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Beth61 Tue 02-Aug-16 18:43:45

The bus home this evening was busy and included 2 young women with toddlers in buggies sitting in the wheelchair/ buggy area. It was ok until we reached a bus stop where a man in a wheelchair wanted to get on. The driver asked if one of the women would fold up her buggy so that the passenger could get on. Both refused. One said it was " too much hassle". A couple of passengers got involved but they still refused. Eventually the driver told the man in the wheelchair there was nothing he could do and that the man would have to wait for another bus. I was a bit shocked- in my day you weren't allowed on buses unless your buggy was folded! Yes it was awkward with a baby, a toddler , shopping and a buggy but somehow we managed.what do others think?

KateG Wed 03-Aug-16 17:51:09

I have a fold up buggy to use when I take my grandson to town on the bus. It's a bit like the Mcclarren striped baby buggy I used when taking his mummy to town as a toddler. I have had to fold it up once, but it was no big deal. Lots of offers to let my gs sit on people's knees.
The bus driver was completely wrong to make the man in the wheelchair wait for a bus , whilst allowing the two selfish creatures to behave badly. What a poor example to set for their children.

nipsmum Wed 03-Aug-16 17:33:16

Okay we are a nation of people who queue for buses. First come first served regardless of anything else.

Victoria08 Wed 03-Aug-16 16:53:11

Totally agree. The size of some buggies are ridiculous. They have whacking great big wheels which I feel are totally unnecessary. No wonder there isn't enough room for some passengers and wheelchair users.

Like many others, I too had a small buggy that folded up like an umbrella.
You don't seem to see them anymore. But just the right size for getting on and of a bus.
These young mums nowadays are a bit selfish to say the least.
They always seem to have their eyes on their mobile phones and not on the child.

KatyK Wed 03-Aug-16 16:03:55

I was on a bus recently and by the time we reached the terminus, there were two buggies (unfolded, with babies in them), a lady with one of those things on wheels that help people walk, three people with those big square shopping trolleys and two dogs. It was chaos.

Elegran Wed 03-Aug-16 16:01:28

Not easy for a 5ft 3in woman of 75+ with dodgy hips pushing a 15 stone man in a wheelchair because it is an hour to the next bus, either.

hettie1966 Wed 03-Aug-16 15:49:42

The mum, recovering from c section, with twins in a double pram in carry cots, has waited, in the rain, for a bus with enough space, as a single buggy was already using the space. Does she get off the bus? There has been occasion she has walked the four miles from town, not easy pushing a double buggy.

Christalbee Wed 03-Aug-16 15:38:24

Some of these mothers with buggies are so selfish these days!! We always had to fold up our pushchairs to get on the bus, and put it in the cubby hole by the driver. Otherwise it just takes up too much room. Also, they don't seem to care if they push the chairs into your legs either!! Selfish or what!!
Anyone would think they were the first women on the earth to ever have a baby, or bring up children!

BlueBelle Wed 03-Aug-16 14:05:46

They did have huge prams but they DIDNT take them on buses in t' old days I had a soft body that came off the wheels/ base which folded in half and the soft carry cot bit with baby in sat on your knee People should walk with big push chairs/ buggies if they re foldable get on, a buggy should NEVER. have priority over a wheelchair user in my opinion My kids always folded theirs too I used to get in a muddle with the different ways of folding theirs it seems to be this last generation that expects to get on a bus with a big unfolded buggy

Indinana Wed 03-Aug-16 13:46:20

Yes I agree re the horrible bus drivers too, gillybob - my DD nearly broke her ankle when she fell trying to save the pram as she tipped it out of the bus - all because the driver refused to lower the platform. His excuse? "It hardly makes any difference". Utter rubbish!
But, again, there are plenty of good and helpful bus drivers too. All I'm saying is we shouldn't generalise, accusing "all young mums" of being selfish and lazy. There are good and bad people of all ages. Always have been.

