posters are right, children DO understand what being poorly means. Hope you're feeling better soon.

frue Sun 08-Apr-18 10:06:00

Look after yourself well and book another date now with the children so they can look forward to it

Iam64 Sun 08-Apr-18 08:50:25

Look after yourself, there will be other opportunities. As vampire says, children understand being "a bit poorly" as one of our 3 year olds says.

vampirequeen Sun 08-Apr-18 08:41:08

Don't feel guilty. Children understand illness. It's nice that they were disappointed because it means they love being with you.

Willow500 Sat 07-Apr-18 18:28:31

Hope you feel better in a few days - my niece suffers with fibromyalgia so I know how painful it is. Although the girls will be disappointed I'm sure they'll have forgotten about it in the morning so no need to feel guilty at all and you're definitely not an awful gran!

Luckygirl Sat 07-Apr-18 18:11:42

Oh heavens - not your fault at all - no guilt please! There will be another time I am sure.

Hope you feel better soon. x

loopyloo Sat 07-Apr-18 17:48:30

Don't feel guilty! You need to look after yourself.

Happygran1964 Sat 07-Apr-18 17:41:22

My beautiful 4 year old twin granddaughters were supposed to be staying over tonight but I am ill and feel awful with a fibromyalgia flare.
The girls were very disappointed but they sleep very badly and I just can't cope with little sleep tonight.
I feel like an awful gran!