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"We just have to count it as another day done towards the healing", I said once again to DH. "It has been 48 so far", he replied.

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Christinefrance Mon 20-Mar-17 07:52:24

Not at all pathetic synonymous, its been a big upheaval and trauma for both of you. Don't try to do everything, basics only and get help in the short term at least. Better to take things slowly and make a good recovery than trying to do too much and relapsing.
You will get there don't worry flowers

MawBroon Mon 20-Mar-17 07:32:30

You have been through a lot synonymous and people are not always aware of the cost in stress, mental and physical strain of the person or people "around" the patient.
Of course I am delighted for you and him that he is gradually on the mend, but when people ask "How is he!" they should also be asking "How are YOU?"
Hang on in there, you are not being pathetic at all and your reaction is entirely understandable especially to any parent or partner of someone who has experienced major trauma. flowers

Anya Mon 20-Mar-17 07:23:26

Thank goodness you still have him and he's mending. We can all feel 'pathetic' and have a good howl sometimes, often with less reason that you have.

I hope it's been cathartic and you are feeling a bit more positive now it's morning (((hugs)))

ninathenana Mon 20-Mar-17 06:49:21

I have no insight or advice but I just wanted to wish him well and hope he continues to recover well.
flowers for you too.

cornergran Mon 20-Mar-17 06:31:19

That sounds so frightening and worrying, synonymous, pleased your husband is on the mend but the time shortly after discharge can be a worrying and exhausting one, it perhaps doesn't feel totally safe. It isn't unusual to react when things are getting better. You are allowed to howl, the fear has to come out somehow, I hope you both have some help, if your husband has been your carer do you need some professional help in the short term? Otherwise take up any offer of practical help from family, friends or neighbours whether to pick up a newspaper, cut the grass or put the rubbish out. Being at home with you will help him hugely but if you can encourage your husband to be honest about how he is feeling you will worry less, Should either of you be worried then do seek medical help. No one will mind. It's been a horrid time, be kind to yourself now, hoping he is so much better very soon.

Synonymous Mon 20-Mar-17 00:41:57

I didn't realise I was being so repetitive!
We were commiserating with each other over just how tired we both are following a bad car smash where DH was the meat in the sandwich. He was badly injured and I am so grateful that I still have him. Battered, bones broken and horribly bruised but thankfully very much alive. Everyone involved in the aftermath has been wonderful and he has been well looked after.
I feel he came home a bit sooner than he should have done just looking at it from the physical side of things and really being able to manage but I know he was desperate to get home and so mentally it was really good for him to be discharged.
He has been my carer for the last few years so it is very difficult all round. I have, at long last, now had a good howl and am feeling really pathetic. hmm