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A Summer School Holiday

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M0nica Thu 18-Aug-16 20:55:44

I haven't even reached starting point and I am already pulling my hair out.

It has taken three months to get D & DDiL to finalise when they will be visiting and when DGD will come to see us on her own this summer. We agreed that we will collect DGD next Tuesday and they will arrive Sunday. A few weeks later DS says they will arrive Saturday evening so we suggest DGD will be collected Monday so as not to cut short her visit. I thought we had agreed this.

Have spent most of this week trying to talk to DDiL, fractionally more organised than DS. Finally speak to DS this evening. He still thought we were collecting DGD on Tuesday and she is now booked to do something else on Monday. Then he announces that they will be with us Saturday lunch time not evening, which trashes our plans for outing with DGD on Saturday.

They were meant to be staying a week, but he says they now have to go home on Thursday DDiL is leaving her job and it is something to do with leaving date and leave allowances. I had given up listening in any detail by then.

As I said I am exhausted before the visits even start - and I am willing to bet that there will be further last minute changes.

Greyduster Thu 18-Aug-16 17:17:29

holidays in close contact with family can be fraught. You can say that again! We have just had a week away with our two children, their partners and our nine year old grandson, staying in a large cottage. I knew when I booked it it probably wasn't a good idea, as my two only get on at arms length and my daughter, especially, can be difficult - and she was, with knobs on. At the end of the first day she was totally stressed out in a way that only she can be and struggled for the rest of the week to be part of the company. By Wednesday I said to DH that I was ready to pack up and go home, but he is a strong rudder in a rough sea and convinced me it would all blow over. By Thursday, he was ready to pack up and go home!! Things had settled down by Friday - then DD et al went home! My poor daughter in law, who had never holidayed with us before and I doubt she will again, sailed serenely through it all being lovely to everyone. But at least the weather was great! I love my daughter to distraction, and she sincerely is one of the loveliest, most caring people you could meet, but it seems that holidaying with other people is a bridge too far for her.

Luckygirl Thu 18-Aug-16 16:14:41

I think it might be best to let it lie - if they have anything to say they will say it; if not hopefully things will settle down.

Holidays in close contact with family can be fraught and highlight small fault lines - keep your fingers crossed, we are off with one family on Saturday!

Antiqueanne Thu 18-Aug-16 15:16:26

Help! Had a fabulous two week holiday with son, daughter in law and grandsons 12 and 8. All went really well. Got home Saturday afternoon. Sunday off and then grandsons for the next week. All fine, although older one poorly for a couple of days and then Friday morning drop off d in law a bit strange. Invited to Sunday lunch with them all ok. Had next day off and Tuesday the younger one ill. Took them home and son a bit strange. Older one says we won't see them for long time! Should I chase this up or let sleeping dogs lie. Feeling anxious, but can't believe we have done anything wrong.

Nonnie Tue 18-Aug-15 11:44:59

If the twins are any good at ballet it will get worse! My advice is never to let children dance unless they are totally uncoordinated!

I know adults as disorganised as this, just go with the flow.

vegasmags Tue 18-Aug-15 11:31:57

What a nightmare! Could it be they don't get it together because kind adults are always bailing them out? smile

Luckygirl Tue 18-Aug-15 11:29:53

Please go and lie down! I feel very tired indeed after reading this - I think I will go and lie down too! - any excuse.

tigger Tue 18-Aug-15 11:19:45

It's not so much a new discussion but a winge now that we are well into the school holidays. We have nine grandchildren which includes a set of twins (12 years old).Their mother was off to visit inlaws for the weekend but twins wanted to attend an audition so we agreed to look after them for the weekend, and deliver them safely to the audition venue. Compiled a check list for them on Friday evening overnight bags etc and they were due to arrive following their dancing class on Saturday morning.

Izzy arrives first looking stressed, she had forgotten her overnight bag and had also forgotten her house key to retrieve it.

Not to worry we have a key and can collect it later.

Hannah follows shortly after demanding to know why Izzy had not brought her (Hannah's) dance bag back with her. "you said you would, no I didn't, yes you did" etc. Not to worry we could collect it later with the overnight bag. Escaped to the hairdresser for two hours, came home, rounded up twins and searched for the house
key.

Informed by husband that Alex (older brother to twins) had collected house key because he was locked out and had been told to return it asap. Telephoned Alex who was now on the motorway with mother. "Sorry" he bleated several times. Contacted oldest grandchild who was due to join us later for a meal, who informed us that she had received a better offer and was eating elsewhere. Managed to nail her to her front door until we retrieved missing items.

All was well, nice meal, followed by film, followed by bed.

8.30am Sunday morning, twins roused from sleep. 8.50am discovered Hannah plaiting Izzy's hair. Bathroom bypassed, breakfast bypassed. A plaintiff cry could be heard as they exited the house "I've lost a ballet shoe" at which point I buried my head under the duvet.

Delivered to Granny Jean at venue who was supervising a group of friends.
Peace!!! Telephone call received early afternoon, audition over could they go and play at Granny Jean's house. Spoke with Granny Jean, confirmed her address would pick twins up at 6.00pm.

Panic phone call from husband at 6.15pm arrived at Granny Jean, no reply. This confirmed my worst fear, Granny Jean was really a slave trader who had whisked the girls off to God only knows where. However after much banging and bell ringing Grandad Jean staggered to the door, awakened from his Sunday afternoon kip and rescued girls from the garden who had of course left their mobile phones in the house so could not hear the frantic calls.

Twins fed Sunday roastie, packed up and sent off on the five minute walk home with strict instructions to telephone immediately they arrived home. Ha Ha, no call.

The end of a perfect weekend! Have informed DIL it will be at least six months before I recover from the stress of it all and will not be volunteering during this time.

What's wrong with these kids, why can't they get it together?