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What an end to 2015!

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kittylester Fri 01-Jan-16 21:36:46

We are happy with the care home generally - the staff are much kinder to Mum than I would be and she was the second resident that morning to require emergency intervention. They do ring me often and did apologise for missing ringing me.

I have spent 7 hours at the hospital today, initially as I thought Mum was about to die and then keeping a check on the staff sad who were just inefficient and hopeless - there seemed to be no management structure at all. I was so disappointed, as I keep telling people that the NHS is wonderful.

hildajenniJ Fri 01-Jan-16 14:31:25

kitty, have you made it known to the home that you would like to be informed about any changes in your Mum's condition? If you have said only contact in an emergency, then I wonder what the home considers to be an emergency? I have worked in several care homes, and find that you have to be very specific about your wishes. I am glad that your Mum is recovering now, but what an ordeal. Out of hours GP services are terrible. They always told us that a doctor would call within SIX hours! Sometimes they did, sometimes they didn't.

Luckygirl Fri 01-Jan-16 11:46:35

I am sorry that your year ended like this - what a good thing you went in to visit and spotted the problem! Good news that she is improving - HNY to you and yours!

annsixty Fri 01-Jan-16 10:20:24

I hope you are both recovering well now. When my mum was in residential care I often felt I was rung over trivial matters but at least I was able to decide if I needed to go or not, guided by them. Better safe than sorry.

Lona Fri 01-Jan-16 10:11:05

That's very upsetting kitty as you've been happy with the care home up to now I think. Hope your mum is feeling better today.

Teetime Fri 01-Jan-16 09:59:58

That's sounds really upsetting. I can see that you are visiting her this morning in the home so I'm glad she is a little better but perhaps when its all calmed down you will share your distress with the care home manager!

ninathenana Fri 01-Jan-16 09:08:18

Shockingly handled by the CH and how distressing for you flowers
Glad mum is improving.

grannylyn65 Fri 01-Jan-16 09:03:25

This is really bad practise, having worked in Care Home for many years I can tell you that common practise on admission is to ask family if they want to be contacted under any circumstances or only during day. You would probably be surprised how many do Not want to be contacted during night!
Hope things continue to improve ??

Nelliemoser Fri 01-Jan-16 08:51:43

Kitty They should have rung one or other of her family, but at least they did what they should medical wise.

cornergran Fri 01-Jan-16 08:25:29

What a Horrible experience for you and your Mum. Communication is so important. Hope the home understands that now and your Mum improves.

Alea Fri 01-Jan-16 08:18:39

Oh kittyl - and breathe!
Glad it turned out well, but how worrying the care home's actions must be. I hope you can steer them in a better direction when things get back to normal, but in the meantime, more worry and stress for you.

kittylester Fri 01-Jan-16 07:52:13

Yesterday morning I went to visit Mum in the care home and was shocked to find her still in bed and really struggling for breath. She had been on antibiotics for a week to try to clear her chest infection and had appeared to be getting better. The staff had called the gp (twice) and the critical response team. Eventually, they called 999 and mum was blue lighted to hospital - with me going along for the ride.

I was livid with the home as they didn't ring either of my brothers or me to say how serious it was, although they did all the right things as far as mum is concerned. The paramedics and the hospital staff were brilliant (though some of them could have had a better bedside manner) but I was really shocked that the gp didn't appear within 5 hours and nor did the CRT.

Mum was loads better when I left last night!