Do you think they were right to ban him?

Anyone, male or female, would be open to ridicule if they chose to wear high heels, a trailing, sparkly frock and a tiara in public! Don't know about it being 'shocking' though...

I don't really regard a playgroup as public and the ban certainly smacks, to me, of an element of shock. Or perhaps disapproval and disgust as if the child had done something actually wrong.

People often dress up in ridiculous/amazing costumes and show themselves in public.

It was you who mentioned 'in public' bags.

The main argument against the boy wearing his dressing-up clothes, at least on this forum, seems to have been the safety aspect, especially the shoes.

Think I'll leave you to it - things to do...

I think if it had really been just the safety aspect, whoever runs the playgroup could have come to a reasonable arrangement with the parents of the wee boy, e.g. he could still have worn his dresses, just not traily ones, and his fancy shoes but not high heels.

High heels look lovely on a woman young enough to be able to wear them.

Tiaras are very nice too. I have never worn one, except a fairy one on Christmas Day.

I keep all my tiaras for special occasions. They can get a bit heavy to wear, must be the weight of all the diamonds.