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M0nica Tue 22-Mar-16 16:53:35

morethan2, Is saying your DDiL is getting fat, when that is in fact what is happening, an unkind thing to say? Or was is said in an unkind manner? Does DGD know her mother is ill? If so can she not just say 'That is because my mummy is ill and her medecine makes her get bigger?'

I am not sure people are less kind than in the past. I can remember both adults and children making very unkind remarks when I was a child. I had a medical condition for most of my childhood and both adults and children made nasty remarks about it and physically bullied me. My daughter has always been overweight. We think it is genetic as there seems to be one person in every generation of her father's family who is overweight, despite eating a normal diet and having an active life style. She never had a problem at school but several times I had to tick people off for making unpleasant comments about her in her hearing when we were out.

morethan2 Tue 22-Mar-16 15:24:11

I've read somthing from the 'the other side (musnet) that coincided with somthing my 7 year old granddaughter told me at the weekend. I've always encourage my grandchildren to climb small trees, balance along paths and stairs. It's always under my close supervision. I know there's a very small risk of a fall but it's good for their balancing skills and increases their confidence makes them think ahead. We count and talk as we go. My granddaughter over heared a mother tell her daughter it was a very stupid thing to do. I didn't hear, my granddaughter was a little upset and we talked it over. During the conversation she told me that some of her friends and one of her cousins had told her that her mum was getting fat. Now my daughter in law is very striking in a Spanish sort of way, I think very attractive. She has put on weight because of the drugs to control her serious illness. What I'm getting at is why aren't people kind anymore. If they can't be kind why don't they keep their opinions to themselves or at the very least explain to their offspring that everyone is different and has a different way of doing things and it's unkind and rude to pass remarks. Oh no it's a grumpy thread blush sorry.