Contact the powers that be.

I'm pretty sure the whole original complaint is directed at me and I find it sneaky and cowardly. If I am wrong in thinking that, it just goes to show what this forum can do to you and what an unhealthy place it can be to be.

I will get back to my Sunday now and leave you all to it.

Jess!

I've had whole threads ignored . Bloodied but unbowed.

jings, if you hadn't told us that post was directed at you, I suspect that very few of would have known. I didn't.

Flipping heck *jings' - you might be right but leave well alone please.

Would be glad of a comment on that Kat since you have been bothered by this.

I have had enough of this now!

Quoting Petra: "Re. My deleted post. All I asked was: are you really as nasty and hurtful as you seem."

That was a horrible thing to say, and you should n't be repeating a post that has been deleted.

I think GN should delete that repeated post as it is definitely against forum rules.

I would like to say that I have been with gransnet for less than a year and have already had lots of support and helpful comments from a lot of people. I have also been touched by the concern shown to others who have been in distress.
Also had a lot of laughs at some of the threads

I don't join in.the more Robust Discussions but that is my choice.

How does anyone know if their posts have been ignored? Perhaps the posts have been read and appreciated but nothing said in return. You can only be certain your post hasn't been ignored if someone replies directly to it (or you), but if you don't get a direct reply it doesn't necessarily mean a post has been ignored. Not all posts need responses and sometimes I read a thread but don't feel I have anything to add, so I don't. That's not ignoring; it's not posting.

I suppose if one defines ignored as not getting a reply it's a different matter. All down to personal interpretation yet again.

I have read quite a lot of your posts hollydaze. I honestly can't remember if I've replied to any of them directly.

To be fair, HollyDaze has made quite a few reasoned and polite posts since she joined, Jane - but there again, I'm pretty sure they haven't all been ignored or criticised. I'm sure a lot of members feel that way about their own offerings!

And you tend to get out what you put in.

Holly If you post remarks like 'This is not a particularly friendly site' you can hardly be surprised if people either disagree or just ignore you.
If you want friendly chat, go to the threads like Soops Kitchen, where I'm sure you would be welcomed, or start a thread on some bland topic like 'What are the most unusual scones you've ever made'.
Gransnet is just like real life. Sometimes people are friendly, sometimes they bicker. Sometimes it's funny, sometimes it's serious. Sometimes it's interesting, sometimes it's not.

I am pleased that your experience of GN has been positive Katy - it is how it should be

In the three years since Gransnet was founded, I have never thought of it as unfriendly. Abrasive, occasionally, but there has always been a strain of good will running through our discussions. And when a member is in distress it is inspiring to see the way everyone rallies round. It's also a great place for good advice and good companionship

I guess there must be another reason then that I haven't thought of as to why much of what I have posted is ignored unless it's to be critical of what I've said. There are one or two on here that are very friendly but most seem indifferent to many posters. Thankfully, not all posters need to feel included on a daily basis but others can become distressed by it if they are looking for that companionship (and that will be seen by the amount of time they spend on here).

Holly Yes I agree of course you are entitled to your view. I have seen many disputes on GN and have chosen never to comment on these posts. I just meant to say that my experience is of kindness and helpfulness.

Feather ruffling or boredom is inevitable on every site - in that respect, GN is no different to any other forum.

In the three years since Gransnet was founded, I have never thought of it as unfriendly. Abrasive, occasionally, but there has always been a strain of good will running through our discussions. And when a member is in distress it is inspiring to see the way everyone rallies round. It's also a great place for good advice and good companionship.

There have been many members taking time out or leaving the site while I have been a member but of course unless they tell us their reasons we don't know if they have had their feathers ruffled or simply got bored.

kittylester and KatyK - you are perfectly entitled to your views and opinions and you are pefectly entitled to take issue. I am equally entitled to my views based on my own personal experience of this site.

Judging by posts from members who 'take a break' from the angst shown on here or those who have simply stopped posting at all, I suspect I am not alone.

I agree kitty. Folks on here have helped me no end.

Holly - I would take issue with your comment that this is not a friendly site. Apart from the odd spat, Gransnet is really friendly IMO.

It is a sad fact that if you choose to post on forums, you need to ensure your skin is thick enough to take the numpties who are, generally, referred to as Keyboard Warriors.

Personally, I find it extremely amusing to think of those grans sitting at their computers hammering out offensive or angry comments over which, when all is said and done, is just conversation and it shows their inability to accept that others have a different point of view - a bit like children being told 'no'.

This is not a particularly friendly site and whether or not you feel there is a clique will depend upon whether you are inside the clique or outside. It can often be more fun to be on the outside.

Maybe the site should consider having an ignore feature so that if certain posters irritate you on a regular basis, you have the option not to see their posts.

Try not to take it too personally - sticks and stones and all that.

That would take some hard work too! And a tough skin for the rebuffs.