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He's gone and i'm lost

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Crow Sat 14-Nov-15 20:11:52

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It does take a lot of time to come to terms with this huge loss.
My DH died at the end of March. There are good days and bad days.
As Ana says so wisely, give it time.

Alea Sat 14-Nov-15 19:55:27

Oh Sheridan I am so sorry and can only offer my deepest sympathy for your loss. It is early days so don't beat yourself up, the memories of the good times will return eventually, but not yet.
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Ana, I had no idea that you were bereaved so recently and send my sincere condolences to you too flowers

Ana Sat 14-Nov-15 19:49:12

I feel for you, Sheridan. It's been over a year since my DH died but it's very hard to come to terms with the anger and the guilt (because I feel I should have known sooner how ill he actually was).

Give it time, grief affects everyone differently and you will eventually get used to your situation and perhaps find a bit of sparkle somewhere in the future. I know it's hard. flowers

stillhere Sat 14-Nov-15 19:40:40

I am so very sorry, Sheridan. It's still very early days yet, really. Wouldn't it be great if we were fitted with an 'emotions off' switch that we could use at times like this, but what you are doing is perfectly normal. I wish I could give you a hug. x

Sheridan112 Sat 14-Nov-15 19:35:27

I'm doing what I do every Saturday, I'm counting the hours down until a particular time on a Saturday night. It's the time my partner died. It's been a some months now but I can't stop doing it. I can't get past the fact that he knew he was dying and could do nothing about it. He must have thought off these days when he would not be here and I am now living them. I have really tried to remember the wonderful times and there were so many years of them but I can't get past the months of watching him die and being bloody angry it. The family have been great, keeping me busy with grandchildren and the like but when asked how I am I can't keeping saying no, I'm lost and without him by my side life has lost sparkle.