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Dragonfly1 Sat 19-Apr-14 09:12:58

Is anyone else on their own this Easter? I've never spent Easter alone. Since DH died I've had the girls around, and last year, the first without DD1, I spent Easter Sunday with DD2 and the GC. Today they're flying off on a much deserved holiday, and as well as being consumed by anxiety about them travelling, I'm feeling very sad that I'll be alone. I know, I'm a wimp. tbusad

Charleygirl Sat 19-Apr-14 14:42:29

felice I have spent the last 3 Christmases on my own and I really do not think about it. I am catering only for myself so I can eat what I want when I want and watch TV if there is anything worth watching. I usually end up treating it like a normal day. Try not to think about it, it is really no big deal. Some of us will be communicating on here that day so you will not be alone.

felice Sat 19-Apr-14 14:34:21

Was told last week that for the first time ever I may be on my own this Christmas, actually trying NOT to think about it really. SIL only back in contact with his Mothers family in Paris since he met my DD, so really cannot complain if he wants to visit them with DGS. His Mother died 16 years ago so it had been a long time coming.
I have been busy with the Church here this week it was supposed to be a weelend sans DGS but DD begged last night quite nicely so he is down here tonight, but I need to be out at 9.30 tomorrow morning so she has been well warned. Have a great weekend folks, God bless x

Bellasnana Sat 19-Apr-14 14:07:40

Thank you Dragonfly, Nonu and Lona flowers and some more flowers for your friend. How courageous she sounds. Hope all goes well with her surgery.

specki4eyes Sat 19-Apr-14 13:47:29

I spent last week with my family and am now positively revelling in my aloneness! I've got a painting to finish; some sewing to do; a pile of ironing after my trip - the sun is shining and I've just walked 3 km through lanes dripping with white and mauve lilac, wisteria and flag irises.
Don't think about what might have been Dragonfly, the trick is to recall the stress of entertaining everyone at Easter and how knackering it was!
And we've got each other - we can talk all weekend!

Lona Sat 19-Apr-14 13:47:28

Bellasnana flowers I shall be thinking of you and your sister tomorrow.
As you know, my best friend has breast cancer, and after a year of treatment she has her double mastectomy next Wednesday.
Tomorrow, she is hosting a lunch party for her departing breasts. She has invited all her family and some close friends, and she has bought a cake shaped like a pair of boobs!
She has confided to me that she is now feeling very apprehensive, but she is such a strong woman.
I'm feeling very emotional on her behalf.

Nonu Sat 19-Apr-14 13:39:54

Bella , repeat what Dragon has just said.
x

Dragonfly1 Sat 19-Apr-14 13:30:20

Bellasnana, your sister is often in my thoughts. Keep us up to date with news, won't you? flowers

Dragonfly1 Sat 19-Apr-14 13:28:56

JessM I think you've got a point. I have friends who I know would say 'You should've said, you could have come to lunch/dinner/whatever.' They all know I'm on my own, but they're so busy with their own families I think they forget. DD just rang from the airport, had a chat with GS1 (5), who kept saying 'I wish you were coming nanny'. So do I, little man, but someone has to stay here to look after the (very) elderlies and your cats!

Bellasnana Sat 19-Apr-14 13:21:15

I shall likely be on my own tomorrow as well. DH and DS will both be at work and DD3 will probably be off with her pals, but I don't really mind. Will be thinking of my sister who has to go for a brain scan tomorrow. She is having some unpleasant side effects from her chemo and has been feeling rough this week.

flowers for all who are going to be alone tomorrow. Will be thinking of you all and hope the day will pass better than you imagine.

JessM Sat 19-Apr-14 13:17:25

Do you think people in families pull up the drawbridge at holiday periods and don't think to do things with single friends, or think to include them?

