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In praise of friends

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whitewave Sat 25-Feb-17 09:51:08

I have written on the Good Morning thread that my best friend is dying, and not expected to last today. Yesterday I went to say my goodbye and today I am reflecting on her friendship over 30 years and friendship in general.

Friends stick with you through thick and thin.
Friends are recipients of your thoughts on any private and personnal difficulties you may be having and provide support and love
Friends laugh with you and share your joy at what is good in life
Friends share your love of (in my case) art and the theatre
Friends share your love of good food and explore new restaurants and new food with you
Friends share plants and cutting from the garden
Friends watch your back
Friends never forget to ask how you are doing
Friendship survives differences in political outlook.
Friendship just is.

albertina Sun 26-Feb-17 19:23:10

Whitewave I am so sorry to hear your news.It must be heartbreaking for you.

Beside my keyboard I have a coaster that says "Between me and insanity stands my friends" and over the years it has proved so true.

One of my friends started school the same day as me, we have been pals for 62 years. She lives a long way away, but we chat on the phone, meet up when we can and send each other silly texts. She is a rock in my life.

I wish you well. Cake and wine are lovely and there for a reason just like this one, so enjoy.

Rinouchka Sun 26-Feb-17 19:36:13

ww what a lovely evocation of friendship! Have only just had the chance to read this through and learn of your friend's death.
Do pass on your thoughts to her family and be there for them, as I am sure you plan to be.
Hugs to you. I have been there, too. flowers

stillaliveandkicking Sun 26-Feb-17 20:26:49

Oh OP I'm so so sorry. I love my best friend for over 40 years more than I love most of my family and would be totally bereft without her.

gagsy Sun 26-Feb-17 22:14:00

I too had such a friend. I travelled by trains and buses to say goodbye to her in the hospice and to thank her for her wonderful friendship. Other friends said how could you go all that way just to spend a few minutes with her and than come home again, but to me that was a journey I was so glad to have taken.

FlorenceFlower Fri 24-Mar-17 13:11:11

Dear Whitewave

So sorry, hope you are beginning to feel better. A difficult loss, friends can be wonderful and special.

A very dear friend died of cancer over 20 years ago when we were both 40. I still think of her, and miss her.

Do keep all the good memories. ?

ginny Fri 24-Mar-17 13:40:53

Sorry to hear your sad news.

whitewave Fri 24-Mar-17 14:37:24

Thank you to everyone. Gill's funeral was a week ago now, and it is astounding how quickly time goes. I drove past her house today feeling so sad, but the absolute rawness is gone now and I can now think of her (usually) without tears and sometimes with a smile.

Cherish your friends folks