Thank you to all you lovely people for your kind comments. I woke up this morning feeling positive having had the opportunity to let off steam in writing. It is uplifting and helpful reading all your comments. Last night I felt like distancing myself from my daughter, but today I decided life is too short to let this ruin my relationship with her. The many helpful advice has given me the impetus to arrange to meet with her on our own without the children so we can talk. I will bear in mind the comments about not apologizing again.
My mother brought up 3 children on her own having been abandoned by my father. She was self sacrificing and always on hand to help but I remember when she was getting older and unable to help as much there was a sense of loss and resentment on my part for the role reversal with me being the parent and she the child. As our children get older and become parents themselves I assume some adopt the parental role with their own parents, telling them off as we did when they were children. I am not decrepit yet so not quite ready to be treated as a child. Wish me luck. Again thank you all for your supportive comments. 
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