My husband is definitely not deaf!!

This takes it to another level:

I just emailed my friend in Australia to say I was not allowed to go on Facebook because I had had a bad virus.

She wrote back to say:

Sorry to hear that, hope you feel better soon. My brother is suffering too.

Mini Mouse, have you been bugging my house? That sounds like the conversations we have.

We have a sound bar, but OH has taken to putting the subs on as well! Why you need both I don't know.

According to him I mutter.

i too am accused of mumbling. Naturally, DH's hearing is perfect [not] I have had my own hearing tested, because I find it hard to understand things.
I have come to the conclusion that although I hear perfectly well, I understand slowly!

Does anyone have another problem with hearing. I say something and seconds later he repeats it! That really gets to me. It makes others laugh at him.

It is also worrying because I wonder if it is the first signs of dementia. Does anyone know?

I sit there talking and suddenly OH comes out of his trance and says 'sorry what was that?' Or sometimes he will hear half a sentence and make the rest up leaving me baffled because what he says has nothing to do with what I was saying.

I refuse to be like that woman, you know the one....'Be soon I said...' or a fishwife shouting so loud the neighbours can hear as well.

He will not entertain a hearing aid. He says they are for old people and more trouble than they are worth. He is 75!

Grumppa, thank you. Love learning new words.

Great (or sad ) to hear of fellow sufferers, but occasionally I make use of it. Best one was when I said, "I'd like to go to Iceland."
Silence
"I'd like to visit Iceland."
Silence
"Shall we go to Iceland? Shall I book this trip?"
"Oh yes, whatever."

So we're going.

This, from a birthday card, with a picture of five women out for a stroll together,

"You want to eat?"

"Yeah, I'm pretty beat!"

"No, I can't eat meat."

"You have problems with your feet?"

"Who the heck is Pete?"

I can't help feeling it should feature men & not women! Yes, I know that appears sexist, but I think it's more true to life!

My late father was the same. In his late 50's or early 60's he could never hear what my mother was saying to him, and she concluded he was deaf. She got a firm of private hearing aid consultants to test him, and they said yes, he was very deaf, and needed an expensive hearing aid, which he never actually wore. Funny though how, in a noisy pub with the juke box blaring, he could always hear the words, "Banks's Mild Ale" - I tried it once as an experiment!

And I thought it was just me! I mumble, and then shout ALL THE TIME apparently.He says he has tinnitus (never diagnosed) so there is no point going for a hearing test "because they can't do anything". Anyway if I only spoke more clearly all would be well, it seems I have acquired some kind of speech impediment and perhaps I should go to the doctor, the fact others can hear me is irrelevant. We have a sound bar in front of the television because in the old days when they used boom mikes programmes were audible, its those lapel mikes that cut down the sound.

"Turn the telly up" if he wants to watch something "Turn it down it's too loud if I want to watch something.
I have detected that it's not so much hearing but a lack of concentration, in particular, if he doesn't want to hear what I'm saying. The message seems to take a longer time to get to the brain these days causing me frustration. He constantly says sorry or pardon which seems to give him a few more seconds to process the sounds even if I don't repeat it.

Oh this is lovely! My DH and I (both suffering slight hearing loss) are laughing like drains at this. What strikes me about all these posts is the importance of having a good sense of humour! [smile}

Glad I am not alone, I should "speak more clearly"
or sometimes I am told not to "speak so loudly" my answer to that is "then turn your hearing aid down"
You cant win!

I would have thought that all you ladies with husbands would have realized by now that Man, the hunter gatherers of this world, only take notice of things that move, in which case they decide if they can they eat it or if they can they have sex with it. If the answer is no then they switch off, As they get older the second option becomes more complicated so they eventually lose interest other from an academic or ancient history point of view

Teabagwoman, you asked about the technology. I find different technology works in different situations. Mostly I use my BAHA which is screwed into my head! But I also use the loop system which you get in some public places and at home a standalone amplifier which sits by the television. Over the years I've used lots of different technologies as they became available.
I don't feel embarrassed about telling people what I need and find most people are very helpful once they know what to do. It helps to be able to laugh at muddles and I am a wizz at miming in charades! And as a last resort there is always good old pen and paper.
Namechange2016 it probably is hereditary. Mine was so I wasn't fearful of it having experienced deafness in my own family first.
I hope it's the resistance to admitting deafness that's irritating people and not the deafness itself?

when I start to speak my OH talks over me, especially if I am having a conversation with someone other than him. He also says I didn't tell him things when my daughters have been present when I did and they told him so.This has been happening for years and he still does it. I just don't talk much at all now as I don't see the point of being ignored

Wolfie 1 -what a good idea! I'm sick of hearing 'eh, what' after every thing I say. If I wait and don't say anything he will answer me so it's just a habit but really annoying and tiring.Or I really raise my voice the next time and he looks at me as if I'm nuts for shouting all the time, can't win.

Some of your posts made me laugh as oh so familiar. I also mumble and the TV has to be on sòoooo loud at times. I'm sure it's a man thing OH will not go and have a hearing test although he was told years ago that he had a problem. I get very frustrated at having to repeat everything I say.

Both DH and I wear hearing aids. Great help in conversations but can be confusing in a noisy environment with a lot of people. We have had an e mail this morning from a niece's husband who has just got NHS aids at the age of 50. He said he didn't think there was much difference but miraculously everyone around him has stopped mumbling!

Another mumbler here, if I just made an effort to walk across the room and face him he would respond ...yeh right sometimes I get "are you standing in another room talking to me"? I shout back "no I am not talking to you I am talking about you" DH bought hearing aids and won't wear them because of background noise so we are in a no win situation and the TV volume is uncomfortable for me. I get accused of mocking his affliction but usually what I am laughing at is his repeating what he thought he heard.

Annemarg could you repeat that please (sorry couldn't resist!!)

The man with the growth was also told his hearing was fine first time round. How is it when you go round the grandchildren's home? Do you find the Television there too low? The initial hearing test for the man was the GP tinged a tuning fork behind the patient's back and asked him if he heard it, when he said yes, the GP said, then your hearing is fine, it is the range of sounds. Good fortune ??

I've had my hearing tested and have been told it's fine. It's not that we have to ask each other to repeat what we've said, it's that we think we've heard something totally different. We have some very strange conversations, strange but entertaining.

And then, do you find if you raise your voice slightly to repeat your remark, you get 'You don't have to shout'?!

When I am trying to concentrate on the crucial bit of the plot of a whodunnit I am supposed to pick up his every utterance. Yet when he doesn't hear me, it is my fault for muttering