Birthday

Belated birthday greetings. You share the same date as my OH. Fortunately, offspring have remembered as have a couple of friends but I understand how you must feel. Everyone gets swamped with Christmas and New Year don't they?
I think Jane's idea is brilliant. Go on, treat yourself to those flowers and a pampering session. ?????????

May I wish you a belated Happy Birthday too, chris. DS completely forgot his dad's birthday in September. He was contrite when I brought it to his attention, but didn't feel disposed to send a belated card. DH said it didn't matter, but I know it upset him quite a lot.

Of course there are downsides - once I got 19 cards which is unheard of for me and I did worry that I had an incurable illness and no-one had told me.

When I was working I kept a list of staff birthdays and bought cards to be circulated for signatures. I was a bit miffed that nobody ever asked when mine was so it went unrecognized, or if I happened to mention the date, unremembered.

Belated Happy Birthday Chris

Happy Birthday xx

Happy 60th x

Happy Birthday ( a bit late) ??? Chris. Hope that you managed a good day after all.

Happy birthday for yesterday. Love some of the suggestions on here for 'revenge'!

Belated happy birthday Chris. Free prescriptions now and free travel if you're in London. Other than that go out and buy yourself some lovely presents!

I have a January birthday and usually do gentle reminders - so easy to think all celebrations are now over for a while ! I'm not so fussed about birthdays now but used to ask for my presents to be given in June as had no idea what to have in January and yes, did the reminder then too!

Happy Birthday ( belated ) I shall raise a glass to you tonight. Jane's ideas are great so go for some or even all of them ! xxx

Belated birthday wishes ?. I don't blame you at all for feeling a little down in the mouth, after all you are required/obliged/like to remember everyone else's birthdays. I once worked in a small private school where the boss organised a small collection for everyone's birthdays and had a mini ceremony with a bottle of wine. Because my birthday is in summer (during the school hols) I was always forgotten. One day I mentioned this to the senior teacher who was doing a collection and hey presto - my birthday appeared randomly at the end of January! Why don't you designate an official birthday (like the queen), tell them all that you've done it for their convenience, make sure they've all got it on their calendars (whether digital or paper) and then snjoy the effect.

Awe Happy Birthday! I know how you feel. I'm spending my sixtieth birthday in Crete with hubby then I won't be waiting for the postman. It's this time of year that's made them forget.

Happy Birthday!
My family had no chance to forget my 60th- I took them all away for a weekend, and had a party!
I think you have every excuse to go and treat yourself, and make them feel guilty..

Yes - do have a happy birthday. I never have any celebration of my birthday 'special' or otherwise, unless I arrange it myself. For both my 60th and my 70th I arranged a meal out in a restaurant for family and friends and both occasions were most enjoyable. It's the only way I can be sure of not being disappointed!

Sorry your family were so thoughtless. I can't imagine ever forgetting my family's birthdays and can understand how deflated you must have felt when nobody mentioned your special day. Belated good wishes and

Happy 60th ???
and I hope there was a surprise.
Perhaps start forgetting all their birthdays ......

Happy Birthday ?Xxx

Happy Birthday for yesterday Chris. I hope you have followed some of the advice to treat yourself - you are worth it! I recently read of a lady who treated herself to a much longed for Craft machine for Christmas. She wrapped it up for herself and on Christmas Day gave her hubby a big thank you kiss and said it was just what she wanted! Seems like a good idea in your case! Btw - will you be making a point of forgetting their family birthdays later in the year? I wonder how they would feel if that happened?

Happy birthday Chris. Sorry it's late. I agree with an earlier post that you should send yourself some flowers. I can understand why you feel hurt, but if nobody has remembered maybe they are planning something for another day? Just a thought because it really is unusual for everyone to forget. Xxx

Happy birthday Chris. ?
Sounds like some self-advertising might have been a good move! Birthdays are often a time when we treat others in the course of reminding them of someone they take for granted. No point in being backward in coming forward, I'm sure that you remember everyone else's birthdays.

Next year you could throw a treat or a party for those you care about on your "non-60th birthday"!

I agree that your family members may well be mortified when they realise what they have forgotten; however, this happened to me on my 50th birthday and I felt very hurt all day, then suddenly everyone descended in the evening and thought it amusing to make me think that they had all forgotten, but it was not a good day up till then.

I really hope that it all works out better as the day progresses.

Belated Happy Birthday Chris, hope your family realised and pulled something together for you. XXX

A very Happy Birthday to you Chris - casually mention to your forgetful family how many people on Gransnet thought of you today and wait for the penny to drop. Hope you get taken out somewhere special.[cake]

Happy birthday, Chris. I really feel for you. Your family have failed massively and ought to be ashamed of themselves.

However, a couple of thoughts:- everyone is selfish, Christmas is a busy time and it is women not men who are the 'keepers of the customs'. Men, on their own, would never send each other cards, let alone presents though they value it when others think of them. My silly son boasts that he and his friends do not care about such things but I know he would be devastated to be forgotten by his family on his birthday.

It was my 60th milestone birthday this year. I signalled it up about six months early and said, 'No big presents, please, but I'd like a party since I haven't had one since I was nine years old.'

We tried out a couple of party venues only for me to find my DH was assuming it was to be a JOINT party with him, and, as usual, he would take centre stage. Instead of being upset I made it clear it was going to be my party.

For his 60th birthday he sulked a bit and said he wanted a quiet time in Devon so I gave him that but have also arranged a secret, surprise dinner at a nice restaurant for his oldest friends and close family to take place this weekend.

I agree with the other commenters who suggest you should make it clear what you want in the way of presents, celebration and fuss. You might even have to arrange some of it yourself as men can be pretty useless about such things. But make it a three-line-whip with no demurring. You'll find your nearest and dearest will rally round and give you a nice time if they know that is what will please you.

You are very lucky to have a DH and two DSs but men are all a bit 'on the spectrum' about other people's birthdays and need a bit of a hint to get going. I have a DS and a DD and the daughter was the moving force behind my birthday. My husband was 'reminded' by her and managed to buy me a Kitchenaid and a pair of sapphire earrings to match the sapphire pendant she bought me. Magic! However, she made it clear that it was in the way of an investment as I would no longer 'need' my rubies and could 'loan' them to her for her wedding day, should she have one. Neither my DH or my DS would have thought of that!

Vive le difference.