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Is wolf-whistling a sex crime?

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annsixty Tue 28-Apr-15 08:46:40

The DT is reporting that police are investigating after a young woman complained after "lecherous" builders whistled at her. At risk of being shot down, when I was young and in my prime I would have complained if they didn't whistle at me.

soontobe Sun 03-May-15 13:33:26

If a man shouted, across the road, to a woman, "I like your tits", would that be a sex crime?

I doubt that comes under being a sex crime.
It might be harassment though? Though not sure if it is a one off.

It goes back to is it the flirty fun sort or the other sort.

I do think that young people are not aware of how bad a crime has to be before there are any serious legal consequences.

Galen Sun 03-May-15 13:33:35

Saw it at Stratford with captain Von Trapp playing Richard.
Unforgettable performance.

Ana Sun 03-May-15 13:35:09

Oh, the joy of crossed posts! grin

Soutra Sun 03-May-15 13:37:15

Did he sing too? tcrgrin
Oh dear, I used to think Christopher Plummer was so sexy-expect I shouldn't say that on this thread sad
#windowshoppinglookingnottouching

rosequartz Sun 03-May-15 13:38:02

shock I really thought better of Captain von Trapp! Especially in genteel Stratford.

Oh I see - X posts!

Soutra Sun 03-May-15 13:39:01

And if he had shouted it Ana it would have been in a mellifluous Shakespearean baritone I expect!

Soutra Sun 03-May-15 13:39:55

First time I have actually laughed on GN for a while!

rosequartz Sun 03-May-15 13:41:39

as long as you looked and admired and didn't whistle or comment Soutra

(That was a lighthearted riposte which in no way reflects my views on a serious discussion.)
going back to my cupboard cleaning now.

Ana Sun 03-May-15 13:41:41

Me too! I am literally laughing as I type! tcrgrin

Soutra Sun 03-May-15 13:45:16

"Laughter the best medicine " used to be the title of the jokes section of Readers' Digest, it has certainly worked for me in the last 5 minutes. tcrsmile

rosequartz Sun 03-May-15 13:48:00

He's 85 and still dishy wink
(am I allowed to say that?)

loopylou Sun 03-May-15 13:56:31

I agree!
Very dishy grin

Galen Sun 03-May-15 14:17:00

I concur

Mishap Sun 03-May-15 14:20:25

Personally I find this objectification of men on the basis of their looks entirely inappropriate. wink

Nelliemoser Sun 03-May-15 15:00:14

Oh dear! All I think of when I look at a man is not his his body, but his facial expression to try and get an idea of his personality.

Give me a couple of hours grilling him chatting with him before I can get a clue whether he would be worth bothering with. I would think any man who goes flaunting his body would be likely to make me think he is far too vain and full of his own importance.

I would be looking for someone with a good brain, but must have a sense of humour which is like mine. He would need good social skills.
I have now lived too long with someone who takes every remark I make as an opportunity for a serious discussion and wants to do this with any silly observation or throwaway line I am prone to making.

All the good ones are usually taken.

rosequartz Sun 03-May-15 15:08:09

It's his acting skills that attract me
(And his lovely smile)
I haven't seen his body wink - does he flaunt it?
I may like to bother with him but he probably wouldn't bother with me!

rosequartz Sun 03-May-15 15:18:12

Haste ye back to the cupboard whence you came Mistress Quartz

soontobe Sun 03-May-15 15:21:36

Feminists who appear to object to women objectification dont appear to object to men objectification. Or at least, dont vocalise it. So it cant really be the objectification itself that upsets them, can it?
Is it the power that men have over women that bothers them?
Else it would have to be double standards and I dont think that it is that.

Personally, I dont get hot and bothered by men that I am not married to. I am a bit like Nelliemoser I think. I am interested in what personality they have.
My husband also got grillings chats too, Nelliemoser!

rosequartz Sun 03-May-15 15:26:38

confused
It was all a joke
You know, where you are supposed to smile or even lol?

Lost in Translation.

amarmai Sun 03-May-15 15:29:15

I think you are correct, Soon , re phrasing insults and slander so as to get away with it e.g. bellanonna's nasty personal attack on G2 is allowed to remain apparently because she uses the phrase 'sounds like' . It takes a special kind of 'brain' and a lifetime of practice to get good enuf at this to escape being deleted. Another tecnic used by several GNers is to type the slander or insult or lie and follow it up by adding -of course i am not saying this about you/who ever they named.

rosequartz Sun 03-May-15 15:40:07

I wasn't having a go at soon - and she knows I wasn't, I'm sure.
Just that I hope that soon and nelliemoser did not take a jokey riposte seriously, and I do realise they were getting back to a more serious conversation.
smile soon and nelliemoser

[woodenspoon]

soontobe Sun 03-May-15 15:44:56

smile I understand.

Eloethan Sun 03-May-15 17:21:00

soontobe You obviously haven't read the whole of this thread. I, and several others, find the objectification/humiliation/subjugation of men equally as offensive as the objectification/humiliation/subjugation of women.

Eloethan Sun 03-May-15 17:23:13

Though, sadly, women are much more likely on balance to be objectified/humiliated/subjugated than men.

soontobe Sun 03-May-15 17:35:17

But I havent seen it mentioned on many other threads. Just this one. Just saying.
It is not on the Poldark one. It is not on various tv ones as far as I can remember. Nothing. Which hardly makes it equal.

I suppose it comes back to being jokey. Which I dont have a problem with.