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I am very sad today

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Katek Tue 14-Apr-15 10:04:21

Last night I received an email from the daughter of an old friend to let me know that her mother can no longer eat, drink or speak and has only a matter of a few weeks at most. She was living independently until 8 weeks ago when her health took a dramatic downturn, it seemed to start with odd behaviour like giving away the contents of her freezer, and has progressed rapidly from there. Docs can't say exactly what's wrong despite numerous tests, but are coming down on the side of the small cell disease she had suddenly worsening.

She was such a unique and vibrant person, an actress with the most beautifully modulated voice. She was totally off the wall and we had such great fun when the children were small. I remember her baking an elephant cake for playgroup and us trying to cut it into 24 equal pieces!

Such a sad thing to happen to her

dustyangel Tue 14-Apr-15 10:19:47

I'm so sorry KateK. It must be very hard to think of your once vibrant friend this way. I hope the happy memories will help you.flowers

Soutra Tue 14-Apr-15 10:21:05

How sad. I wonder if she is still aware of having her family around her? If so I hope it will bring a shred of comfort and that the happy memories they and you must have, will soon wipe out the sadness of the next few weeks. For everybody's sake, I hope it is not too drawn-out. flowers oh dear, is that wrong of me?

AshTree Tue 14-Apr-15 10:28:17

I am so sorry to read this KateK. It's terribly sad to see lifelong friends, people who were full of energy and fun, suddenly reaching the end of the line like this.
As others have said, you must have so many lovely memories (and photos!) that I hope will carry you through and stay with you. flowers

Katek Tue 14-Apr-15 10:30:34

Thanks DustyA and Soutra. No, I don't think that's wrong of you Soutra, when there's no way back one can only hope that the end is not protracted. She would hate to be like this.

Katek Tue 14-Apr-15 10:33:17

And thank you too AshTree.

Marelli Tue 14-Apr-15 10:50:31

Katek, some flowers for you. I cannot imagine what it must be like to be losing a close friend. x

Agus Tue 14-Apr-15 10:53:38

I am so sorry to hear this about your dear friend Katek.

This, I think, must be one of the most heartbreaking experiences when we lose a loved one.

I hope when you remember how much your friend enriched your life and the many happy memories you have it will help you bear the sadness. flowers

MiniMouse Tue 14-Apr-15 11:05:30

Your friend sounds a wonderful character Katyk Have you got a photo of her in happier times that you can keep with you to remind you of the 'real' her? flowers

Mishap Tue 14-Apr-15 11:11:48

That is sad - but it sounds as though her death is likely to be fairly quick, and, for such a vibrant character, it is good that she will not be subjected to a long drawn-out period of decline.

I hope that her passing is peaceful and that happy memories will sustain you all.

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