AIBU

Its a man thing. At this moment we have the front door open because my son and his partner who lodged with us are moving out. They are taking stuff out the front to the cars. No heating on in the house. No ponit. Hubby has actually put a jumper on because of this. I always have a jumper on. Wait until the door is shut and we are here alone. Moan, moan, moan.

Mines just been out to inspect the bird feeder station wearing his all weather slippers... we have 3inches of snow out there.

15 degrees is below the acceptable temperature for the workplace and a bedroom should not be below 18 degrees.

I hate wearing clothes when I don't have to so today is a nothing but a dressing gown day. It's lightweight cotton. I have bare feet. The heating is set at 15 for the pipes rather than for me. About an hour ago I had to open the back door for a few minutes because it was too hot.

I used to work with 2 blokes like this - one my age, one in his 20s. Both refused to wear anything but a thin shirt or T shirt even in the depths of winter. And we had the general public in and out all day (little local library) letting cold air in, so heating had to be on high for the shirt-only pair.

Whilst the general public, who naturally came in with their coats on, would say it was sweltering inside!

I used to threaten the two of them with knitting them the sort of horrible jumper their old great auntie Mabel might have made them, and making them wear them, but somehow it never did happen...

Sorry to hear that you alone are paying the energy bill.

Discuss with your beloved Hubby how best to improve your home's insulation so your monthly energy bill is less than £50pm on average throughout the year.

You may also need to switch energy provider to achieve this. I can heartily recommend voltzapp.org for easily comparing and choosing based on service, contract length and price.

Well I am a man and I like to layer up well with thermals. I also use a single duvet in the sitting room. I enjoy being warm but I do not need the heating on full blast either.
To be honest using the single duvet I don't feel cold at all.
Why run up a big bill for no good reason. I never go cold either .
Best Wishes.
Joseph Grennell
Child Psychotherapist and Behaviour Therapist

It must be a bloke thing because my OH does exactly the same! I really object to spending so much on heating so I wrap up but as soon as he comes in the heating goes on full and he sits with no socks on and a tee shirt then complains about the cold. I get cross too

Those of you who are over 65 (or even if younger you have respiratory/circulatory problems) should keep your bedroom heated to 18 degrees at night. It's no use being tucked up in a warm bed if you're breathing cold air - you will put yourself at significantly greater risks of strokes, bronchitis, pneumonia.
You could just have a thermostatically-controlled electric radiator in your bedroom.

It is a man thing. T shirts round the house. I have been feeling cold all week in jumper plus fleece plus wooden carry, and still had cold hands

If you wear all those clothes indoors, WHAT do you wear to go out? I'm with your husband on this. I wear trousers and t-shirt in the house, and so does my husband. Our heating is on from 6.30am - 10pm, at 21 degrees. The last few nights, it's been on all night, on 19 degrees. I pay so much a month (Direct Debit) to the energy company, and I'll deal with any extra to pay, when I get the next bill.

For the first time ever I’ve got the heating on day and night but on the lowest setting. The house normally retains the heat well but I’m in an exposed spot in the direct firing line of the beast from the east.

I'm with Luckygirl on this subject. Putting on extra layers whilst at home in the winter makes total sense to me. My life-long drive to be environmentally aware and responsible is part of who I am. I often fail in this but I keep trying and I wish others would as this world is the only one we have!
Travelsafar - no you're not being unreasonable!

It's people like him contribute to global warming!

we are running out of oil - tanker cnt get here - so heating only 2 hrs a day to preserve oil - we do have one open fire and lots of wood - so that is something!!

I don't think the financial cost is the issue here (if you can pay it, that's fine) but what about the cost to the environment?!!! It seems plain selfish to me to dress in summer clothes and have the heating on at full blast.

Grampie, she is paying the bill!!!

I feel your pain Travelsafar....my OH is the same ?

In our house I like it warmer than my husband so we compromise, the thermostat is set at 15 while we’re moving around and 21 when we’re relaxing and I put on an extra layer.
Strangely we are the opposite in the car. I take off my coat and like a low heat, he wears a parka and has hot air at full blast in his face.
I suspect it’s because he thinks it’s free in the car!

That was a bit harsh Grampie. The poster is worried about the bills with their limited finances, she is asking him to add a layer to his summer clothing during this cold spell so that they can turn down the heating and afford to pay the bill. That’s not controlling behaviour it’s partnership, give and take.

I wear lots of layers, which are not thick, they are made of natural fibres such as silk, or cotton for vests, and thermals. Then its wool such as alpaca for socks, trousers and tops. My husband has finally taken my lead and started to layer up in the house but still has the heating on at 23. The probably left is my hands, and so I wear finger less gloves which means I can do things and keep my fingers warm. We are now very warm and cosy and having stocked up during the warning period we are up set up until the snow goes away, which hopefully will be by next week.

annodomini, you brought a wide grin to my face when you mentioned gloves. Fact is I prefer my bedroom coolish but when I wake up through the night and have a read on goes a single woollen glove for the one part of me which is not snug as a bug. The hand that deals with the kindle or ipad. I've tried propping and gadgets but in the end hand works best. Often wonder what my children would think if they discovered this. That thought makes me laugh too. All good!

My mother always wore her hat indoors in winter ‘it keeps my head warm’ said she. However this was the 1950’s/1960’s. One coal fire lit at 4.00 pm when I came home from school. A calor oil stove on in the bathroom overnight in case the pipes froze and the oven on in the kitchen when we had breakfast. Thank goodness for central heating at whatever temperature!

You're being totally reasonable. You could either buy him a thermal long sleeve vest or suggest he warms up by, for example, cleaning the bathroom! That always warms me up!
Ignore him & turn the heating back down. T shirts are for warm days. Some men eh!

By him proper thermal underwear. It is so thin nowadays he will hardly know he is wearing it. Also get him a heated throw for your sofa. I bought one from argos. Then turn the thermostat down