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Is trust an issue on Gransnet?

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absent Wed 11-Feb-15 20:36:43

The idea that it is necessary to trust other Gransnetters has been raised a couple of times. However, we post only the information about ourselves and the views we promulgate that we choose to post and we know that this is a public forum that anyone, including non-members, can access freely. We choose whether to put personal information in a profile. Occasionally, we have new posters who are out to cause mischief but they are usually nipped in the bud by GNHQ aided and abetted by members with a keen nose for BS.
Would it really matter if I were not a 64-year-old atheist grandmother of five, with left-leaning political views, living in New Zealand, but was actually a defrocked Conservative gay vicar of 30 living in Wandsworth? Silly and tiresome but hardly serious and a charade that even the most intelligent would find difficult to maintain. (Quite a few North-East and Scottish grannies will have an idea about this.)

Some of us have met other Gransnetters and know their real world identities but, again, that is a matter of choice. So what is there to trust or mistrust?

CelticRose Sat 14-Feb-15 09:50:42

Nfk. heated discussions not a problem - don't take it personally. Nor make yourself look a fool. Do you watch PM Questions. Good training not to do the latter! And I like working in a team. No one person should make decisions.

Absent. Get a good journalist or two on side. They know the business. I actually like those journalists who write for - with excellent English grammar - Turkish newspapers. I also like a few English journos. I am sure the Grans have preferences too.

CelticRose Sat 14-Feb-15 08:32:44

Sugar! Just lost my post and have to start again.angry

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 13-Feb-15 10:10:49

You first then CelticRose.

rockgran Fri 13-Feb-15 09:18:19

Occasionally I see a post from "rockgran25" which is a very similar name to mine. I wonder how often we are confused by a similar name and assume we are talking to one person when in fact it is someone else - if you see what I mean. confused

NfkDumpling Fri 13-Feb-15 07:53:43

And would we all agree? Some discussions get quite heated!

absent Fri 13-Feb-15 05:12:43

CelticRose Sounds good but where do we find a non-partisan newspaper?

CelticRose Fri 13-Feb-15 02:31:44

Which reminds me of the potential, collective, power Grans could have. Let's get representation and go for chats with Prime Ministers and members of the Cabinet, editors of well informed and non partisan newspapers, maybe a breakfast meeting at Windsor might be forthcoming for those Grans living or visiting UK.

CelticRose Fri 13-Feb-15 02:17:43

Hi Juliette. Be yourself. You do get to spot the best and most informed Grans eventually. And I bow to their wisdom and sage advice.

Mishap Thu 12-Feb-15 22:23:39

In general I think people are genuine; but probably like me take steps to anonymise anything that requires this.

Faye Thu 12-Feb-15 22:06:49

There was a GNetter who used two different names in the early days. I noticed she ditched one of them when she got them mixed up and I was surprised no one seemed to notice, or maybe others did. grin

loopylou Thu 12-Feb-15 20:50:35

I'd love to meet other GNs sporting badges! smile I've learnt so much from the useful and encouraging posts on GN....and a new addiction!

NfkDumpling Thu 12-Feb-15 20:47:29

Sorry - Hi Juliette. Welcome wine

NfkDumpling Thu 12-Feb-15 20:46:18

I think/hope the majority of posters are genuine. Why be otherwise? Having a nom de plume gives an opportunity to say what you think. I've had a lot of help on here from people giving honest, straight and good advice. People I may have walked past in the street.

Hey HQ - How about a Gransnet Badge? We could be like a secret society.

loopylou Thu 12-Feb-15 20:41:28

Oops! Sorry KatyK (and Katek)
Thanks soon , it's been a loooong day.....

soontobe Thu 12-Feb-15 20:23:02

It was KatyK, loopylou.

rosequartz Thu 12-Feb-15 19:37:04

Welcome, Juliette!

loopylou Thu 12-Feb-15 19:35:03

Absolutely Anya. Probably to my detriment in other spheres in life...

Anya Thu 12-Feb-15 19:33:09

Or trusting?

loopylou Thu 12-Feb-15 19:07:12

Like Katek it never crossed my mind that people may not be who they say they are; perhaps I'm just naive........hmm

TwiceAsNice Thu 12-Feb-15 18:36:51

Sorry didn't proof read properly should read pinch not prince. Where did that come from!

TwiceAsNice Thu 12-Feb-15 18:35:43

Hi Juliette welcome to Gransnet. I too take with a prince of salt a small amount of postings and only post what I am happy to share. I have had some very pleasant private messages from people here and feel that most people are genuine and some people are very caring indeed. It sometimes makes me think, often makes me laugh and is disconcertingly addictive!

alternativegran Thu 12-Feb-15 14:04:46

I think you are probably right annsixty although I can understand why an alter ego would be appealing.

I am not sure what you have to do to get defrocked, I heard that it was being drunk in the pulpit or having sex with a parishioner, but that sounds almost tame in todays world so I expect it has to be something really bad. I can understand why a young gay defrocked vicar would choose to inhabit the perceived persona of a 64 year old atheist grandmother whilst licking his wounds. Being a boring type I am now considering what I would choose.

gillybob Thu 12-Feb-15 13:45:58

I certainly wouldn't want to enhance or elaborate who and what I am, annsixty being just me is more than enough to cope with. smile

pompa Thu 12-Feb-15 13:26:33

Annsixty, you are right, I don't really have a Ferrari, it's only an Aston Martin.

Pittcity Thu 12-Feb-15 13:25:51

Pompa I am blonde! One out of three ain't bad!