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Anniebach Thu 22-Mar-18 13:03:25

When we married we talked of the time when we could move to New Quay in Cardiganshire . Never happen because he died so young. We both wanted to be near the sea.

This week elder granddaughter who leaves university this year and her partner went to the West Country for him to attend an interview, he has the job and starts in .June. They will be living on the coast . I received loads of photographs of beaches .

farview Thu 22-Mar-18 13:29:11

Oh brilliant Annie,hope that you manage to visit them!

Anniebach Thu 22-Mar-18 13:32:48

Too far to travel farview , so pleased for them though.

Luckygirl Thu 22-Mar-18 13:54:51

I pine for the sea. I was brought up near the sea and feel its loss very deeply. I was watching Shetland and felt like crying at the sight of the wonderful seascapes. It is weird how deep it goes. What is the attraction of the sea I wonder?

NanKate Thu 22-Mar-18 14:02:24

I too love visiting the coast but I have to say the landscape on Shetland depresses me no end. I couldn’t stand all that wind and cold.

Going over to the Isle of Wight from Lymington on a sunny day is just stunning IMO.

gillybob Thu 22-Mar-18 14:08:52

Life does have a strange way of turning full circle doesn't it Annie ?

So sad that you and your DH never got "your chance" to fulfill your dreams. Lovely that your DGD and her partner will be living on the coast but a shame that it will be too far away for you to visit.

I consider myself very lucky indeed to live so close to a beautiful coastline (even if it is cold most of the time).

The attraction for me is the sounds, the smells and the desolation at this time of year Lucky. I can hear the waves crashing when I lie in bed and can see the sea from my bedroom window (well I could do if the glass wasn't all salted up) . It's my favourite place to be alone with my thoughts.

lemongrove Thu 22-Mar-18 14:15:51

Would you be able to take a train there Annie?
We have lived near the sea twice in our married life, DH likes it more than I do, I prefer the countryside.
Watching Shetland makes me relieved that we don’t live anywhere near there! grin
We are an island nation though, and the sea is never all that far away.

Anniebach Thu 22-Mar-18 14:21:02

I always found the sea healing . My elder daughter loved the sea, younger daughter no, she loves the mountains , then leaves Wales to live in .Lincolnshire ! I love the mountains and the sea, not the flat bits between ?

Anniebach Thu 22-Mar-18 14:22:11

.lemon, no I couldn't make the journey now

MissAdventure Thu 22-Mar-18 14:26:35

I love the sea, too. A day near the sea is like a mini holiday..
Its good for the soul, I think.

lemongrove Thu 22-Mar-18 14:27:45

Well, at least you know they have jobs and will be happy.

Greyduster Thu 22-Mar-18 14:32:44

Being brought up from an early age to feel heather and gritstone under my feet at weekends, I never thought about the sea much except that we went to all the usual Northern coastal resorts for holidays and as I got older I hated them. When our own children were small, DH was seconded to a small unit in Pembrokeshire and we lived there for a year. That was when I fell in love with the sea, and with Pembrokeshire.

petra Thu 22-Mar-18 14:33:52

Luckygirl
what is the attraction I wonder
Some would say it's where we come from.
I can't bear to be away from the sea. When we take our long schlapp to Spain or Bulgaria we both get excited when we see the sea again.
When I'm in the middle of Europe it's almost a claustrophobic feeling when I think how far away from the sea I am.

Cherrytree59 Thu 22-Mar-18 14:47:39

Annie Every now and again life seems to have a little trick up its sleeve.

Hopefully when they are settled you will be able to have a little visit and get to breathe in some sea air.
It is so therapeutic.

I so wish I could have the sea breeze through my hair at the moment I don't mind how cold it is. ?

