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Worthingpatchworkers Tue 09-Feb-16 09:43:53

Is it just me or do you also dislike being referred to as guys. It's a term which has come over from America but is just being bandied about rather than being used with discretion. Whatever happened to considering appropriate terms for appropriate situations. Madam and Sir for mature clients of your business....they are not 'guys'. Guys is a term for your friends. I even heard one young male member of staff at a cinema refer to customers in a queue as 'you lot'. I was aghast....respect for people you are doing business with.

Bellasnana Tue 09-Feb-16 19:42:10

I can think of worse things to be called and don't mind being 'you guys'. I'm not, however, very keen on being called 'Madam'. It's old-fashioned and has connotations of being in charge of a brothel. grin

Stansgran Tue 09-Feb-16 19:15:30

I think I've earned madam.

Stansgran Tue 09-Feb-16 19:14:50

I'm not a guy I'm a doll .

pollyparrot Tue 09-Feb-16 17:31:28

I like the expression. Bring it on.

rosesarered Tue 09-Feb-16 16:55:19

Have never been addressed this way, but don't think it would overly bother me.Why the need though for waiters to ask anything other than ' Is everything alright for you?'

numberplease Tue 09-Feb-16 16:48:51

Nobody`s ever called me a guy, but I do get sweetheart quite a lot, I know some would hate it, but I quite like it.

Teetime Tue 09-Feb-16 15:18:59

I hate being called a guy and have said so on here often. I ask the waiter in restaurants not to address me like that and did so recently in Jamie's Italian as for burger joints, fast food places etc where this is normal practice well I don't go in there so that's OK. The Waitrose delivery man still calls me Madam and last week it was a charming Polish girl who brought our delivery who called me Madam it sounded delightful. Its not much to ask to be addressed properly. And while we are at it I hate being asked 'you alright there?' instead of 'can I help you?'.

JackyB Tue 09-Feb-16 14:49:30

On principle I don't object to it, but in my gut it does make me feel uncomfortable. Even in America.

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 09-Feb-16 14:30:14

Mr Ocado calls me Madam. I like it. smile

Anya Tue 09-Feb-16 14:20:35

Frankly guys, I couldn't give a damn..

janeainsworth Tue 09-Feb-16 14:03:53

Yes synonymous and the feeling's mutual grin
He is coming home for a few days next week (first time for over 3 years) and I can't wait to spoil him rotten smile

ninathenana Tue 09-Feb-16 13:37:47

I don't mind the informality of it and yes it's ageless but is it inclusive??
Last time I looked I had a bit missing that stopped me being a 'guy'

WilmaKnickersfit Tue 09-Feb-16 13:33:01

I like and use peeps too. smile

I also greet some friends and family saying "Hello Sweetie/Gorgeous/Sunshine/Sweetpea/Poppet" and they tell me they love it because it makes them smile and feel good.

Synonymous Tue 09-Feb-16 13:07:03

janeainsworth ratbags grin
DS clearly loves you to bits! smile

janeainsworth Tue 09-Feb-16 12:51:40

My DiL is American and addresses us as 'you guys'.
It doesn't bother me in the least.
DS addresses us as 'Ratbags' shock

loopylou Tue 09-Feb-16 12:48:24

It doesn't bother me, it's better than being ignored/invisible!

Alima Tue 09-Feb-16 12:44:13

Like others have said it is a friendly greeting. Also like "peeps" informally. I hate being greeted as madam. Surely "may I help you", "good morning" and so on are fine and do not need madam stuck on the end. It's even worse when they get the script wrong and call you "sir".

Lavande Tue 09-Feb-16 12:27:39

Don't mind at all.

cornergran Tue 09-Feb-16 12:17:47

This grumpy person just hates being called a guy.

TerriBull Tue 09-Feb-16 12:07:33

I don't have a problem with it all, my sons use it when addressing both of us, it's just a friendly and familiar term and I'm glad they feel they don't need to be formal, I wouldn't want that. There are far worse ways of addressing parents I'm sure. I don't particularly mind it coming from waiters/esses who I usually identify being a similar sort of age as my sons it's just their generation's "speak". Possibly I wouldn't expect it in a more formal setting, but I think I prefer informal anyway.

POGS Tue 09-Feb-16 11:24:34

As with 'kids' I don't really take any notice let alone get upset by it. It's like most things in life it depends on context I suppose .

midgey Tue 09-Feb-16 11:15:49

It is sooo much better than 'sweetie' or 'sug'!

ffinnochio Tue 09-Feb-16 11:06:02

I have no problem with it at all. It's inclusive and friendly.
This is the sort of pickiness that makes me want to use the expression get over yourself . wink

Indinana Tue 09-Feb-16 10:44:27

I don't mind it at all and, as obieone said, it is inclusive and non-ageist.
I have literally come to this thread from the one about ageist 'compliments' and the irony has made me smile. I'm beginning to think we'd all better stop using any form of address at all, either ageist or non-ageist. I wonder when people will start objecting to sir and madam grin

TriciaF Tue 09-Feb-16 10:36:26

It used to be "youse guys", New york slang. Better than Y'all though.