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fiorentina51 Fri 14-Apr-17 06:14:35

Vafanculo
Interesting choice of name!

Re the hand down your cleavage, I think a firm but gentle "no" and removal of said hand. Also try distraction techniques.

Mapleleaf Thu 13-Apr-17 21:39:22

I agree with*Ana*. Don't let them stick their hands down your cleavage! They need to know what is and what is not acceptable behaviour. They are probably very young, but even so, need to be taught the boundaries - in a nice way, of course.

thatbags Thu 13-Apr-17 21:36:50

x posts, ana. Same message.

thatbags Thu 13-Apr-17 21:36:16

Tricky one, vafanculo. Perhaps just remove the hand from inside your clothing straight away and keep doing that. I don't think you need to 'explain' to small children but you can 'show' them that you don't want them to do that by stopping them when they do it.

Ana Thu 13-Apr-17 21:34:31

Tell them you don't want them to stick their hands down your cleavage - I'm surprised you've let it go on for so long!

I'm in the same position in that I've had a mastectomy and wear a prosthesis in my bra. You are entitled to set limits for your own privacy.

vafanculo Thu 13-Apr-17 21:25:10

I had a right side mastectomy 12 years ago and wear a silicon prosthesis in a normal bra.
I also wear normal clothes with V or sometimes square necklines as these styles suit me better than high /round necks. Also I hate the trapped feeling high necks give me.

The problem I have is that my small grandchildren like to pull at the neckline of tops and will sometimes stick their hands down my cleaveage. They then encounter a very strange boob and look at me questioningly. The older ones have tried to pull the boob out and I divert their attention -successfully so far.

But any idea how I explain what the 'thing' is doing down grandmas top? How did it get there and why

I dont want to say the wrong thing and either make them more inquisitive or scared.