Your wedding ring

I’ve had 3 wedding rings over the years . Number 1 cost nothing at all . It was loaned just like the marriage itself that lasted a few months . Number 2 was cheap as chips but meant something at least . Number 3 was about £40 in the 1990’s it’s too tight these days so can’t really wear it . When I have some spare cash I’ll get it altered . As it stands I’ve got a ring of pale pink skin where my wedding ring should be .
I’ve never had an engagement ring, eternity ring or anything , always wanted an engagement ring , nothing fancy just something sparkly .

What a variety of answers! Did I miss any divorcees saying what they'd done with theirs or should I start a new thread? I chucked my wedding ring into a river. Granddaughter now has my engagement ring.

What a lovely story Panache

I had to dig out my rings yesterday so that DD1 (an Independent Celebrant) could photograph our hands clasped, complete with rings. She is preparing a leaflet for couples who request a Renewal of Vows Ceremony and wanted to illustrate it with a pair of joined 'older' hands.

5 minutes with the rings on for the photo shoot, quarter of an hour with washing up liquid to get them off again.

As a newcomer I could not help but jump in at the deep end about this Wedding ring conversation!
A warm hello to you all.
My quite wide gold wedding ring has been mainly a fixture on my left hand since our pre Christmas wedding which will actually be our 50 year Golden anniversary this Christmas.
Yes several times it has been taped over as I have been trundled to theatre on some very scary missions, but the one time it actually was removed when........horror of horrors..........I suddenly realised it was no longer on my finger.I had lost weight its true.
What sheer panic ensued.
Much as those wedding vows meant to me, that ring was stuck to not only my finger but my heart, and to have it missing I felt as if part of me was truly gone astray.
I love and have a great penchant for rings, wearing several on any trips away from home. However at home it was just the old faithful golden wedding band together with a gold/ birthstone ring,a present from my foster mum many moons earlier that were worn on a daily basis.
My husband and I diligently searched and searched high and low for the missing ring........ once the initial blind panic had subsided.......but the fact I had attended a clinic in the nearby Hospital days earlier,undressing and yes even washing/drying my hands in their oh! so tight cubicles had us fearing that I may have well lost it during this time.It was reported and everyone with access to this area over the 48 hours were contacted and questioned but to no avail.
Sympathy abounded...........but still no ring.
Meanwhile I wore another ring on that special finger, although not for one moment did it feel right or give me that safe inner glow!
We decided to opt for a new one that I had long admired from the firm “Clogau gold”........it had some of our welsh gold within it...........though pricey it was a case of satisfying a need, but also having something I had long admired.
Of course all this would take a little time and meanwhile not a day passed but you would find us both still searching into every little nook and cranny .............hoping to find that well worn, but much loved Wedding ring.
Just as the new ring was about to be despatched my husband was outside clearing out the troughs and urns of spent summer bedding plants............and lo and behold he espied a glint of something shining..... lurking deep in the soil and roots.On looking further, to his amazement and great delight yes!..........the elusive wedding ring had been hidden under a lovely show of colourful “Busy Lizzies” for most of the summer..........safe and protected.
But now firmly restored back where it rightfully belongs..............on my left hand.
I can imagine you are pondering about the beautiful one ordered from “Clogau gold”...............and to put your minds at rest,no I did not indulge, being that I was so delighted and well relieved to have my former wedding ring back safely where it remains to this day.
Hopefully it is where it will always stay.

I had my mothers and grans rings woven together after my mother died. However can't bear to wear it so will give it to my daughter. Guess she will probably scrap it though!

I've only taken mine off twice in 40 years to have it enlarged. Now I can't remove it (or my engagement ring) again, they are not tight but the knuckle on that finger is badly swollen from arthritis. Unless the rings become uncomfortable they will stay there till I'm buried!

I go to an old jewelry firm where they do the repairs themselves..no additional gold is used just what’s in the ring he softens them and reshapes them upsizing or downsizing and use a strengthening metal. Then cleans them.My oh one had become oblong with the shape of his finger. It’s perfect now and cost £60 for both. My sisters have had there very wide early 1970s wide bands remodeled for about £30.

I have worn my wedding ring for 46 years and rarely remove it. It was very cheap and the design has worn off but I don't think that really matters.