gillybob Wed 03-Aug-16 13:06:04

I agree with you to some extent Indiana there are many young mums who like your DD are caring and would do anything they could to help someone less fortunate than themselves, but there are plenty who are very selfish too. This happened to my mum and dad many, many times. Also had horrible bus drivers who refused to pull up close to the kerb and refused to put the ramp down saying that they were running late.

gillybob Wed 03-Aug-16 12:58:41

nipsmum I cannot (in my wildest dreams) imagine ever refusing to fold up my buggy to enable a wheelchair user to catch the bus. My dad bless him pushed my mum all over and didn't use the bus that often. However there were times when he had no choice. My mum died earlier this year and my dad has been having treatment on his legs and back. The doctor said they are damaged because of the strain put on them by pushing my mum around for so long. But hey, as long as the young ones can get on the bus with their brood and their buggies, what does that matter? I mean heaven forbid they should walk a couple of stops.

Grandson2008 Wed 03-Aug-16 12:23:12

We have new busses where I live and the space is only small is 2 buggies or 1 wheelchair. I do agree as well as some mums think its their right tpnhave the space the toddler isn't even in the buggies. However we have a gentleman further up frtom me who gets on the bus never smiles puts his feet out so nobody else can use the space. The other week a mother got on the bus with her disabled little girl if he had manoeuvred his chair both could have fit in the space her chair is tiny but he wouldn't so mum had to lift her our sit her on the seat and fold up her chair so it does work both ways.

cheerleader Wed 03-Aug-16 11:54:24

It's a pity there isn't enough room for both...

WilmaKnickersfit Wed 03-Aug-16 11:46:24

It's nothing to do with walking less, pram/pushchair sizes or a sense of entitlement. It's to do with the newer style of buses that have the drop down step making it possible for wheelchair users to take the bus and parents to get on without folding the pushchair. There's no point in comparing what you did with today's Mums with pushchairs because the buses didn't exist then. Good manners have never been universal.

Indinana Wed 03-Aug-16 11:34:26

Well said nipsmum.

Indinana Wed 03-Aug-16 11:32:03

I think we walked more Indinana.

That probably rather depends on where you live, how near the shops/town is for example. I walked to my mother's house, only half a mile away, with a local shop for basics/essentials en route. If I needed to go to town I had to get the bus, as it was 5 miles away along winding country roads with no footpath. I think the same is true today. My DD walks to my house regularly, 2 miles there and back. In poor weather she uses the bus. If she wants to go into town it is 7 miles away, so it's the bus again.
To be honest I get weary of hearing how everyone was so much better, kinder, more helpful, considerate etc. etc. when we were young. I know plenty of young people today who put themselves out for others, who are generous and thoughtful. I also know plenty who aren't. It was ever thus.

nipsmum Wed 03-Aug-16 11:25:23

Sorry to disagree with some of you. I have seen mums in that situation. One had a pushchair with small child and 2 other children plus shopping. She had walked 2 stops down the street to be able to get on the bus before it came to the middle of the busy high street stop. 2 stops from where she had got on someone with a wheelchair wanted on the bus. It was almost impossible for the mum to fold the buggie and manage 3 children , a pram and shopping. The person in the wheelchairs needs are no greater than the mums. Why should wheelchairs get priority over mums with children..They may be disabled but don't need to be first in everything. We are far to accommodating in this country try sometimes. Public transport is for everyone.

path20 Wed 03-Aug-16 11:15:30

I think it's terrible that young mothers with prams do not make way for a wheelchair user.
I remember once, in the sixties, having to take the bus to do an important errand.I had one child of just two and a half and a six month old baby.The pram was a fold up one but not as easy as the ones today.I can remember clearly the bus arriving, putting the eldest child on the bus, taking baby out of the pram, putting her under one arm whilst I folded the pram and put it on the bus. I really can't see many young mothers doing that today.
How they can sit there so smug and make no attempt to help the wheelchair user is beyond me.

