I think we all get times like this ,my OH says that we all get the same amount of luck ,good and bad ,just at different times ,so some folk look as if life is always good and then there are the rest of us who at times appear to lurch from one crisis to another.The important thing is we usually manage to get through these awful times ,I know we did ,but if you stay "strong" while its all going on sometimes when its all done and dusted you then fall apart.Thats quite normal so having your wee rant is helpful it means you're not building up for a meltdown when everything calms down.My daughter was in a violent relationship too,and it was the most difficult time of OUR lives because we couldn't make her see sense and she kept going back to him.I am so pleased your daughter has taken the legal route and will be free of the "man" take time for and be kind to yourself for she'll need your support in months to come