Estranged son's first child

Thanks Tanith, although I have no expectations. The ball is firmly in his court.

Maybe your sons stance will soften if he accepts your gift JackieBee1 I hope so

I have 2 grandsons from said daughter, and plan to treat all grandchildren alike. I have given a hand crocheted blanket (and a card) to give to my son (via my daughter) after baby is here. (Did one each for my grandsons too )

Have tried many times to reconcile but so many false dawns.

Any chance you could extend an olive branch? A good opportunity for you both to let bygones be bygones at least try to heal a rift or are things way beyond that?

I was estranged from my daughters life long partner for 6yrs but our eldest grandson spoke to me and told my how it hurt him to see his Dad and I not speaking although he understood why I had to cut him off. I felt I had to at least resume a cordial relationship and invited him to a big family dinner we were able to at least be in the same room together and I'm glad I did it as I could see it meant the World to my grandson.
Sorry I didn't mean to preach but to say that even the most difficult circumstances can be changed if you can just let things go. I know how difficult that can be though.

Have you drilled down far enough to figure out why you are estranged and tried to rectify your part of the difficulty?