Lewlew Wed 03-Aug-16 11:05:26

Here is First Bus policy:

www.firstgroup.com/bus-accessibility

Nonnie Wed 03-Aug-16 10:59:25

I agree with Gononsuch, it is today's society but why are we sitting here moaning about it? Why don't we do something? Next time you see such a thing make a fuss. Stand by the driver and incite others to do the same. The bus can't move if you stand there so refuse to move until the mother either folds the pushchair or moves. In the last few years I have discovered how much a 'little old lady' can get away with saying and doing as no one gets really angry with the old.

I suspect this only happens in the cities, those of us who live outside generally find people to be kind and thoughtful.

Mumsy Wed 03-Aug-16 10:34:21

Have to say that a lot of mums today are just downright lazy and dont walk anywhere! Ive seen mums with buggys go two bus stops! When my kids were babies I walked to the nearest town 3 miles there 3 miles back.

I remember years ago I went to get on a train for a longer journey with my pram in the guards van and I couldnt get in as there was a lady in there with a pram full of flowers!!! I was angry as I had to wait another 30 mins for the next train.

Gononsuch Wed 03-Aug-16 10:34:17

I don't think its just "Today's Mums", Its every one in general, if you don't take you will be left with nothing.

Again "Me-Me-Me" society.

Bellanonna Wed 03-Aug-16 10:29:59

I think we walked more Indinana. I had a big pram, with a toddler seat on top and a tray for my shopping underneath. I walked two round miles to do shopping, and rather more to visit my mum. I did the same when visiting friends. When the smaller child was able to use a Maclaren buggy I then used buses. I had to quickly ustrap the little one when the bus came into view, lift her out, fold the buggy, tell the toddler to stay where she was and watch in horror as people behind me pushed in front of me to get on the bus. I was usually given a seat if the bus was full, so was able to keep both girls on my lap, or almost. Same chaos getting off. Needless to say I avoided this as much as possible. Both my adult girls have had cumbersome buggies which I've never learnt to collapse and I did indeed once have to get off a bus to allow a wheelchair on. I didn't mind and soon got another bus. I firmly believe today's mums feel they have a a God given right to stay put whereas I think the disabled passenger has a right to the space.

Rosina Wed 03-Aug-16 10:13:56

I feel sorry for the drivers and the wheelchair users - it must be so hard for a driver to have an awkward, rude or aggressive mother to deal with, and sadly it seems there are plenty. It's the sense of entitlement again - many women seem to feel that because they have a baby they are somehow extremely special and entitled to barge about and demand special treatment. It's a lot easier for them now too with the pushchair friendly busses with a built up kerb and a pram area. I too had a Maclaren, and in the years before I drove, when I saw the bus approaching, I would have to instruct four year old DD to hold on to my coat, pick up heavy baby, bag etc.fold the pushchair, and get on the bus with this entire cargo, then pay fare and get the buggy in the luggage rack and sit down before the bus raced off and we all fell over. What larks! It seems that in some people compassion, understanding and consideration have been left behind somewhere and they can't be asked to do a small thing to help another not so able,

Indinana Wed 03-Aug-16 10:01:09

I am a little bewildered by the general consensus that today's pushchairs are so much bigger than in our day. Yes, if you are comparing the strollers/buggies of today with the pushchairs of yesteryear. But that's not comparing like with like. We used huge prams. Today's mums don't. They usually have a chassis to which they can attach a carrycot (much smaller than our big coach-built prams), and later a stroller. The chassis/stroller combo is, of course, bigger than the MacLaren buggies - again this is not comparing like with like. Small fold up buggies are still available today - my DD has one as well as the stroller.
I used a MacLaren back in the 70's but I also had a big pram - the MacLaren wasn't safe for a newborn as it could damage their spines. I also had a pushchair of the style you don't see these days - the footrest came up and the backrest went down so a baby could lie flat. If buses in those days had had spaces designated for pushchairs/wheelchairs I'm sure this would have caused a few grumbles too wink.
The big problem today is that buses do have spaces for buggies so mums take advantage of these - in our day we simply could not have got on a bus without collapsing the buggy, so that's what we did, we had no choice. I really don't think we did it because we were morally superior in any way to today's mums.