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Anniebach Mon 25-Apr-16 09:27:37

Death is connected to end of life , what else ?

Alea Mon 25-Apr-16 09:16:07

The thread title Death Cafe put me in mind of a particularly toxic Little Chef on the A303 which nearly ruined Christmas for us. [green] nauseous emoticon.

thatbags Mon 25-Apr-16 09:14:16

It wouldn,t be the only item on the agenda. When did a bunch of people ever stick to one topic in a cafe? Besides, people will have different ideas about what in their lives death is connected to.

Lona Mon 25-Apr-16 09:13:32

I talk about death quite often, but I don't want to be limited to the subject while enjoying my coffee!
I'll talk about anything, no subject is taboo. smile

thatbags Mon 25-Apr-16 09:13:11

Not everyone associates death with religion. Some, like me, associate it with life. Life is not possible without death so death is an important thing to talk about.

Lots of conversations seems contrived when they are first started. Nothing wrong with contriving an opportunity to talk about something, especially when it seems so taboo—witness the shudderings and use of words like weird, strange, awkward on this thread. Lots of topics of conversation are awkward. That's not an argument against having them.

Indinana Mon 25-Apr-16 09:12:08

Talking about death and being straightforward about it is one thing. Going to a cafe with death as the only item on the conversation agenda is something else entirely. I wouldn't want to visit any cafe that restricted conversation to one item, whether it is death, cucumbers, park benches or anything else.
I have no problem discussing death (or cucumbers or park benches), but I would definitely dislike having the conversation curtailed in such a manner.

sunseeker Mon 25-Apr-16 09:11:08

thatbags I also believe in being straightforward in talking about death, however what I find odd is having a specific place to talk about it. Surely this should at some point be part of a normal conversation in a family? I have certainly discussed my own death with what little family I have, in a very matter of fact manner - it's going to happen one day. Remember enjoy life because no-one gets out alive!

Elrel Mon 25-Apr-16 09:08:50

Weird idea. Sounds awkward, contrived. As I get older I feel less scared of the inevitable but don't want it to happen just yet. If I specifically wanted to talk with someone about death I'd probably go to Buddhists. (Other religions are available!)

thatbags Mon 25-Apr-16 09:03:17

Yes. I think it's a good idea. I honestly don't understand why people seem to think that talking about death, being straightforward about it, is odd.

sunseeker Mon 25-Apr-16 08:54:41

Death is an inevitable part of life - I accept it happens but I don't need to go to a cafe to chat about it!

Charleygirl Mon 25-Apr-16 08:45:44

I find this really weird.

Anniebach Mon 25-Apr-16 08:37:03

Something rather strange about popping into a cafe to talk about death and dying

Judthepud2 Mon 25-Apr-16 01:25:16

Sounds a bundle of fun.....not! I don't mind talking about death, but don't want to wallow in it over my americano!

ninathenana Mon 25-Apr-16 01:03:13

I have no problem with talking about death (you die, you don't pass away)
I wouldn't want to go somewhere to specifically talk about it though. If it comes up in conversation with family or friends that's fine

cornergran Mon 25-Apr-16 00:13:54

Agree nellie. In my view we don't manage death and dying well - yes, a generalisation and so of course there are exceptions. I would like to see death as acceptable in conversation as birth, if birth happens then death is inevitable at some point. Just as some find it difficult to talk about birth there will always be some who struggle to talk about death, but why not encourage the majority to talk openly?

Nelliemoser Sun 24-Apr-16 23:55:47

Hmm! I would have to think about that. I don't know if these death cafes have any particular agenda, but I do think that we all should stop being so reserved about talking about death in general. It will surely come to us all eventually.

Anniebach Sun 24-Apr-16 23:14:12

No

harrigran Sun 24-Apr-16 23:14:06

No.

rosesarered Sun 24-Apr-16 23:11:11

I did read about these cafes a few years ago, have they caught on?There are also cat cafes now, where lots of moggie are strolling about! unless you really have nobody to talk to about bereavement, I don't think I would fancy it much.

ninathenana Sun 24-Apr-16 23:09:02

No way.

M0nica Sun 24-Apr-16 23:00:37

They sound so false and contrived.

Indinana Sun 24-Apr-16 22:55:43

Shudder. sad

janeainsworth Sun 24-Apr-16 22:49:08

No.

grannyactivist Sun 24-Apr-16 22:47:38

Would you fancy going to a Death Cafe to eat cake, drink tea and chat about death?
I'm wondering if anyone on here has been to one - I'm rather intrigued.
deathcafe.com/what/