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Elegran Mon 19-Sept-16 15:09:46

And a third type to provide them with a comfortable lifestyle and finance their further education in exchange for sex? It still sounds like prostitution to me.

lizzypopbottle Mon 19-Sept-16 14:38:40

Apparently, what attracts people to a potential partner is different for men and women, generally speaking. In primitive terms, men are attracted, subconsciously, to younger women with symmetrical faces and wide hips because these features i.e. youth and beauty, indicate natural health and fitness to reproduce. Women are attracted to marry men they see, subconsciously, as good providers for their children so money and power often negate the craggy appearance of some older men. There's evidence that suggests women often choose one type of man to marry and a different type to father their children!

www.theguardian.com/society/2005/aug/11/childrensservices.uknews

Wobblybits Mon 19-Sept-16 13:55:59

So often you see older men with young attractive women on their arms, and I think, what does she see in him, ah yes he is rich hmm. One in particular springs to mind, but I would be silly to name names. Am I jealous ---- I'll think about that one.

trisher Mon 19-Sept-16 13:35:51

If he is a 'serial marrier" (don't think that's a real term but you know what I mean) does that make it better? Thinking Murdoch and Hall.

gillybob Mon 19-Sept-16 13:24:37

You do see it a fair bit don't you? Young beautiful (model type) married to wrinkly, old, rich man.

What on earth did she see in him? grin

M0nica Mon 19-Sept-16 13:11:07

Prostitution is being paid to have sex with someone. What is difficult to understand about that.

The question to ask the participants is, would (the girls) be prepared to sleep with this man if he wasn't paying them, in other words, would they be happy to be in a committed relationship with him instead of him paying them for sex? For the men, would they be prepared to have a proper committed relationship with the girl as an alternative to paying her?

I am pretty sure I know what the answers would be - and that makes what they are doing prostitution.

goose1964 Mon 19-Sept-16 13:09:03

There's a term for it, light hooking. You don't get paid cash for sex but get paid in kind

BlueBelle Mon 19-Sept-16 12:45:09

Trisher according to one girl ( there were two interviewed) her mother and father knew about it and were perfectly happy with the situation, of course we only have her word for it As a parent I would be terrified they would meet someone horrid and not be safe

Harrigran I think you are right if it's done by well spoken young ladies it's not prostitution I just found it so unbelievable that none of them the girls or the man could see it for what it was selling themselves, whether it was for company or sex

miep Mon 19-Sept-16 12:44:06

'harrigran', you said it! They are 'working girls'!

harrigran Mon 19-Sept-16 10:19:47

I saw a documentary about this subject, it is prostitution but because they are mainly middle class girls they prefer to call it working their way through college hmm

trisher Mon 19-Sept-16 10:10:47

Sounds like prostitution to me, but I suppose they could argue they follow a long tradition of courtesans who catered for rich men. I do wonder what mummy and daddy think their daughter is doing to pay her way through Uni-stacking shelves in Lidl?

Ilrina Mon 19-Sept-16 09:54:44

I didn't see the programme, but then I don't watch tele. Sex in exchange for money. Sounds like prostitution to me!, and yes I agree with BlueBelle about it being open to abuse. I also don't get these " Open" marriages, kind of contradictory to the vows wouldn't you think?

BlueBelle Mon 19-Sept-16 09:36:02

Haha Alima like the Bernie bit
It was just these young girls who saw it as a great way of getting through uni had NO idea why it should be considered prostitution because basically they choose to do it and aren't pushed by a pimp or a madam or owner of an escort business The well spoken ' rich' man who used the site and was in an open marriage implying his wife did similar but obviously wasn't proud enough of it to have his face shown Is paying £1000 a month to have a sexual relationship with a young girl

Although they are consenting adults they are young and obviously swayed by money. ( isn't that prostitution by another name ) and I would have thought open to abuse

Alima Mon 19-Sept-16 09:03:12

I didn't see the programme either but from what you say it is a bit dodgy. Have often thought the same of the middle aged/old men who bag themselves a Thai or Eastern young girl as a bride. I suppose the same could be said of anyone who marries Bernie Eccilstone (sp).

ninathenana Mon 19-Sept-16 08:18:51

It's definitely a fine line Bluebelle

Iam64 Mon 19-Sept-16 08:14:23

Didn't see the programme. Hate the idea of anyone being involved in a sexual relationship because it provides them with cash (except Lilian in the Archers.....)

BlueBelle Mon 19-Sept-16 07:55:52

Having just watched on morning tv while eating my breakfast a piece about Sugar Daddies something I had come across before but brought it back to my attention
Basically it's used by mainly students which involves them being kept or paid through university in return for either their company or their favours by richer men
I m not being particularly biased against this but the two girls and the man interviewed all insisted it wasn't protitution but I m blowed if I can see the differences
What do you think ?