New baby

This is similar to how I felt when my second grandchild was on the way. I have just one child, a son, for the same reason, i.e. I could never imagine loving another child as much as him, and fell head over heels for my grandson when he was born.
When my granddaughter was born two years later I could not get close to her for ages, especially as my DIL kept her very much to herself (she was breastfed only for the first six months unlike my grandson, who was passed around from day one).
She is now 5 and we are starting to get closer, but I cannot say that I love her as much as my grandson, although I would never admit this to the children.
There is now another little girl on the way, due in May (unplanned, unexpected, but now very much wanted) and quite strangely I find myself hugely looking forward to her. She feels like a bonus baby, something I never thought would happen, and I will make the most of it.

I'm quite sure you'll fall head over heels when the new baby is born. However, I do have similar worries if we are lucky enough to have another GC. The one we have is 2 but was born prematurely and very small so there was added worry surrounding her birth. She has been so fortunate to have no real problems. The circumstances of her birth mean that she is extra special to us I think, even more than if she'd had a normal full-term birth.
If DD was to have another it would obviously be a concern of the same thing happening again as I think the probability is 50/50.
On balance, I would like another wee bundle to love though ... and number 2 would surely be special too! ?

That's right Indinana they do bring their own supply of love with them. My first grandchildren were twins so there was no question of a No1.The second 2 are equally loved although I did wonder if they would be as we don't see them as much.

There is only 14 months between my two DC. When I was about 7 months pregnant with DD, I can remember so clearly a particular moment - I was walking upstairs, carrying my one year old DS. He was still, of course, very much a baby. As I climbed the stairs the unborn baby kicked strongly and it brought tears to my eyes to think that in two months this new baby would be demanding my attention, my love. All the attention and love that was my baby son's by rights. I actually felt jealous of the 'interloper' on behalf of my little boy.
Of course, when she was born that was when I realised that she brought her own supply of love with her.

Well put Indinana. I don't think I ever had such reservations myself and I certainly have enough love for all my ever increasing family.

How beautifully you have put it Indinana.
I too felt the same before DD2 was born, and similarly before the birth of DGD2.

Can't say anything better than what Indinana has written.

Lovely post Indinana

Thank you everyone. I am sure everything will be ok xx

Jayney715 - Don't worry!

I felt the same when DC2 was on the way - I thought I could never love another baby as much as I love DC1. Then a wise friend, and mum of four, said 'Every child brings their own love with them when they are born'

It's true.

Thank you xx

Jayney715 I know what you mean in fact I felt just like that when my second child was on the way.

My DGS1 was two and a bit when his little brother was born. I had got to know DGS1 well and he was old enough to have his own lovely personality. DGS2 is only 9mnth a usually jolly baby but he already seems a very different personality to his older brother.
The good feeling will come when you first pick up and hold the new little one.

There will always be a special place in your heart for your first grandchild because his/her arrival turned you into a grandparent but any future DGCs will bring just as much joy.

Love is not a finite product, which has to be shared equally among all your loved ones, getting thinner and thinner the further it is spread. Quite the opposite - the more people you love, the more love you have. When your new GC is here you will find a brand new supply of love for him/her while the love you have for your first GC remains intact. There is no limit to the amount of love the human heart can hold . Enjoy your new little one.

Oh Jayney715, you seem in a pickle. I think the first grandchild is very special and like you I wondered how I could love subsequent grandchildren as much. But I do....we now have four with a fifth due in a fortnight (also having lost twin grandsons). I am totally overwhelmed with love for all of them but I think deep in the recesses if my heart number 1 grandchild has a special place although I would not admit this openly! I never had grandparents so I am finding the bond I have with the little ones absolutely amazing. I love the fact that my husband is so interactive with them too. Don't feel sad..it will work out.