Do you always say exactly what you think?

"Oh yes, didn't you know. Well my life is far to interesting and fulfilling to be bothered with cleaning"

It was rude of her kitty and not just plain speaking.
We can't say just anything that pops into our heads.

"was I speaking to you" may have fallen from my lips..

"I beg your pardon?"

Though actually, that kind of rudeness is probably best ignored.

How rude
'Of course I can. Whatever makes you think that people have cleaners because they're unable to do it themselves?' might have got the message across

I feel horrified at the thought of being confrontational with anyone.
I'd far rather walk away or stop seeing someone that was intentionally rude to me. I just cannot 'do' arguments. never have, never will.

I think I would have said No Why should I?

I have some friends, a couple, who if asked anything are brutally truthful. For example we were talking about weight problems and the husband friend said about his wife to her face 'Jane is fat because she can't say no to food' !
I was horrified but she just accepted it as fact.

Well, if it is fact, why not accept it? If she is 'brutally' honest as well, she probably says similar things to him. If they still get on, why worry?

I wish I'd said what I thought yesterday. I went for a smear and the nurse was really bolshy. She immediately took my BP as soon as I got throught the door, no pleasantries, no smile, just harshness. BP up. Smear performed, BP took again, still up. Told to go back in two weeks. Not bloody likely, not to her anyway.

I also had a blood test, so if I do have any problems it will be highlighted and the raised BP could be a symptom of that. Some nurse she is.

I am currently working with my GP to change/find the balance of my medication to get BP under control as well as starting losing weight regime. She asked none of this.

I did phone the surgery later as it still upset me with her offhand attitude. I wanted to let them know how she had performed. I give credit when it is due so only fair to criticise when that is due too, imo.

What got me was that as she had just finished the smear, she looked at a chart on the wall of cervix(s) and made a strange face. I asked if all was ok and she just said "yes" but didn't really put my mind at rest. These tests are bad enough without someone looking mortified when seeing your insides!

I sat/lay there like a scaredy cat, I'm not usually like that these days but she was really imposing. I wish I had said something to her now and then had my smear done by a lady doctor. It's the second one with the nurses anyway, the first one didn't collect enough cells to be tested. So nervous enough about it. Great bedside manner. Usually great nurses, just the odd one who isn't, unfortunately.

I would if I thought quickly enough have said "doesn't everyone have a cleaner?"

She was very rude and could have asked in a more polite way. I hope you will be ready for her if there is a next time with "are you always so rude." Always ask a question then the other person has to find an answer.

So, to the nurse, "Do you always frown at people's genitals?"

kittylester I think it's fine to say what you think (politely) if you feel it is important to put matters straight or if it is a matter of principle.

In the case you mention, I think this woman was rude. If someone had spoken to me in such a way, I know I would be absolutely lost for words but I think a comment like that deserves a very sharp retort.

Or, as you say she is a nice person, was it just meant to be a joke?

Saying what you think is just an excuse for being rude in my humble opinion ! The woman who said `can`t you do your own cleaning` is possibly jealous but I wouldn`t want someone to do my cleaning . I would have to clean up first before they came lol !

How lovely not to have to do your own cleaning. How unfortunate to have to do not only your own but other people's as well.

Where are the men in all of this?

I used to have a yoga teacher who told is "whatever you say you are making a statement about yourself as much as about what you think you are talking about" - food for thought

As I've got older I must admit I do say what I mean a lot more but on the whole I always think it but don't say it as you say this lady has a heart of gold as many who are outspoken do and at least you always know where you stand with them and usually if we are offended it means they might of hit a nerve and give us cause for thought.

I prefer to do other people's rather than my own. Much more rewarding. They appreciate it. I do love mopping a tiled floor though.

As a young person I always said what I thought & it got me in alot of trouble. I'm a young grandma (43) & have learned to kerb my tongue. My mum on the other hand was always meek but in recent years has lost the ability to keep her thoughts to herself much to my embarrassment! I have been wondering if she has dementia (not just because of this)

My lovely cleaner 'does' for lots of people in the village. She held quite a responsible position locally bu then circumstances caused so much stress she had to leave. She enjoys cleaning (though her own house is a tip!) and keeping busy.

I count her as one of my friends. She often drops in for a chat if something is bothering her. As the outspoken one should know! She wasn't joking!

I often open my mouth and put my foot straight in at. One of my friends was appalled when I commented on the cause of the illness of a mutual acquaintance, but my finest hour was suggesting that a friend who goes extremely brown at the slightest hint of sun, had 'a touch of a tar brush'. Politically incorrect or what?? I do still have some friends.

Most of the people who think they are being 'honest' and 'speaking as they find' would be horrified if others were as blunt to them. I have a close relative who pushes her religious, political and dietary opinions on others unasked thinking she is doing them all a favour but who would be offended if she were 'called' on any view. She thinks she is right and that others do not disagree because they know she's right too. They don't say anything because they are too polite to disagree!

Off topic, I know, I like doing my own cleaning, and other peoples.

I started having a cleaner when I had a hip replaced a few years ago, just to look after the vaccing and floor mopping. I still have her come & were now very good friends.

I cant see anything wrong with having help around the house if working full time or, as applies to me, ill health or just anno domini.
It does give folk a job and reduces the stress on the receiver !