Thoughtful Posting

Ah yes, Camp coffee!
There was a bottle of sherry from last Christmas (or the one before) and a bottle of brandy for medicinal purposes in the sideboard in our house.

Imperfect meant well and I thought she put it very well. Not nice to discourage people who are trying to make things more pleasant for others.

No gin knocking about anywhere in our family j. We were lucky if we got a cup of Camp coffee.

Several pages since I left for the news yesterday!

I don't think the OP sounds teacherish at all but do think that some of the people who have accused her of being such and of being patronising have come across as such. Of course nothing wrong with being one but to use it as an accusation seems harsh to me. I think she has put the same old feelings which come up every now and again rather well, better than I did years ago when admittedly things were much worse.

They way we choose to interpret the intentions of a poster is up to us but I think it reflects our own personality and perhaps we should think what that says about us as individuals.

Jalima I know

Adjusts Pjs !

That's how I know I'm retired - 10:45 and still in my pjs . Oh well another coffee won't hurt

So I'm a "newdie"
just as well this is not video-linked NanandG

Probably lost on Gransnetters that's going to annoy me now not that it is lost on Gnetters but the reason .....
Unless you had a gin-soaked great aunt Jenny?

Thatbags ahhhh opinionated that's me

I've lurked a long time but only posted in the last couple of months . So I'm a "newdie " !! Hmmmmm might need to rethink that

I do like to be subtle.

they. not she

Her post was flouncing.

I called her "Jenny" for a reason. Probably lost on Gransnetters. I would never make a mistake with bags's name. Or ab's. Or *wilma drawers knickers fit. etc. etc. Perhaps because they are regular posters. And would be missed if she left.

That's all.

Elegran thanks for your response also.

Particularly resonates with your 2nd paragraph . Not something I'd given much thought to but can now see how that would impact.

Interesting stuff !

thatbags I see.
imo it's easier to modify your own behaviour and your reaction to other people's behaviour than to try to change theirs - without in any way being submissive to them. I have found that through experience, an example of which I posted on that other thread.

There's nowt so queer as folk as my DM used to say.

Actually, nanaandg, you've struck me as a jumper and joiner-inner of the kind I was describing. I've no idea if you're a relative newbie or a cranky old oldie like me!

True, Elegran

Thatbags appreciate the response.

Something to ponder over methinks .

Just read all today's posts and rather than repeat everything that's already been said by Jane, kitty, alea and bags I'll just say I supect Imperfect has no intention of moving on from any unpleasant threads she starts and will no doubt start up another one in due course.

We've had members like that before so we know what's what when it comes to someone who loves to get under people's skins.

Strange username for one who wants everything to be perfect.

I won't be able to get that Fairground Attraction song out of my head now.

Maybe not an intentional one Imperfect but that is how it came across from you.

Yawn

Nanaand g "Just a question - when do "relative newbies" become oldies in forum terms?" To reply to a genuine question with (I hope it comes over as that) a genuine answer - I don't think it is time exactly, more amount of posting and perhaps integration - by which I don't mean vanishing into the amorphous mass, but having had enough reciprocal conversations to no longer feel like a stranger parachuting in with unasked-for advice.

Very few people read all the posts in all the threads on all the topics on the Gransnet forums, so it is hit-and-miss whether a few posts have made a new member visible to everyone. Therefore, they don't instantly become a known voice, and the instinct is to think "Who is that, then, appearing from nowhere and wanting to regulate what has been going on successfully for so long?" A very natural and human reaction!

For instance - I personally feel more acquainted with NanaandGrampy than I do with Ginny42 or Imperfect27 - though this thread has increased my acquaintance with them both, particularly Imp who has had a lot of conversation with a lot of other posters and now seems much more three-dimensional. (Hope the abbreviation doesn't annoy, but it is shorter to type)

You can now see OP where this sort of thread leads, as Anya said in the first few posts! It was ( sorry but has to be said) a bit of a lecture.

Though, actually, you are perfectly entitled to chip as you were doing. It's just a bit irritating. But I should deal with that myself ?

As you were ?

I just think it's all been said and it would be better to leave it. I can take humour, love it.

if not of

I used the verb argue as equal to discuss, pol. Of you don't like the discussions on this thread, why are you here chipping in? There are plenty of others where all is sweetness and light and nobody discusses difficult ideas.

Nothing wrong with those, btw, but this isn't one of them. If you don't like it, I suggest, with humour, that you bugger off it . Otherwise, join in and discuss. Or just read it.