Vaguely disgruntled

I would have spoken my mind and said "If you had told me this was a Bible Study recruitment drive I wouldn't have come. I think religion is irrational and divisive and hope society will become more secular! You have wasted your hospitality on me."

quizqueen That's an interesting point of view. Why do you think the world would be worse off without religion?

I am too an atheist and I believe that the world would be an infinitely better place without any religion at all. You don't need a faith to have a moral compass, despite what many faiths would have you believe. Words can't describe how truly magnificent the world is and you don't need religion to have a deep appreciation of it.

You also don't need religion to hold meaningful weddings, funerals or any other celebrations.

As this get together was organised by a' friend' of a friend
was your friend also present.?
Whether she was or not I would be inclined to ask her if she was aware of what the motive was as it appears to me there was a motive for this tea partyt

Oriel Many folk get comfort from religion. Only when it becomes an obsession, and far removed from its intentions does it become dangerous but then hadn't the mind already been infected by other sources to allow this to happen? So why blame religion.

Not exactly "Christian" behaviour to invite you to what you were led to believe was a purely social occasion, and then to be subjected to what was in fact a form of marketing, albeit both religious and soft-sell. You were lured there under false pretences, and I personally would be quite angry about that, and would have left before the "message" was delivered. Very bad form.

Sarah

Yes, folk find solace in lots of things that's fine when they keep it to themselves. What isn't fine is when they try to impart their comforting experiences onto other people whether they like it or not.

I don't understand what you mean about infected minds. Are you referring to religious extremists?

You will know for next time. I hate being invited in the hope that I will convert /sponsor / purchase but that is life.

I am a Christian but find this unacceptable and wouldn't be. Party to it. If people are invited to something in a church they know what is involved and are free to accept or refuse. But a tea party is different. Is it possible that your friend knew what was planned and did not pass it on?

I too am a Christian but would never do this, although I know one or two people who probably would. Parties at our house just mean good food, plenty of booze and hopefully good company

like the last two ladies I too am a Christian and find it unacceptable not to be forewarned, although I do find some folks reactions a bit extreme. I'm sure that the motives of the church ladies were good and maybe the message about the event was not passed on? It sounded like rather a gentle evangelising occasion, as Eglantine says she was asked 'nicely'. I wouldn't feel used Eglantine, but I agree with someone else that maybe you should go back and explain your feelings. I'm glad you enjoyed most of the occasion.

Just what I thought too catlover123 and in fact perhaps everybody bar the OP actually knew about it.It was up to the aqaintance who did the inviting to tell you about the Christian aspect of the day, and she certainly should have done.
I enjoy listening to all talks and on different faiths too, so would have found it interesting, but would have said no thank you to invitations to bible study groups.

I like the word disgruntled.?

Phoenix
I'm howling with laughter. Made my day ?

How sneaky, I would have felt used.

Friends of ours are evangelical Christians and they do try to proselytize. They've given up on us and DH has taken to wearing a Thor's Hammer.

I can't say I'd feel upset. It's not like they compelled you to do anything, but there again, I don't find people talking about their faith objectionable. Yes, you could have been warned but in actual fact, it could have been an opportunity to meet up with others and possibly find a common interest. I've found that at similar gatherings whether I decided to go to the Bible Study sessions or not.
Amway products-that's a different matter. Pyramid selling is evil and we were invited by a 'friend' to an 'evening get together with friends' where the sales pitch started almost as soon as we got in through the door, with the message that 'they felt we were the sort of people who would like to improve our lives and those of others'. We politely said that the best way we could do that was to leave, and warn others about the dangers involved, and left. The 'friend' took offence and cut us from her list - no great loss.

Absolute cheek, I would have made my excuses and left. How rude not to tell you at the time of asking, devious to say the least.

I'm with adaunas. You enjoyed most of it so that's good. I'm a practising Catholic and this evangelising tactic doesn't appeal to me in the least but I don't think I'd feel used by it. Just tell your friend you don't want to be invited to any more of these gatherings.

I would have been annoyed too , why do these people think it is OK to push their beliefs onto others ? I am an Atheist and would have told them what I thought in no uncertain terms .

I would have just enjoyed the cake and allowed everyone their opinions. I don't 'do' religion but have friends who do so I try to live and let live without getting into heated discussions. Anything with cake can't be all bad.

Like Carol954 I'm a practising Catholic. My faith is central to my life and I love to discuss questions of belief and the meaning of life with others when the occasion naturally arises in the course of conversation. But I'm very uncomfortable with attempts like these to evangelise under false pretences, however well-intentioned. You should have been told in advance the nature of the occasion, though it's possible that the information wasn't passed on to you by mistake. I think it would be good if you could give the organiser(s) your feedback. It might help them to rethink their approach to any future events and make you feel better about the whole thing.

Well, like I said a few posts ago it was probably my ego that took a bashing. I suppose I wondered whether friend actually likes my company or just sees me as a soul to be saved. And felt that somehow I and the other ladies must have been the subject of some discussion to decide who to invite. Weird how things can touch on your own insecurities!
I don't think the other ladies on my table knew either. Our conversation had trended much more towards Phoenixtype subjects!
However, once assorted members of GN had made me laugh I was soothed as requested! The cake was excellent after all and it could have been Timeshare!

Yes, looking at things from the other side... I wonder how they decided on likely candidates.

They must have spent hours planning their sting. Seating to be decided, positioning of the plant who was suddenly going to 'share all' , the pre-arranged signal of the leaflet drop. Such a smooth outfit!

Its hilarious!

If they'd said before had that there would be a bit of a discussion about the bible it would have been fine. I could cope happily with that. I love a good discussion. But it was underhand and that I don't like, I'd have felt betrayed.

(I'm a sort of agnostic Christian with Budist leanings and a touch of pagan. In other words, I live as good a life as I can and I'll find out when I get there. If I get anywhere.)

I think the evangelising under the guile of a tea party was underhand, I'd have been cross to have been invited to an event under false pretences. I'm a practising Catholic, I'm in a Bible group that meets from time to time for short courses of 4 to 6 weeks but I would never try to get people to come to it under false pretences. Were there any recruits for the Bible group?

Even as a practising Christian this sort of thing makes me horribly uncomfortable. I agree it is a dreadfully sneaky way to behave. If you had been invited openly to a tea party cum prayer meeting, you could have said no thanks, or asked if it was all right if you left before the evangelising started.

I suppose your hostess and her like minded friends see this kind of behaviour as a way of doing their Christian duty. Frankly I think they are going the wrong way to work, but that is just my opinion.

I have actually not only had this kind of sneaky behaviour from various people of different religious observations, but also from politically minded acquaintances or complete strangers for that matter, h*ll bent on enrolling me in a political party that I would never dream of considering.

There is only one thing to do, leave and according to temperament either thank the hostess politely or give vent to the fact that you feel an attempt has been made to con you.