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annsixty Mon 04-Jul-16 17:03:05

Do you/ have you/ would you buy yourself a birthday present?
My D has had a difficult two years with the breakup of her marriage and the fallout affecting her children. It is her birthday next week ( along with her D and mine) and she has decided to give herself a present . She has an old school friend who lives in Berlin and having been asked many times she is going to stay with her in two weeks for a long weekend.
As my H cannot buy me a present now I am wondering if I should treat myself. As I am almost housebound it will have to wait until my knee is done but truly I can't think of anything I want or need.
What do others think.

Juggernaut Fri 08-Jul-16 15:17:08

Very nice bag Ann, really elegant!
Have a wonderful birthday on Tuesday cupcake wine smile

millymouge Fri 08-Jul-16 15:13:39

annsixty that bag is lovely, am most envious envy. According to DH I have a thing about handbags,shoes too and little jackets, and nice fitting skirts and small jumpers and"...... I suppose I just like nice things.hmm

Maggiemaybe Fri 08-Jul-16 14:56:39

Or even smile

Maggiemaybe Fri 08-Jul-16 14:56:25

I love it. It's a beautiful colour. {smile]

Marmight Fri 08-Jul-16 14:24:52

It's lovely Ann. The colour is great and will go with just about everything, unlike aquamarine! Enjoy using it and Happy Birthday on Tuesday flowers

Mildred Fri 08-Jul-16 14:17:32

It's very elegant happy birthday for Tuesday.

J52 Fri 08-Jul-16 14:01:08

That's a fab bag! I hope you enjoy it. I can't walk past a beautiful bag and I certainly would have been tempted by the one you have chosen.

annsixty Fri 08-Jul-16 13:46:47

I won't use it until my proper birthday on Tuesday,

M0nica Fri 08-Jul-16 13:43:28

It looks gorgeous. Put it on display and walk round looking at it for a few days wine

annsixty Fri 08-Jul-16 12:50:55

My birthday present to me has just arrived and I love!!!

rubylady Wed 06-Jul-16 23:22:53

Elsie10 A belated Happy Birthday for yesterday, I hope you enjoyed your wine with your friend. Have some flowers from me with love. X

I do think we have got to an age where we deserve a bit of selfishness. Plus, if we don't treat ourselves now, when are we going to, or who else will? I am holding out for more than a free garlic cheese bread from my son this year though! confused

1974cookie Tue 05-Jul-16 17:45:22

Hi Annsixty.
ABSOLUTELY.
I have been doing this for the last few years, but it must be for YOU, and not the home.
So Ann, you get yourself that handbag, and enjoy.
In the meantime.
I wish You a very Happy Birthday
???? x

castle Tue 05-Jul-16 17:34:29

I have never bought myself a birthday present but once on our wedding anniversary I bought myself a bouquet of flowers and walked home with a huge smile on my face. My husband is very thoughtful in some ways but not very good with presents.

Elsie10 Tue 05-Jul-16 16:59:08

Funny you should ask that today. It is my birthday today and I have just been into town and bought myself 3 bras and a pair of jeans. DH 'does not do birthdays' and is a dead loss - so each year I go to the sales and treat myself. He does manage a card - but for the last 2 years he has torn out the words on the inside sheet and just signed with a few xxx's. My family and friends all remember and make lovely gestures - I guess I am used to DH's response by now and just do my darnedest to enjoy my day regardless.Tonight I will be sharing a bottle of wine with a friend...

AlieOxon Tue 05-Jul-16 16:56:24

I do drop hints. Especially to my sister. She asks me, but I can never think of anything right then!
So I said, this time, that I'd been looking for a eucalyptus tree.....hope she takes me up on it, it usually works. And I want to go and fly my kite on the day, so I hope it's fine....and that I don't sound selfish!

HootyMcOwlface Tue 05-Jul-16 16:30:35

If I didn't buy my own present I wouldn't get one.

annsixty Tue 05-Jul-16 14:17:27

I have ordered my bag!! I went for a colour called shark instead of aquamarine. I got cold feet. I hope it is as pretty as it looks on the website. It is by Modalu , never heard of them but I trust JL.A large clutch bag.
I really do have a birthday next week.

Marmight Tue 05-Jul-16 13:09:09

I absolutely agree with buying your own present! For my Ruby Wedding anniversary, I bought myself, in the absence of both husband and sparkly offering, an original painting of hares, which, had he still been alive, I would have bought for J. It hangs in my kitchen and is a reminder of what was and what could have been.
Enjoy your handbag Ann - you deserve it

Sheilasue Tue 05-Jul-16 12:57:16

I asked for some perfume from my husband, he asks my daughter to get it for me and gives my daughter the money, that way I get the perfume I like

Bez1989 Tue 05-Jul-16 12:08:52

I started buying myself Bday and Christmas pressies after my divorce awhile ago now. Usually Chanel no 5. Im now remarried and we always buy pressies for each other....even if we actually get them ourselves ! ?

Jaycee5 Tue 05-Jul-16 11:58:28

I have to and I do. It was my birthday last week and I bought myself some new net curtains. I managed to give the measurements for the main curtains rather than the nets and they're bevelled at the bottom so I've had to cut the top off and re-sew the seamed top on so it didn't turn out to be such a treat but I've actually enjoyed doing it so I might do some sewing again. The machines been in a cupboard for about 10 years.

I also paid to have my flat spring cleaned which cheered me up.

annodomini Tue 05-Jul-16 11:33:10

My ex was no good at presents for me, so he was no loss! I like to treat myself since I have all the 'things' I want or need. Several times recently I have given myself a ticket for an opera, having developed an appreciation for that genre quite late in life. It doesn't have to be for a birthday. Any time is good for a treat!

MammaN Tue 05-Jul-16 11:04:52

Always do. Never able to think or anything to tell others what I want for birthdays etc at the time. Usually somewhere along the way I see something that I think is a bit extravagant - not needed - so it becomes my birthday or Christmas present to me. Several years ago I bought a cardigan costing much more than I would normally spend and it was also different to the basic boring ones I normally buy. I still love it and have had lots of wear out of it. Well worth the money spent.

dirgni Tue 05-Jul-16 10:33:43

DH has mild dementia so if I don't buy myself something I won't get anything!?????? ??

Lilyflower Tue 05-Jul-16 10:20:06

The only present I want for my milestone 60th is 'work done' on the craggy rock face. No one is going to buy me that and when I mentioned it to the DH he said, 'But then you will run off with a twenty year old.' Not considering the implausibility of said venture, I can think of nothing worse than the company of a sanctimonious, narcissistic snowflake. The 'work' would be entirely for me.

I haven't spent my pension lump sum yet...

However, I imagine I will count my blessings and get on with eroding and fissuring.