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Nonnie Sat 16-Dec-17 11:51:29

Recently a friend complained to me about old people (she is 70) and how they only want to talk about themselves and never want to listen. How they are just thinking about what they want to say next and don't care what you are talking about. Maybe she is right? I do know people like that but not many - yet!

MissAdventure Sat 16-Dec-17 11:50:41

There is nothing more boring for me than listening to someone talking incessantly about their children or grandchildren. Of course, amongst my friends, I'm interested to know how everyone is, but there is a limit.

eazybee Sat 16-Dec-17 11:45:46

You won't stop her.
I suffer the same with my friends, and having no grandchildren, or a phone full of pictures, I can't bore back, even if I wanted to. Having endured all the pictures of first day at school I now am treated to pictures of the school concert, the Christmas jumper, the Christmas party, to be followed by full coverage of Christmas Day. Oh Joy.
One friend is still blindly extolling the virtues of her twenty-two year-old grandson, with full complement of pictures of his finals exhibition; he would have got a First, except that he didn't hand his work in on time. Apparently.

Eglantine21 Sat 16-Dec-17 11:25:57

I'll go and peek in the Kitchen now. A boredom shared is a boredom halved!

annsixty Sat 16-Dec-17 11:20:59

I have been coping with this now with one friend for over 40 years. It used to be her C and now it is her GC.
I now only see her when others are going to be there, and it is mainly on 3 birthdays.
I was out with her on Thursday of this week and posted in Soops kitchen if you want all the boring details.

Eglantine21 Sat 16-Dec-17 10:59:35

I'm feeling ruffled by a visit to an old friend. She used to be so interesting and lively and meeting up was always good fun.
I hate to say it, but since she became a Granny she doesn't seem interested in anything except her two daughters and their children. I have waited for that "first flush" to die down but the oldest is six now and actually it's become worse. Even if the conversation starts about something else it always comes back to her family and in endless detail.
This time she had her phone beside her and the Whatsapp messages and pictures were flying back and forth so she could tell me what everybody was doing in real time as well as what they had been doing in the last few weeks. grin
I was so bored I could have poked my eyes out!
Should I say anything to her? Is there a way of doing it nicely or am I just bound to offend?
I could just put up with it ( like I did with my MIL and her operation!) but it doesn't really feel like a friendship anymore.