Will I ever become a grandma?

I don't understand this avoidance of openness in families. Why? It's just human feelings. Nothing awful.

You are their mm. Why can't you just ask? Why would you expect aggression? Obviously you would do it in a kindly and tactful way. Where's the problem?

Hello waiting gran. I can fully understand how you feel but, if you ever get the urge to discuss the matter with them, please just lock yourself in the loo and wait for it to pass.

My eldest DS's wife had several miscarriages. They went through a terrible time and didn't tell anyone about it. I wish I could have supported them more. Now their first child is coming up to 2 yrs, we are back in the same position again - will keep our mouths firmly shut and our questions to ourselves.

How did we feel about mothers and in-laws asking us when we were in that position?

Whether you're trying or waiting or are definitely not going to have children, I don't think anyone wants to be badgered.

So, even if you are very close, this subject - as everyone has said - is, unfortunately, taboo.

Frustrating for you, I can see. Mothers seem to leave it later and later, so do not assume that there will never be any. I do think however that you need to plan for none and enjoy life as it is, then have a lovely surprise if it does happen.

If they intend never to have children they would probably say so.They have not been married long yet by today's standards and lots of people wait for a variety of reasons.

Which is exactly what happened to me! But in the meantime, be the very model of stoicism, and don't ever ask.

Assume they won't have any then if they do it will be a lovely surprise!

You must never ask!
I can understand how you feel but being a Grandparent is much more than just an accident of birth i.e. one's child becoming a parent. Its all about the relationship you have and asking any young couple what their plans are regarding having a family is just not on on so many levels. They may be trying, they may have differences about it between themselves, they may fully appreciate that you are waiting and do not want to disappoint. The list is endless but please do not ever raise the subject. If however, they stalk about it you are perfectly entitled to take a deep breath and ask appropriate questions very tactfully. It is after all their lives, their relationships and their choices.

You have my sympathy Waiting, I know what you are feeling, but asking about their intentions is the way madness lies, IMHO