Dilemma, should Dad still be driving?

He seems to have a life at he enjoys, so why stop it! We all have minor bumps now and then.

Start chatting to your Dad about stopping driving sometime in the future to give him time to get used to the idea that this will happen eventually. Reassess when his licence needs reviewing in 18mths. Meanwhile, embrace his independence.
Good luck.

Two of my aunties were still driving in their nineties, like your DF, just local trips. Aunty in UK stopped after she had a few minor bumps (catching the gatepost to her driveway, clipping her wall) and Aunty in the US did similar in the local supermarket car park. Both had been very experienced drivers (US Aunty used to do a 6000 mile roundtrip every summer when she was in her late seventies!), but knew for themselves when it felt the right time to give up. I think perhaps men find it a harder decision to make. Apologies for sounding sexist! If your DF has had a minor bump it may just be a case of wait and see.

Oh dear - I expect his insurance premiums will rocket as well...

Hi ana, the car wasn't worth much & you know what they are like nowadays, they write them off at the drop of a hat. Unfortunately it wasn't me & my husband who sorted that one out!, might have been different.

Hi soontobe. I agree that he's still able to work so that counts for something. Medically, he had a heart bypass 18months ago and he was driving again within 3 months. The doctors said that in respect of the surgery he was now SAFER because he had had a problem corrected, where as prior to the op he could have collapsed at the wheel at any time. ..... That said, isn't it true for all of us?

If he only had a small bump, why has he got to look for another car?

Thank you all, yes this is how my husband & I think about it. His eyes are fine and yes he could get public transport but he couldn't just stop off and watch a cricket match if he felt like it. This is what the rest of the family are missing. They think as long as he can get to work & back and take a taxi out for his tea he will be ok. But what does he do for the rest of the time... On his day off? The thing is, it cost him nearly £30 to go out for egg and chips the other night because it was almost £10 each way in a taxi for a start! He has NEVER really cooked for himself since Mum died over 20 years ago so he's not going to start now & I worry he will live off soup, crisps & cake! I work with the elderly and know that once you take away their independence it is the beginning of the end. Sorry to be so gloomy!

It's a difficult decision, we have a similar issue with 87 year old fil. He stays in a very small village with a minimal bus service so taking away his car would leave him housebound. He's finding it very hard after Mil died in October, so we haven't suggested anything about the car. He pops down to next village (5 miles) every morning for his papers and lunchtime roll, other than that he goes for his shopping once a week, the doctor or visits the cemetery. He's not bad behind the wheel, just s bit more hesitant perhaps at junctions. I would leave your dad to his own devices as long as he's not s danger to himself or other road users. I think he'll know himself when to stop.

I suspect that if he is able to do a part time job at a supermarket for 3 days a week, then he is fit to drive.
Having said that, I dont suppose he would ask a doctor's advice? We are not privy to all his medical information on here.

I feel really sorry for this man - one small bump in his car and the whole family's arguing about whether he should be forced off the road!

80 isn't such a great age these days, and as pompa says, dodgy knees and forgetfulness are no bar to driving. Unless you feel he's a danger to himself and/or others I think it would be a huge blow for him to have to give up his outings and possibly his job.

I agree with pompa. Also when did he last have an eye test?

Could he get to his job using public transport or is he reliant on his car?

Dodgy knees and forgetfulness are no bar to driving, I would have had to give up years ago.
What matters are his reactions and ability to concentrate. How safe do you feel when a passenger in his car ?