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Is it more interesting to be a woman?

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Jane10 Sun 03-May-15 09:51:09

I do see myself as a feminist but have been fortunate not to have suffered much discrimination in life. I sometime almost feel sorry for men. Are our lives as girls then women more open to subtleties and layers of interest? I like men -am married to one and am mother and gran to boys. What do people think? Note this is intended as a reflective thread rather than an argumentative one!

Jane10 Wed 06-May-15 12:25:46

I've been thinking about it all again. There's something awful about the aggression some males feel is somehow OK to express. Of course this doesn't apply to all men but somehow you don't seem to find (so many) young women who regard a punch up as a good end to a night out. As women, we are crucially aware of the risks of being attacked and raped if out alone at night but there are risks for men too. I'm speaking personally here: my DS was attacked by a gang when walking home late one night. What a mess they made of him. Fortunately he's more or less OK now (apart from a distorted nose after its being broken by the bastardsyoung scamps. His friend was less lucky this weekend in a similar situation. He has now lost an eye. Its appalling.
How can people make themselves do such awful things to another person? I just simply couldn't kick someone in the head etc.
Is there something about men having different levels of empathy? I can't even watch Casualty as I'm always thinking "that's someone's husband/daughter/family etc.
I do remember Sandi Toksvig once saying that wars should be fought by Nanas. We'd all have to come on a bus, we'd all have to go for a wee then share photos of DGSs with the opposing Nanas, have a nice cup of tea/glass of wine and just sort it all out.
Sorry rambling!

petallus Wed 06-May-15 12:50:22

In Sunday's Observer there was an article about a young woman in a Kenyan village who had been brutally raped by six men. She suffered severe physical injuries.

In today's Guardian there was an article about the targetting by sex traffickers of female quake victims who are forced to work in brothels, seeing many men per day seven days a week. Why do so called decent men visit these places?

Not many women do these things.

What does it all say about the differences between men and women?

Bogoff Wed 06-May-15 13:32:30

Jane/Petullus

What you describe is the worst of men, but let's get it in perspective, they are a tiny minority of men world wide and IMO an even smaller minority of men in Britain. I know many men (not intimately, I would add) and none of them behave in such a manner.
There is no doubt that women are, as the norm, treated as objects in some countries, that is abhorrent.
Regarding the way young men behave after a night out, the vast majority that enjoy themselves and go home quietly do not make news, so we do not see them. The minority of thugs are the ones we hear about.
Whilst women may not fight, the drunken sights we see on TV are nothing to be proud of.

I'm not sure what this has to do with your OP Jane, which I thought was interesting.

Jane10 Wed 06-May-15 14:20:13

I suppose its a difference. Probably testosterone has a lot to do with it. I'm glad that I seem to be more mediated by progesterone and oestrogen. My Dad always said that there should be a specific 'war area' and young men could go and fight for a bit -no special cause just reds vs blues or similar and get it out of their systems before coming home to families. An interesting thought but he was an interesting man!