Aka Sat 19-Apr-14 13:10:54

You're not included Galen if you're going to be shooting little bunny rabbits tbusad tbuwink

Charleygirl Sat 19-Apr-14 13:10:15

I am on my own this weekend. I have no family so most weekends are like this one, except this one is longer. I just do what I fancy and today I have several appointments with my washing machine. I do not give a thought to it being Easter as I am not religious.

Galen Sat 19-Apr-14 12:48:56

Aren't we just! (Smug)tbusmile

Dragonfly1 Sat 19-Apr-14 12:45:48

Thanks for all the flowers and thoughts. I've spent the morning doing 91 year old Dad's shopping - wrongly, apparently, - and sorting out DDs cats, as I will be every day till they're back. And oh joy, neither DD nor SIL had thought to put litter in their litter tray before they left so guess who's now got to go and scrub the garage floor...? I'm sure I'll be ok once I know DD and family have landed safely this evening. And Gransnetters - you're the best. X

Galen Sat 19-Apr-14 12:42:59

With my (lack of) skill, I'll probably get a passing sheep in the next field instead!

annodomini Sat 19-Apr-14 12:33:50

Oh go on Galen. Take it all out on a rabbit!

Tegan Sat 19-Apr-14 12:21:30

Typical Bank Holiday for me; son and daughter are spending it with their in laws and I'm feeding the cat and the goldfish. I know my place.

kittylester Sat 19-Apr-14 12:01:22

Reading this has made me feel guilty as we quite often think that it would be nice if we had some time without family around. I remind DH that investing time now while they are all young should pay dividends when they are older but DGC are very tiring. tbuconfused

Galen Sat 19-Apr-14 11:59:46

I'm on my own, but our archery club are organising a 'fun' shoot which involves shooting bunnies and eggs for rewards or forfeits,
I'm in two minds whether to go or not.

Soutra Sat 19-Apr-14 11:47:50

nelliemoser flowers and a fair bit of tbusad. Often I am glad when it is over and our expectations can revert to normal. Christmas, New Year likewise. Even many weekends!!

Nelliemoser Sat 19-Apr-14 11:03:15

I don't like Bank Holidays, partly due to how OH is they are never much fun though.
Again the image or myth of good family get togethers makes those who are having anything less than a wonderful time feel far more miserable.

DD works shifts and really needs whatever quality time she can get with her OH and her son, there is little enough with their joint working hours being what they are.
If only she had gone into teaching instead of nursing.

KittyFisher Sat 19-Apr-14 10:59:07

Thinking of all who are on their own. flowers

Mishap Sat 19-Apr-14 10:39:04

Sending kind thoughts to those of you alone for Easter - these celebrations can be a trigger for sad thoughts. Treat yourself to a cream tea somewhere, and look forward to hearing all the wonderful stories of the holiday when they return. Thinking of you.

annodomini Sat 19-Apr-14 10:34:33

I'll be alone this weekend - and most weekends. I was with the family last weekend and could have stayed on, had I not had commitments back home during the week. As I am non-religious, that aspect of the holiday has no special significance for me and I'm glad that the hard-working younger generation will have a well-deserved break. Luckily I like my own company and that of my fellow g'net members. sunshine

Soutra Sat 19-Apr-14 10:11:06

flowers to you both and anybody else who is alone or sad this weekend. Why do these occasions cause us so much grief? Is it memories of happier days or some pre-programmed expectation that somehow thistime it will be different? One solution might be to be pro-active, plan a visit (albeit alone) to somewhere nice or treat yourself to a posh lunch or afternoon tea somewhere that does not specialise in catering for families. I suspect I am whistling in the dark however as it will only be better when it is over but instead of suffering in silence flag up these feelings with your family and friends in time for next year and a Plan B. Who am I to talk? I spent much of yesterday fighting back tears because due to misunderstanding D'Ds plans we will not see the DGSs , having agreed to spend the day with DD2 +BF and do. You can't please everybody and usually Mum ends up least pleased of all. As I said flowers xx