My flipping mother - again!!

My mother also died in February and throughout my life she always made me feel guilty. I don't know that I've even grieved for her and on here as Christmas looms i read of people missing loved ones who have died but I don't feel that so even in death she is making me feel guilty but it's very difficult when you are constantly told your brother is better than you and that the only reason she had children was so that they could look after her when she got older which is exactly what I did with no thanks only criticism.

I should have said that my brothers and I are fine - we got back together to look after mum.

I've chuntered about this so often that I think everyone knows our history.

Eazybee and i had the same thought.

That is very sad kitty. Is it too late to invite your family over for tea or something sometime and then they meet your children and gcs.?
I havnt seen my brothers children and gc for many years abd tgere is littke if any contact between the cousins.
I am used to it now but it must be hard if there is another sibling where there is contact.
Try not to stew about it as i am sure you have enough going on in your life.

Your mother has gone now. Could you not start afresh, and invite your brothers to your house for a new beginning?