I always wear mine and after fifty years it is getting very thin. Interested in your post Nanah67 that a jeweller can bulk up rings,

I have had my wedding ring now for 40 years as does dh which we both wear everyday..it’s only been off a couple of times for hospital stays and resizing or bulking up..a good jeweler can resize bulk it up and clean it ..we do this every so often and it’s amazing it costs very little and they look as good as new today..they are 18ct gold and cost £40 each..a good jeweler can remodel any type of ring.

I am so glad there are other women on here who don't wear a wedding ring. I miss placed mine years ago and keep hoping it will turn up but as a plain silver band it had become too tight to wear anyway.
A friend commented on my lack of a wedding ring and photographs of my wedding and asked 'Are you even married?'I would love an eternity ring and keep dropping hints but as I have been married for 46 years,I think I may be unlucky.

use – not us them!

My current wedding ring – I have been married twice with a divorce in between – is the 22-carat ring that my grandfather put on my grandmother's hand in the 1890s. We asked my elderly mother if we could use it and she delightedly gave us her blessing. It is paper thin as the soft gold wore down during my grandmother's pretty hard life and I don't think she ever took it off, whether blacking the range or scrubbing the front step. I treasure family heirlooms and us them as much as I can.

I am also a victim of a 1970s wide wedding ring . It appears there are quite a lot of us.

I rarely wear mine. It is quite wide and my finger gets soggy underneath the ring, so I leave it off when I am gardening or such.
I don't often remember to wear it. but keep it in a box.

Oh dear "gummybears" . Did you consider an anullment whilst eating your wedding meal?

Granny23

gummybears I am not sure which of them needed a good spanking most!
My darling MIL would never have dreamed of interposing herself between DH and me in any way ever and for your brand new MIL to do such a thing on your wedding day beggars belief. I hope her behaviour has improved since then.

gmelon - she asked for it, so he got it for her. If she asked for a kidney, he'd be creeping up behind me with a butcher knife

gummybears Outstandingly thoughtless behaviour from your husband?
Dare I ask if your husband had some reason for handing your ring to mother in law?

My DH chose to have a wedding ring back in the 60s when most men did not. He wore it all the time until one day, about 40 years ago, it caught on his woodworking machinery and thankfully split rather than tearing his finger off. It has lain in his bedside drawer ever since......... UNTIL

Two weeks ago, he found it while looking for lost watch (which was on his wrist - DH has advanced FTD) and announced 'I've been looking for that for ages' popped it on and has worn it, complete with split, day and night since. When DD1 noticed it on his finger, her Dad told her that he might not wear it forever but as we had not been married for long (actually 52 years and counting) it was right to wear it now. He seems to find it very comforting.

When I got divorce from the moron I sold my wedding ring to pay the electric bill as he never paid maintenance or child support and I had a load of debt from loans he had taken out in my name. I am not married to current OH but we got engaged after 13 years together and he bought me an eternity ring instead of a traditional engagement ring and I never take it off.

I’m on my third wedding ring. The first came from Woolworths! We replaced the second one when it started to look old fashioned and was too tight. I also wear an eternity ring everyday. I never had an engagement ring. I don’t sleep in the eternity ring and I only take my rings off when I make pastry or am putting on handcream. I like wearing my rings. Neither of them were terribly expensive but I know my husband has never bought a ring for anyone else so they are special.

I take wedding ring off at night and if doing messy jobs. My gold wedding ring had a bark effect which began to wear off. DH bought me a platinum one of the same design for Silver wedding. I continued to wear the gold one for special occasions and a few years ago we had it rebarked, it's much thinner than it was!

I have a very broad patterned wedding ring which I take off the minute I come into the house. Mostly because my finger goes soggy underneath and also because I can't work with that and my 'engagement' ring on. I actually mislaid my engagement ring mysteriously. It was a large sapphire cluster, came in one night after being out, put it on my dressing table and next day it had gone! We had the whole Hygena wardrobe/dressing table unit out but nothing! That was five house moves ago!

I wear other rings which I've acquired over the years. I was bought an eternity ring one year after getting married which I don't wear at all. My OH still wears his ring which is more of a signet ring but engraved with our initials, it's 49 years on Thursday since our dreadful wedding day but we are still here, hanging by the skin of our teeth against all odds!

I wear my wedding ring German fashion on the right hand and DH wears his everyday as well. We were engaged with the same rings when we wore them on the left hand.
I don’t intend to change mine but have had it made slightly bigger when I took it off for the first time some years ago because of a burn on my hand.

Widows here wear both the rings, his on the other hand and I have often seen the gold ring hanging on a long gold chain round the neck.