Thoughtful Posting

All quarrels and stuff.

What's ended? Like what?

I feel so sad that it's all ended like this

I quite fancy that for a username: Ginnyjingle

It is a pity that you are going, Ginny, as there are a lot of threads where you would not encounter any of that. It is only a few subjects, and a few posters, or people who only post harshly occasionally, it is by no means all posters, and by no means all threads.

Don't let one or two experiences colour your view of the whole thing, I am sure you don't let one or two experiences convince you that all people in real life are horrible.

I think that you will be missing a lot of comradeship and support.

But if you want to leave, that is your decision. I wish you well.

Sorry!

I think that's Ginny, Jingle...

Spot on absent!

We'll miss ya jenny.

I really thought this site had a lot to interest me, but just a little too frequently I find myself reading threads which, without rhyme or reason, are spoiled by people posting what I consider to be angry/inappropriate responses.

I PMd Imperfect because I thought the post telling her to 'get over herself' when she was upset after spending hours worrying about her daughter going through a difficult labour, only to receive news that all was well via a text, was insensitive and inappropriate. In my opinion it really was a case of if you cannot post something supportive, then better to refrain from posting.

Someone posted a very sarcastic reponse to me. I would never be deliberately rude to anyone, and for an anonymous person to be sarcastic towards me was offensive. Saying that, I do have a low tolerance level for rudeness, so I possibly take offence far quicker than another person who can adopt a neutral stance. Now some people might tell me to ‘just grow a pair’, but frankly I have no wish to and anyway I have no use for ‘a pair’.

I rarely have to deal with rude people in real life, but if I do my usual response is to get away from them. I do not need them in my life. I totally understand that it’s unrealistic to expect everyone in life to be nice and friendly, but I truly hadn’t expected to encounter so much rudeness in a forum for mature adults. I would not tolerate it in my 'real life', and I find no pleasure in reading such posts in a forum I joined for pleasure.

Comparisons with Mumsnet are unhelpful as it is no benchmark of common courtesy on a public forum.

On a website we have the luxury of choice, and having spent a little too much time reading and absorbing the tenor of many threads on GN I am now bowing out.

Thank you to those who befriended me. I appreciate your PMs very much.

wot my DH sometimes says to me that it's like living with the village idiot!

Jalima yes, an online flounce is a bit like in RL, except it's only a flounce when you take the time to tell the other posters you're going to flounce, the point being you could have just left the thread without posting again.

bags I used to skim over words too that I didn't know how to pronounce and then when I read Frank Herbert's Dune series, I realised I actually gave those words a sound.

absent I love your post. It would have taken me hours to compose my thoughts into such a well written post.

Oh I like mizzled Jalima. Must remember that one

A boyfriend once said my brain was like Lynford Christie. Mind you, he was a thicko!

Are we done now? Truce.

I've always been guilty of going off on a tangent but offer no apologies for it

Three conversations at once are even better. Sorry, must go and eat my tea.

Online multi-tasking

I always thought that misled was pronounced mizzled.
It would be very easy to get mizzled on GN.

I do like it when two conversations are going on simultaneously. Easier to keep up online that in real life, when they really are simultaneous.

Not everyone appreciates wordplay. I remember saying "monotony" to mean "monogamy" once, as a joke. It was received with puzzlement and a hint of, "Has she made a Freudian slip, and does she mean her OH?"

DH and I did it too - for some reason French words featured prominently, such as 'oyzox' and 'erfs'...

Just catching up with this thread.
Seeing some habitually abrasive posters getting emotional over (what I perceive as) flippant remarks is seriously amusing.

I meant the fabric not moveable feasts or whatever. I getting cross with predictive texts making everything silly.

Harking back to something I posted earlier above, about the deliberately agggressive posts which sometimes erupt - today five posts from one unfamiliar poster have been deleted. I remember a couple of them, which I thought looked strange. They must have been reported to GNHQ, who decided they breached the guidelines. That is what to do with a nasty post - report it. It may seem like "clyping" to teacher, but it means that they are dealt with and the poster warned.

My dad did that too, elegran. MrBags and I still use many of Minibags's toddler words. She was very creative