BBbevan Thu 22-Mar-18 14:56:00

My Mam and Dad , always wanted to return to Wales when my Dad retired from teaching. They had a bungalow sorted out near Penarth, to retire to. Then my Dad had a stroke.
They never were able to move.
DH and I have moved to the sea in SW Wales. In part I feel we did it for my parents.

ninathenana Thu 22-Mar-18 14:58:39

I have lived on the coast all my life and used to swim in it most days isuer whrn I was young Sadly due to the high sea defence I can't see the sea from my windows. We used to walk the dog for miles along the cliffs years ago but I haven't walked on the prom for years H "walks along the top" to get his paper every day.
The sea dosen't have the pull on me as some of you describe Though I love to watch a rough sea.

Anniebach Thu 22-Mar-18 15:00:34

If I ever am able to take a journey again, as much as I love elder granddaughter , it would be back to New Quay , there are times when I ache to be there again . Holidayed there with parents and siblings . Went most Sundays with my husband ,before we married, he proposed there ?. Holidays there when we had our children and went back for holidays with parents and my children after my husband died, I belong there

Agus Thu 22-Mar-18 15:13:31

I am definitely a mountains and country girl as opposed to DH who completely unwinds just being near water be it sea or loch so we have been very fortunate upon retirement to buy a but n ben on the edge of a loch in Perthshire. Win win for both of us.

I do understand the I belong there Annie as my family for generations are from this area. Home, is how I feel.

Auntieflo Thu 22-Mar-18 15:15:10

I'm sure you will one day Annie. Small steps. We're all wishing you onwards

merlotgran Thu 22-Mar-18 15:23:50

I also pine for the sea. It's where I belong. We can drive to the coast in an hour and a half depending on the traffic but it's the traffic that's the problem. I no longer enjoy bracing walks along a beach in the winter so it means risking being stuck in nose to tail traffic when the weather is nice..

The Isle of Wight is where I really want to be. If only we'd moved back there when we had the chance.

Never mind.

You never know what's around the corner Anniebach. You might get there one day.

Agus Thu 22-Mar-18 15:33:23

Annie is there no one in your family or friends who could drive you to New Quay?

Sorry, I don’t know what distance is involved but I would, if I lived near you, willingly drive you to your beloved New Quay. I so wish this could become a reality for you.

Kupari45 Thu 22-Mar-18 16:58:12

My O.H. and I moved to Embleton on the Northumberland Coast two months ago.
We are less than a mile from the sea, and walk down the hill to the beach most days with our dog. We are so happy in our new home, and feel we are still on holiday. Our neighbours laugh and say "The novelty will soon wear off", but I know it wont.
It was such a big decision to come here- but after two horrible years dealing with bereavement and sorting out family problems, we decided to be selfish and think about ourselves for a change. So we are both 74 now, and are so excited we can go on the beach everyday. We love our new life living in this village and making new friends.
Anniebach it seems so sad that you will not be able to visit New Quay again, it obviously has so many happy memories for you.

Anniebach Thu 22-Mar-18 17:17:30

Now that elder daughter is dead, younger daughter living so far away , Grandson is going to buy a house where he works, elder granddaughter moving to live miles away there is only younger granddaughter here with me now and she is in university, perhaps I should finally play the lottery, win a large sum and buy that cottage in .New Quay as we planned fifty years ago ?

bikergran Thu 22-Mar-18 17:21:37

How far are you all from the sea??

I can be at the seaside in around just under and hour (Lytham St Annes/Southport/ Morcambe etc)

My friend and I used to go on our scooters/motorcycles and ride along the prom (on the road of coarse not the footpath) with the warm breezing blowing)
Unfortunatly she had to give up her licence due to eye problems.
But!! we have now bought pedal bikes and intend to get on the train with our cycles and off at Lytham and cycle along the prom smile picnic in our little bags (could even have a little dink wine seeing as though we wont be driving as such.
I too have a yearning to see the sea at times and just have to go.

wildswan16 Thu 22-Mar-18 17:26:25

I have always lived near the sea. For many years on the north coast of a Scottish island right above a deserted beach which my children believed was there personal property! Now I live in a city, but can walk to the sea in five minutes.

I would miss it so much, I think the air is so different with a bit of that salty flavour to it.