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BlueBelle Mon 19-Sept-16 07:55:52

Having just watched on morning tv while eating my breakfast a piece about Sugar Daddies something I had come across before but brought it back to my attention
Basically it's used by mainly students which involves them being kept or paid through university in return for either their company or their favours by richer men
I m not being particularly biased against this but the two girls and the man interviewed all insisted it wasn't protitution but I m blowed if I can see the differences
What do you think ?

Iam64 Mon 19-Sept-16 20:33:49

I would not have done this, or anything like it myself and I'd hate it if any of my children did. It's selling your body for money, that's prostitution . I agree with Elegran, if these young women had respect for themselves, they wouldn't do it. My daughters worked in retail and in bars to supplement the money we were able to give them. Good for them, they're in their 30's and have worked in some way since 6th form and honestly, I consider its been good for them. I'm not going all Yorkshire - Luxury - about this,just the idea of them selling themselves so they could have a new handbag makes me feel rather sick.

BlueBelle Mon 19-Sept-16 20:50:02

Well I couldn't afford to get my kids through uni so they all worked I mean proper work to fund themselves and did it completely on their own The girls interviewed did not look as if they came from poor families but even so I would have thought a regular job would look better on the CV

lizzypopbottle Mon 19-Sept-16 21:02:27

Gosh, BlueBelle, do you think these girls list their sugar daddy as a legitimate job on their CV? ?

BlueBelle Mon 19-Sept-16 21:14:58

It was a tongue in cheek statement izzypopbottle smile

wondergran Mon 19-Sept-16 21:18:36

I guess they are very keen for it NOT to be seen as prostitution because of the legality of it plus are these sums of money gifts or taxable income? I hate the idea but money talks. My daughter is £47,000 in uni debt, struggling to get a job that isn't zero hours and crap pay and has a little boy to support. Life is so bloody unfair at times.

Iam64 Tue 20-Sept-16 07:43:13

Good point wondergran, it's becoming much more difficult for mature students. I was a single parent when I went to the Poly. I was sponsored by my future employer, had a very low income, which was just above what I'd have got on the dole. I enjoyed the course and the freedom that comes with study. I came out with a good professional qualification and no debt. If I was in the same position today, I'd owe about £60,000 minimum by the time I qualified. Would I have done the training, nope, I'd have remained working as a PA. We're heading for a place where all our nurses, social workers, teachers etc are young graduates, rather than the great mix of former hair dressers, engineers, merchant seamen, secretaries, police officers who in the past could get a small grant, supplement it by working in holidays or evenings and bring a real mix of life experience along with their professional qualification to their new careers
No sugar daddies wanted or needed

trisher Tue 20-Sept-16 10:46:47

I've decided that actually I can see very little wrong with what they are doing. Once upon a time some things were considered to be above commercial value. I'm thinking of education, health care etc. Now everything has a price on it. So why young women shouldn't carry this on to cover their bodies and sexual services I don't know. It is the ultimate result of a society where there is a price tag on everything.

Ana Tue 20-Sept-16 10:59:53

Yes, you only have to look at the spate of girls selling their virginity online to the highest bidder a couple of years ago to see that it's a sign of the times.

Wobblybits Tue 20-Sept-16 11:04:26

Ana shock

dogsmother Tue 20-Sept-16 11:12:26

Yes, prostitution, and no, nothing wrong if that is the choice they make. Selling the assets they have.
There is no way in the world I would and I doubt my daughter would either far too much personal pride and dignity.

starbird Tue 20-Sept-16 11:13:37

There was a case in the paper recently of a scheme whereby a student lived with a pensioner no sex involved, A reasonable rent and it gave the pensioner a new lease of life to have someone young around. I think foreign students are more into doing this as they are used to the idea of having elderly relatives living with the family. Obviously there would be the possibilty of abuse (eg the student stealing money etc) but most people are kind and honest.

Wobblybits Tue 20-Sept-16 11:47:21

I can't imagime a situation where a woman would wait hand and foot on a man, the again, perhaps hmm

M0nica Tue 20-Sept-16 11:57:31

The problem is that in a society where people can quite freely sell their bodies for sexual use others begin to assume that everyone is available at a price.

We have enough problems at the moment where it is assumed that if a woman dresses to look good then she must be seeking a sexual encounter. If it was assumed, as it would be, that any woman between, say, 16 and 30 is available for a price, young women would as a group be seen primarily as sexual objects rather than the active intelligent rational beings they are, seeking education and careers.

This fscility would, I assume be accepted across all gender couplings, but it would be young women who would be the main victims.

Wobblybits Tue 20-Sept-16 13:31:05

My body is open to offers, start bidding ladies smile

grannypiper Sat 24-Sept-16 08:23:37

Tarts ! Ask those same girls in 20 years time if they are still so proud of their prostitution and i bet the answer will be no.

Wobblybits Sat 24-Sept-16 09:02:29

Looks like there is a problem with my email, I have not received any of the offers that must have been sent sad

Im68Now Sat 24-Sept-16 09:09:58

Now look Wobblybits, if I'm paying for it, I want to see what I'm buying, Start posting pictures with an erection.wink