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Giving comfort

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Nannarose Sun 24-Sept-17 08:57:32

Some people don't like having arms flung round them - if you can intuit what to do, then fine, otherwise hand over tissues, possibly put the kettle on, and wait for the storm to pass.
And like kitty above, I think people confide in the person they trust most to listen and / or help, so don't feel you should act out of character.

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kittylester Sun 24-Sept-17 08:53:10

I'm sure you did fine or she wouldn't have allowed herself to confide in you.

Listening empathetically is the key, I think. It's difficult not to try to mend things but, as that is impossoble, just listening is the way to go.

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overthehill Sun 24-Sept-17 08:46:50

How good are you at offering comfort to someone in distress?

After an encounter with a neighbour recently who broke down in tears due to her many problems, I realised how rubbish I am at giving comfort.

Some people can throw their arms around the distressed, but I find it awkward. Members of the family no problem but not others.

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