lunch

My husband stands looking lost, what is there to eat ?...........anything you want, feel free.

And me it seems, Christinefrance. In the last few years my DH has discovered he enjoys cooking, and does just about all of ours, three meals a day. He’s a very good cook too - yesterday he produced a lovely dinner from a Yotam Ottelenghi recipe he spotted in the weekend papers, which would have been far too faffy and involved for me to attempt. If he’s not around I’m happy to graze from whatever’s handy if I’m hungry midday.

I do do other things!

Bit of a generalisation MesMopTop there are lazy women too, reading some of these posts it seems I am one of them.

Tell him to get up off his backside and go make it. Some men are incredibly lazy. I work full time, shift eork, and it's hard going. Him indoors doesn't work but there are days I could vheerfully choke him. He's done nothing all day except watch TV and play on his phone. Told him I was quite happy to continue to work but that he had better pull his finger out and do his share. I am not prepared to work my backside off outside and inside. He was good for a bit, now he's slavked off again. What works when this happens is that I leave him s list of things to do. He knows that if he pushes my patience far enough he will be "fired". I am not his mother and as an adult I sm perfectly entitled to demand that he fulfills his part of the agreement. Sorry for sounding off but sometimes men and their excuses make me do angry. They know they're being lazy chancers. If they were as lazy as that at work it wouldn't be long till they were fired. Mine has better watch his step or he will be looking for a new job soon.

I usually make fresh soup in the morning for lunch and make open sandwiches or pasta salad for OH ,I dont mind at all doing all the cooking ,in fact I dont like anyone in my kitchen EVER .They put stuff in the wrong places and mess with my organisation.So all the cooking (cleaning,washing ,ironing etc etc ) is down to me .OH has his own talents ,we make a very good team ,each to their own .

Far North. Interesting question which I pondered on for a few minutes to analyse. We shop together and have a conversation about meals for the coming week, and have an equal interest in our food. He cooks several times a week. I should have said 3 meals have to be thought about.

We usually sort our own lunch and breakfast and I cook dinner because I enjoy doing it. There is always cheese and ham in the fridge, homemade soup in the freezer and usually a small quiche from the butcher frozen too.

Not retired yet but I work from home and DH is at home on 2 weekdays now. We only eat our evening meal together- like Grannyhaggis- otherwise sort ourselves out except for high days and holidays!

DH and I eat different things at different times so we get our own meals. The only times I cook for us both and we eat together are Saturday evening and Sunday lunch. Works for us.

I have one who is simply not interested in food and can’t be bothered to look for it if it is there. When I went out for the day recently, I left him cold meat and salad in the fridge and told him it was there. When I came home and asked him what he had eaten, he said “I had a slice of toast.” I asked him why he didn’t eat what I had left him. He said he didn’t think to look for it! If I died tommorrow, he would starve to death in a week.

HeyHo I am in your situation so understand everything you say and it is very hard, but I won't mow the lawn, the back lawn is at least 5 ins high and can carry on if I cannot get any one to do it.
Incidentally my H has never cooked me a meal in all of our married life. It is women's work.

Be thank ful you are not in my situation. I would love my other half to be interested in Lunch or whatever, but he has got dementia and I am home all day, every day with him.. and I do everything from mowing the lawn, to putting out the rubbish, to food shopping to, well, you get the idea...

I just make sure we have stuff in and he knows what there is and he gets whatever he fancies, as I do. I cook most evenings, which I don't mind.

Have you tried talking to him rather than to us?

Oh dear now I feel really guilty. My husband does lunch and the evening meal every day. I just ask where it is. Works for us

thanks for replies, and Nonnie I have had that conversation before, maybe need to do it again!

I wouldn’t dream of making lunch for mine. He’s lucky if he gets his dinner cooked. He’s got two arms and two legs the same as me and is perfectly capable of sorting himself out. I can’t understand women who run around after their husbands tending to their every need as if they are either slightly simple or they’re overgrown children!

If I suggest a refresher course to DH his eyes will light up because he'll think I mean refreshment course.

Alima, when are you taking bookings for the refresher course? .

We do our own breakfast and I usually sort our lunch but if he is hungry before me he will willingly do his own and mine if I want him to. He only ever has a sandwich and crisps if I want something different I'll do it myself. He does cook some evenings but has a limited repertoire.

We sort out our own breakfasts and lunches - this was never discussed it just happened. I cook dinner every night except on Saturdays and that's when my husband cooks. This suits us both. If we go out shopping and eat lunch out I don't cook in the evening and we forage for ourselves later on when we are hungry.

DH takes charge of breakfast and morning coffee when he is able, I generally cook our evening meal, and whoever gets hungry first makes lunch. As he is always ready by mid day, I get to choose if I join him or make my own later.

This has never been an issue for us. Either of us will make the sarnies, DH mostly because he will turn the radio onto one of the old comedy shows to listen to whilst preparing them. Sounds like some husbands have not been trained were well, maybe send them on a refresher course?

Heck, you guys!
We are both around quite often here, and I may prepare something if I’m hungry and offer him something.
I might just as easily say, would you mind doing some lunch for me I’m starving and can’t be bothered today, he will oblige as fairs fair.
It all eventually evens out. But I refuse to be a servant ?

Men aren't good at taking hints. A straight out request or instruction is usually needed.

pension pat, why did you have to start thinking about 3 meals while, presumably, your DH gave it no thought at all?