How often do you have a glass of wine.?

I drink white wine,hubby doesnt drink much,only time he will have a beer or red wine is if we have company round.
I used to drink half bottle wine most nights.
I last had 2 glasses of wine sunday afternoon as we went out for hubby birthday.I went 11 days without a wine.But i will have one at the weekend.

I don’t think your to blame for your sons alcohol addiction NanaMacgeek I have three grown up children none have problems with alcohol. They are all social drinkers as are we. Now you may not agree but Im rather enjoying introducing my youngest 35 year old to decent wine. I think addictions is much more complex than seeing your parents drinking in moderation. Saying that in your position I certainly wouldn’t have alcohol in the house. I wish your son a full recovery.

So sorry Nana Macgeek and I totally understand your concerns. I realise I can deal with myself but others may not.
Perhaps I was too easily swayed and I sincerely hope your your son's problems may be solved, although I realise that is very difficult . I am aware of the situation in my own family, I just feel my example might get through that moderation can be achieved and emulated.
Perhaps I am kidding myself.
I feel for you in your situation and hope you learn to deal with it. You seem to be doing that and I hope it works for your son and you.
My best wishes go out to you all.

morethan2, thank you for your good wishes. I am envious of you, we have learned a good deal about wines over the years and developed a good palate. Now we're turning those tasting skills to chocolate and coffee! C'est la vie.

Annsixty, you don't need to apologise, and your response is so kind. My son has been in recovery for nearly 2 years now.

Your son is very brave to face up to it and very determined to keep at it.
It must take courage and strength.
Very best wishes to him.

Oh, hardly ever. Only when I've run out of port, brandy, sherry, and stout!

Lol Paddyann and Winterwhite!

There are so many reasons people don't drink. I've always had a feeling that those who are rude to non-drinkers probably have some sort of problem themselves.

I think it's good for young people to be around adults who drink in moderation, as well as learning the many reasons why people might not drink.

For me it's about the taste of things. I really don't see the difference between enjoying varied flavours in food & appreciating drinks for the same reason.

One of my favourite artists, Sickert, said that alcohol should only be allowed to those who can do without it; interesting point.

Am I alone in finding the information about GP's mentally doubling what they're told disturbing? That's very sweeping, patronising, and shows a dangerous lack of trust. Doctors should have the sense to be aware of signs of a problem, and to know if the patient seems like someone who might cover up, but the assumption's not good. Imagine a doctor assuming their patients in general - not just an individual one - do drugs even if they say they don't, or have manic tendencies even though there may be absolutely no sign of it? It's an abuse of their position, it's shoddy thinking, and it's a gutter mentality. It's the mentality of someone overly-guided by guidelines!

I'm one the brandy-&-ginger fans. Also love a drop of brandy in a glass of orange juice.

The 'excess' mentality of the age seems to have pervaded drink, or perhaps I'm being overly cranky. When I was growing up it was all quite reasonable and understood (there are always some exceptions, of course) - 'a little of what you fancy' - and self-control was part of everything. Just the size of the wine glasses that are popular now say it all.

(N.B. to any GN'ers who might have huge enormous wine glasses: I'm not criticising you personally ... as someone on GN you're automatically exempt from the 'can't understand moderation' set!)

I forgot who offered the Madeira, but I shall certainly join you, m'dear!

NanaMcGeek, I'm so very sorry. I try to read posts fairly carefully before I pop in but somehow missed yours. Don't blame yourself. There's often no apparent rhyme or reason why people end up with any sort of addiction.

Young people today are under so much pressure - not necessarily from parents. The economy, jobs market, all sorts of things. It's a very frightening world in which to be young. Please don't think it's anything you may have done. I'm so very sorry I didn't read more carefully as what you and your family are going through is incredibly difficult. Quite apart from feeling guilty, look at it the other way and think of what you've done and are doing for your DS. Many parents either turn a permanently blind eye or spurn children who develop addiction. You sound more like a role model than someone to blamed. Best of luck to you and your family.

