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Anniebach Sun 04-Feb-18 13:13:29

The inquest into my darling daughters death is on .Tuesday. I am not going. What can I expect? , have never attended one, didn't go to my husbands inquest . I am getting very anxious about it.

Sar53 Tue 06-Feb-18 12:49:31

Thinking of you flowers.

MissAdventure Tue 06-Feb-18 12:49:00

smile Annie.. X

JaneD3 Tue 06-Feb-18 12:43:56

Bless you Annie

Bookatbedtime Tue 06-Feb-18 12:40:57

flowers

Anniebach Tue 06-Feb-18 11:56:34

I am crying, not from grief but the kindness and caring you have all given me.

When I posted the day my darling daughter died I said she was my joy, my tears, my world. This was so true, I had no word from my sisters and they live in the same town, in this darkest time I have ever experienced I wanted to join my darling child, you reached out to me , you were with me as I arranged her funeral , you have been with me every step of the way, even in my 'meme threads.

you have shown all that is good in the world

I thank everyone of you

Annie x

Squiffy Tue 06-Feb-18 10:59:29

Thinking of you today Annie. Hoping that the outcome is one that will bring you some peace. ?

NanKate Tue 06-Feb-18 08:03:30

Thinking of you today Annie with so many other Gransnetters. ?

OldMeg Tue 06-Feb-18 07:59:18

Thinking of you today Annie

M0nica Tue 06-Feb-18 07:43:39

Annie, This time tomorrow the inquest will be behind you. My thoughts and prayers are with you today.

kittylester Tue 06-Feb-18 07:06:17

Thinking of you today Annie.

BlueBelle Tue 06-Feb-18 07:04:02

We re with you today Annie a big virtual handhold from us all xxx

Crafting Mon 05-Feb-18 23:55:10

annie another difficult day for you to get through. Thinking of you xxx

MissAdventure Mon 05-Feb-18 23:51:18

You'll be in my thoughts Annie. X

grannyqueenie Mon 05-Feb-18 23:47:32

Thinking of you tomorrow annie, so many unknowns to make a hard time even harder. x

cornergran Mon 05-Feb-18 23:36:00

I’ll be with you in spirit tomorrow annie as will many other people. I’m afraid you may never get the answers to your questions stay strong, tomorrow will soon be here and then gone.

Rosieroe Mon 05-Feb-18 23:11:53

Sending loving thoughts Anniebach. ?

I can understand your feelings towards the police for not telling you why they called with your daughter that night, and what happened. If they refuse to give you answers it sounds to me like a case for the Policing Ombudsman.

Cherrytree59 Mon 05-Feb-18 22:56:36

Annie flowers
I pray that you will find the strength to get through tomorrow xxxx

Auntieflo Mon 05-Feb-18 22:42:00

Annie, kind and loving thoughts to and for you, tonight and tomorrow especially. I know you will feel wound up and on edge, but remember all your friends on GN who will be wishing you well. Night, night, God bless.

Anniebach Mon 05-Feb-18 20:40:35

My daughter was chatting to her cousin at 9.00pm, at the end of the conversation she said - see you tomorrow. I don't know when she wrote the messages on the living room wall, she dated them 31st Oct, if she had the date right why didn't the police see four large messages each encircled , a small room in a cottage , if she had the date wrong then after the police called at 1.00am, she died just after five. There was no phone call made after 9, I have the itemised bill , this was very unusual. Three nights before she made three phone calls to the police , we don't know why. Will never know, doesn't help because I do not trust them .

Their statements for the coroner said their visit was unrelated to her death.

Yes please, kind thoughts tomorrow x

silverlining48 Mon 05-Feb-18 19:46:07

I know i would want an explanation from the police as to why they went to your daughters house at that late hour only a short time before your daughter so sadly died.
I dont understand why they they havnt especially given the tragic circumstances. Where is the compassion. ?Would this not form part of the inquest, i would have thought so.
We will all be thinking of you tomorrow. Bon courage anniebach..

Anniebach Mon 05-Feb-18 17:01:53

After reading the statements starbird we know from the man who tried to help her she didn't respond by word or any facial expression , she was blank then jumped . What will remain unknown is why police called at her house four hours before she went to the bridge, they said in a statement it was unrelated to her death but not why they were there at one in the morning .

starbird Mon 05-Feb-18 16:52:18

From what you’ve told us, no one can or will ever be sure exactly what happened. So whatever the Coroner says, it will just be his best judgement given the facts at his disposal, but there will be unknowns that he and you can only guess at. So whatever the verdict, the main thing is that it will draw a line under what happened. Everyone will move on with sadness and regrets, only time will gradually heal the pain of losing your daughter and make it a bit easier to bear. Like others I will be thinking of you. God be with you. ?

Anniebach Mon 05-Feb-18 16:49:09

He will not show emotion , we have given written statements and there was an interim death certificate last November , thank you Galen

Thank you Winterwhite x

If the local newspaper is there my son in law just wants to say my daughter was let down by the medical services, the coroner will not refer to this but the local rag certaintly will

Galen Mon 05-Feb-18 16:37:36

Sil should be allowed to speak. But tell him to keep it short and factual. Try not to get over emotional.
Best of the clerk is informed first that he wishes to speak. Any paper evidence should be submitted in advance if possible.
You may not get the verdict on the day, but should get an interim order to allow registration
My father was a deputy coroner for many years.
Hope this helps.

winterwhite Mon 05-Feb-18 16:11:03

Oh, Anniebach, how very harsh about the mental illness. But your son -in-law and not-son-in-law will make sure that that's heard. Like everyone else on here, I'll be thinking of you. flowers