Photos of DGC on social media

I think there is a total paranoia about paedophiles salivating over every picture of a child they ever come across, even if the child is bundled up in bed clothes to the neck.

Of course everyone should steer clear of posting pictures of children in any state of nakedness or in poses that could in anyway be considered provocative but recently DS posted a picture of DGS dressed as a bear in an old adult fake fur jacket, furry bear hood with ears, pulled well over his face, and clawlike bear gloves and slippers. He was only recognisable if you looked hard and already knew and loved him dearly.is that really going to get anyone hot under the collar?

As for me, I hate having my photo taken but if anyone gets one I am utterly indifferent to what happens to it afterwards. I am not my photograph.

I have said elsewhere that I only have Facebook so I can "stalk" my late brother's children otherwise I have very little idea if they are alive and solvent. I do this every so often usually on my parents ' anniversaries. I am amazed how much they divulge on their Facebook accounts. And I know Facebook must read my emails as people I email suddenly pop up as Facebook friends. I once emailed Hanoikids when I was going there and now have a dozen or so people in Hanoi offering friendship!

I feel exactly the same, auntieflo
I absolutely hate the thought of my picture being put up on Facebook. (Though I don't know why anyone would!)
I hate having my photo taken at the best of times, and the thought of it "going public" is horrific, especially without being consulted.

In future I will be more circumspect when it comes to putting photos of my DGC on my Facebook page, although none of them could be deemed in any way provocative. Some of these posts are scaring me! I would actually hate any photos of myself on FB, especially now that I am 'mature' with all the warts and wrinkles that go with it.

My bro does not want his grandchildren on fb so I abide by this. I post my own grandkids ones but I select them carefully. Only friends and family but I choose very innocuous ones

I wouldn't dream of posting photos of my g/kids despite having very tight security settings. I see many posts popping up on my timeline of strangers' photos that one of my family have posted a comment on!

I thought it was a parent's job to embarrass their children at some point! I'm sure we've all done it.
I do agree that we've gone PC mad and it's ridiculous in most cases. I remember a few years ago a TV presenter was prosecuted for taking naked photos of her 2(?) year old in the bath into Boots to be developed and Boots reported her to the Police. Stupid. We have to be so sensitive to anything and everything these days, it makes you wonder how the world has survived as long as it has without the "benefits" of PCism.

My DL doesn't want me to put photos of the grandchildren online, and actually I agree. Who knows who is looking at them! I do send them sometimes in private messages.

My DD and SIL have insisted that photos of our grandchildren should not be posted to FB or any other social media site. As grannyJillyT says, we don't know who is looking at these photos. Although privacy settings can be put in place, once photos are in the public domain hackers have ways round these settings and who knows where these photos of innocent children end up, I dread to think.

I think it's less to do with paranoia and more to do with common sense and respect, imho. Personally, I've never understood the obsession with taking photos, and I most definitely can't understand the obsession with posting photos online, regardless of whom they are of.

The one thing I really dislike is going about my business, perhaps helping out at an event or something, and having a bloody camera thrust in my face. Why do people assume it's ok? It's not. It's rude and disrespectful.

The other thing I detest is for an unsolicited picture to appear on FB "tagged" with my identity. How rude is that! Why can't people just respect another person's right to privacy?

Actually, I think older people are far more thoughtless about posting pictures on FB than the younger generation. Youngsters have grown up with technology and are educated into the pitfalls in a way our generation isn't.

I avoid FB like the plague and if I want to share photos, I do so via Whatsapp, email or text. Simples.

Woops.....bad grammar there!! must try harder.

Yes gettingonabit I was about to mention WhatsApp for sharing photos. This is what we do. Create a family only site, invite the people we want to see the photos and post them there. I think this is secure.

I'm not allowed to put any photos of my grandchildren on social media. My DiL is worried that they might be accessed and circulated inappropriately!

There many sick people out there who have weird fantasies, you would have no idea what they would do with a photo of your grandchild and i wont even go into that but ask yourself this do you want some sick sad person sat in front of their computer pleasuring themselves in front of a snap of your Grandchild ? yes it happens, ask anyone who works to prevent online abuse if they post photos, the answer will be a definite no.

I would never post photos of my GCs. Employers look up those applying for jobs and it is better that they find nothing of my GCs. I would have hated knowing there were photos of me online when I was thirteen when everything embarrassed me!
I wish people would realise that their beautiful gorgeous babies and toddlers will eventually be adults.

Just out of interest, how is an employer going to find photos of a possible employee when they were a baby?

And why on earth would they want to - what could they tell about their suitability for the job by how cute they looked in their high chair when they were 18 months old?

What MargaretX said is best remembered and done.

I think children have every right to be cross when you put pictures of them on the internet without their consent. I remember on the news one day that a little boy was very unhappy because his Mother put one of him (as Mother's do because they want to show the world what a wonderful little person they are) on the internet. What happened was that some of the children in his class saw it and made fun of him, giving him marks out of ten and he didn't get many marks, which made him upset. So sad.

I know Mothers love to show off their children, but in this day and age who knows what might happen to those photographs. They could be shared around by weirdoes and no-one wants that. Not all Mothers are careful about security and who sees what.

MissAdventure, Probably it didn't matter when you were young because there might not have been an internet then? I was never asked either, but I would have said 'NO' because I do not like having my photograph taken at the best of times. Not that I have two heads or anything, I just blink, or look like a rabbit in the headlights.

Especially dangerous I think are the maps on Facebook telling the world where you are and what you are doing, and also where you live! Also never put on there that you are going away for two weeks holiday! You might find when you come back that the house has been ransacked. Not safe, and Facebook should have known better.

Keep your little ones safe and that means on line too.

Another God send (Satan sent)gadget for paedos is the 'phone with video. Imagine what kind of things one of these creatures could take and enjoy in his dark place.

Has anyone heard of dropbox? You can share your pictures of family on there in safety.

Sorry to harp on but how will you feel if your child's photo starts appearing here there and everywhere? Facebook have copyright to all photos they say so you could not object What would you say to your child when they come home crying because some bully has had a go at them because of what you put on the internet? It might be ok by you, but what about the feelings and protection of your children?

I know I'm not as cute as a kid, but I walked past a newly opened charity shop, and there was a picture of me (along with other photos) in the window, to show people where the money raised goes!
It must have been taken years ago, when I was at a club for adults with disabilities. No permission, nothing!

Hi, I know that schools are very strict about not taking photos of children at things like carol concerts or sports day, as some parents object to it, although a blind eye is turned when taking photos of your own.
I often put photos of my 7 DGC on FB, but the controls are very tight on my Settings. I have to say I am not aware of anyone who does not do this, so I would relax, we have so much to worry about nowadays, unless the parents have specifically asked you not to put photos up, I think you can rest easy.

Ana, my DIL most certainly does ask people to take photos of her DS down or at least black him out. It has caused a lot of ill-feeling within the family as they think she is a control freak but she says it is up to him if he wants his picture displayed and he is too young to say at the moment. My other DIL is exactly the same. They both worked in childcare so I wondered whether that had influenced them.
Neither mind us sending each other photos but just don't want them on Social Media. I once opened an account on Flickr thinking that would be ok but apparently not. I adore my DGC and love to show them off but would sooner have a good relationship with the DILs than make a fuss about it.

Both my daughter and one of my sons frequently post photos, some of which are less than flattering ones of me. I don't really mind though I would prefer some of the worst ones to remain out of public view. One of the worst was not posted by the family but a Swedish friend, who posted a photo of me in a Tunisian hospital bed with my leg in traction. I didn't even know she had taken it, let alone posted it on FB. ?