I rarely drink wine. The odd small glass of Damson gin of an evening.
If I go out my preferred tipple is usually a 330ml bottle of the Italian beer Peroni, which I really do like. I don't drink red wine it gives me a headache. A light white wine is about my limit these days.

OH belongs to a wine club and orders wine by the case. He'd drink a few glasses with food every night but we had a chat about it and now only drink alcohol from Friday night until Sunday night and have the other days of the week alcohol free. I never drink when the grandchildren stay over of if I am likely to be needed to help out. I am happy with sparkling water, hating most soft drinks as they are too sweet. I do enjoy a crisp dry white though. In our house a bottle of wine only holds three glasses. Not good.

I usually have a small glass while cooking the dinner. Dh used to have a large glass of red every night, but gave it up when he was trying (successfully!) to lose weight.

I usually prefer a white, pref. NZ Sauvignon Blanc, and because unless we have guests it's just me, I will only buy the bottles with screw caps - one in the fridge lasts me quite a while.

Just to add, my dd has never been much of a drinker, but recently while playing with the toy kitchen at nursery, Gdd (2 and 3/4) was asked by one of the staff what she was doing in her kitchen.

'I'm having a glass of wine.' (!)

Must surely have come from Granny, since I do often take and cook the dinner when visiting!

I feel I must reiterate for those who haven't read the whole thread and think I am a lush with no regrets or knowledge of the danger of alcohol, my H has Alzheimer's, I deal with the situation on my own.
My D and S have complex problems of their own and I make it known to them that I am fine.
It is a hard and lonely job and a few glasses of wine, three evening a week, with a meal helps me cope and is the only thing we both have to look forward to.
I don't know why I need to justify myself but felt the need.

Having gone through so many years of dementia with both FiL and my mother, annsixty, would just like to say you have no need to justify a few glasses of wine to me.
Sending heartfelt sympathies.

Thankyou Witzend it is good when someone understands having dealt with it themselves.

Any wine kept for more than 2 days must be revolting. If I am going to have some left over (rare!) then I freeze it and keep it for cooking.

After my hip replacement my French surgeon post operative notes included drinking a glass of red wine everyday.

I am struggling to fit in the alcohol free day this week.

annsixty I don’t think anything you’ve posted suggests that you are a lush. A few glasses of wine a week isn’t a problem for most of us. It’s different if you start as soon as you get up or use as a constant crutch then you may very well have a problem. Perhaps I’ve misjudged this thread. I’ve treated it as lighthearted. The occasional wine is for me one of my life’s little pleasures. It’s almost the only adult pleasure I have and unless it impacts on my health (reflux/interferes with medications) I never intend to give it up.

annsixty You thoroughly deserve to try to relax with a couple of glasses of wine. I do the same. We have had a terrible few years and sometimes a glass or two of what we fancy can bring our stress levels right down. OK, I know it's not the answer and I know the dangers (my father was a violent alcoholic who gave his family a terrible time) but I think I know what I am doing. I have friends who tut-tut at anyone who enjoys a drink. I always think 'walk a mile in someone else's shoes' before you judge.

Drinking alcohol isn’t a big part of my life I enjoy some sparkles from time to time but that’s about it I just don’t have a taste for it. My in-laws however who are every day drinkers find this odd! They seem to think I am somehow depriving myself and make a big deal out of getting me to have a drink when I am with them. Just cannot understand how I can possibly not want a drink!

I drink wine on a Friday and Saturday. One bottle is never quite enough Both me and DH prefer red but I quite like a crisp dry white --if there's nothing else going--I avoid drinking on a school night as I would find it too hard to get up early for work and I never drink when I have the grandchildren.

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I don't know what Aldi is trying to tell us but for the third week in a row their wine shelves are practically empty shock

Only one bottle left of my favourite merlot which was at the back of the bottom shelf - so it stayed there.

No boxes of anything and although there was gin there was no slimline tonic.

I thought it was the customer who was supposed to be doing Dry January and Frugal February, not the supermarket!!

That's me on the naughty step then . I think I'll also keep my consumption quiet.

Was it you who bought up the entire stock in Aldi then, NannyTee?

Not me merlotgran. I buy the strawberry and cherry 9% wine. Tastes like juice