My husband is definitely not deaf!!

No other half, however belong to an Art Circle where it became grossly apparent that a male member could never follow conversations, eventually was cajoled to go for hearing tests at a hospital where a growth was discovered, without the test it would have continued to grow. Hearing loss maybe that you lose for instances the 's' and 't', so yes on first time round it would come through incomplete but when repeated the hearer may be able to fill in gaps. I started to wear a hearing aid when 'on the cusp' of needing one, as I was listening to people on the phone intending to end their lives, it was important that I missed nothing. The earlier you use a hearing aid the better the brain adapts. If you choose not to wear one, the brain will cease to recognise unheard sounds forever. If you put your hearing aid in as part of getting up for the day, each and everyday the easier it becomes to recognise voices amongst a hubbub. So please try to go for it, so you and partners can become part of the world fully. Enjoy, but I do not relish your struggle.

I have the same problem with mine. Sometimes I make a point of saying some thing like "would you like a coffee, would you like a coffee" and don't give him the chance of asking me to repeat it as I already have. It works every time cos I know that he's heard me the first time and it's a habit that makes him think he hasn't.

So true, DH can't hear me when I speak right next to him, but can hear me quietly break wind at the other end of the house!

Same here .I 'mumble/speak too quietly' (the only other person who says I speak quietly is a friend with hearing dificulties she admits to). Won't go for hearing tests. Has happily worn glasses since he was 5.
I suppose it's yet another dispiriting acknowledgement of getting older
DDs agree. I might get them on the case

I believe it is a 'man thing'?
My late DH could in my words 'switch off' and still watch his football while pandemonium reigned in our household when kids were arguing and I would say to him 'ARE YOU DEAF?.

As well as having selective hearing I'm convinced my DH has some degree of hearing impairment but totally refuses to have a hearing
test.

IT'S VERY ANNOYING ..... Sorry I'm shouting again!

I've lost quite a bit of my hearing helped on by chemotherapy which took most of the hearing from my left ear. I find it really difficult and feel that I'm such a nuisance as I have to keep getting people to repeat things. Am trying to be more assertive about it but it's hard. I do wear a badge sometimes saying that I'm had of hearing but haven't found that it helps very much as no one seems to see it. A previous poster mentioned that she wasn't embarrassed by the technology. Do you use anything other than hearing aids?

jusnoneed Get OH to have a hearing test. One of the benefits of a hearing aid is that as well as improving hearing they can help blot out tinnitus. Maybe a selling point for him. Good luck.

I know the problem, all my friends and family mumble too. Even the TV sound quality isn't what it was

Oh, so familiar! I am another mumbler, translator service and reinforcer of the kitchen timer.

merlotgran I just might adopt your idea in a slightly different way and use ear defenders instead. Not subtle but hopefully effective and might help avert all the headaches from the constant high volume.

Another mumbler here, grandchildren just shout "Granddad" at the top of their voices to get his attention, they have done this since they first could speak without being told to do so.

Strugglinabit hubby uses headphones and subtitles for the tv. ot sits in the corner flickering away with the volume turned down to zero 18 hrs a day. He does not put the volume on as it "booms to much" at the volume he needs. ( I have a small bluetooth speaker on the couch behind me that I listen with)
I find I tend to shout at people as well cos I speak at home in a loud voice and still have to repeat everything.
Yes some of the conversations can be hilarious but at the same time annoyingly irritating.

I wear hearing aids. My hearing is ONLY faulty in the pitch of certain voices. Traffic noise, builders working, drilling, etc I can all hear perfectly! But voices, if there is background noise or if they aren't facing me, can be impossible. The hearing technician asked if I went to lots of noisy gigs as I started to go deaf in my 30s but I assured him I didn't. My mother went deaf young too so it is probably hereditary.

There is one thing though. I can claim to have told DH things I had forgotten to tell him and pretend he just didn't hear me

Why has my message come up 4 times???

I'm glad it's not just me then! I can almost guarantee that even sitting beside him on the settee he never seems to hear me the first time. I pretty well know that the reply I will get is "Eh?". I get so annoyed at times that I almost scream the bit he didn't hear. He isn't deaf and if we were somewhere where loud music was playing, like a disco at a party, he could hear the conversations OK whereas I found it difficult!

I'm glad it's not just me then! I can almost guarantee that even sitting beside him on the settee he never seems to hear me the first time. I pretty well know that the reply I will get is "Eh?". I get so annoyed at times that I almost scream the bit he didn't hear. He isn't deaf and if we were somewhere where loud music was playing, like a disco at a party, he could hear the conversations OK whereas I found it difficult!

I'm glad it's not just me then! I can almost guarantee that even sitting beside him on the settee he never seems to hear me the first time. I pretty well know that the reply I will get is "Eh?". I get so annoyed at times that I almost scream the bit he didn't hear. He isn't deaf and if we were somewhere where loud music was playing, like a disco at a party, he could hear the conversations OK whereas I found it difficult!

I'm glad it's not just me then! I can almost guarantee that even sitting beside him on the settee he never seems to hear me the first time. I pretty well know that the reply I will get is "Eh?". I get so annoyed at times that I almost scream the bit he didn't hear. He isn't deaf and if we were somewhere where loud music was playing, like a disco at a party, he could hear the conversations OK whereas I found it difficult!

Got tired of hearing the TV programme throughout the small bungalow - especially those sports presenters making time-filling small talk on their high salaries! Bought him headphones, he used them for a while. I now put on the sub-titles and hope for a more peaceful time.
He does were just one of his hearing aids, but it is tiring talking to him at high volume. The worst thing is - I am worried I will forever talk at high volume and friends/neighbours think I am an awful shouty woman when talking face to face with them - it becomes a habit!

that is so funny merlotgran, wearing your headphones, what a hoot! You made me laugh so much. Often when I am walking behind him somewhere in the garden or the driveway he will talk straight ahead of him, he doesn't turn around and talk to me, I can't hear what he is saying at all. Now I just say "ok. or right" It can be frustrating but now I just laugh to myself and have fun.

Another mumbler here. Apparently. ?

I am always in the wrong room or mumbling

DH has a very loud cough at the moment. It's like somebody blowing up a crisp packet then popping it right by your ear. The other night I'd had enough so watched the telly wearing my headphones.

He's never on the receiving end of his bark so I got,

'If your ears are that sensitive, don't you think you should go to the doctor?'

Need to address DH as if he was a public meeting, anything else goes unheard. Has he got hearing problems? of course not!?