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jinglbellsfrocks Tue 18-Mar-14 09:26:03

Any chance we could stop some of this sanctimonious garbage about how we are all supposed to love the sight of this happening, in public. I DO NOT LOVE IT!!! NOT WHEN I'M EATING A LUNCH I AM PAYING GOOD MONEY FOR.

I know it's a natural biological process, it's good for the little angel, etc etc. But it is still an infant sucking it's liquid feed out of its mother's tit. And I don't need to be confronted by it in a cafe. We are not animals. It's fine for sheep with their little lambs. But human mothers should be able to manage their feeding slchedule better than this. Feed before you go out. Do it in the car. Anywhere, anyway. But not where my eyes are going to alight upon it when I'm eating my lunch!

smile

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 18-Mar-14 19:37:06

Very true tiggypiro. I could do that. smile

Absent Sorry I don't go out of my way to please everyone. Like you do. grin

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 18-Mar-14 19:38:38

Alright Glass! Leave off now! hmm

Sorry I opened me flipping' gob! hmm

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 18-Mar-14 19:39:02

smile x

absent Tue 18-Mar-14 19:45:48

jingl grin

glassortwo Tue 18-Mar-14 19:48:32

jingle grin

Greenfinch Tue 18-Mar-14 20:30:41

I was on a crowded train the other day where a toddler of about three was having a tantrum. The mother undid her blouse and exposed her entire breast for all to see while the little one latched on and sucked until she went to sleep. I think the mother was Polish so maybe that is the general practice in her culture. She certainly wasn't embarrassed but then why should she be. I didn't like it but that's my problem not hers. shock

TAB12 Tue 18-Mar-14 21:50:35

I would not even breast feed if my family were in the room because I was embarrassed but I think Greenfinch is right, they do not have a problem with it and so that's why they do it.

Flowerofthewest Tue 18-Mar-14 22:10:41

My DD also feeds her 7 month old as and when she needs it. Her little boy was also tongue tied and found it difficult to suckle adequately so needed constant feeding.

The strangest thing I have seen is in a small coffee shop where a group of 4 mums all with young babies stood up in unison and produced 'aprons' which they popped over their heads and over the babies. This was much more obvious than my DD who was seated discretely feeding her little one with no fuss whatsoever.

In the 80s my baby was screaming for a feed, I was with my M-in-L who was a bit old fashioned and I dare not sit in public for fear of upsetting her. I rushed to a friend's house not far from the town but no one was in. I opened her garage door and sat on a stool. My dress was not suitable for feeding so M-in-L produced a pair of scissors from her pocket (used to snip at plants as she passed gardens!!!) I cut the dress down the front and fed my screaming baby. That was the last time I bothered to care about other people's reactions.

Mishap Tue 18-Mar-14 22:13:20

I used to feed mine all over the place, including on a train on the way to holiday. And that was a long time ago. No-one ever objected; not once. Not even uncomfortable looks.

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 18-Mar-14 22:19:35

I can only remember feeding my three at home. Mostly sitting at the kitchen table. Why do mothers need to spend so much time in cafes? I'm a bit surprised they can afford to. I suppose people are wealthier this days. And expect more.

Flowerofthewest Tue 18-Mar-14 22:22:56

Me too Mishap all five. It was just being with my fairly new mother-in-law, lovely though she was.

I used to run a wildlife group for children. We had an outdoor meeting with a chap talking about his rescued owls. One mum had 5 children ranging from about 3 to 10. She was sitting down with the other mums when the 7 year old snuggled up to her and up her jumper and proceeded to suckle. Then the 3 year old followed suit on the other breast. The owl guy stopped talking and stood with his mouth open until I prompted him. It was a little disconcerting considering the ages of the children.

merlotgran Tue 18-Mar-14 22:26:57

Babies are fine but I'll never forget the look on DH's face when a large, noisy toddler suddenly yelled, 'I WANT MUMMY MILK' and dived under his mother's top, slurping noisily.

Where were we? In a pod at the top of the Millennium Wheel.

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 18-Mar-14 22:28:42

Flower Why did you wear a dress that you had to cut to get your boobs out? And how was your m il to blame?

annodomini Tue 18-Mar-14 22:31:47

hmm, flower, that anecdote certainly gives the lie to that old myth about breastfeeding being a good contraceptive!

Flowerofthewest Tue 18-Mar-14 22:33:37

Did I say MIL was to blame? Goodness knows why I wore that dress. It was the only one I had that didn't have a front opening. With 5 children I probably got dressed half asleep and didn't notice until it was feed time.

MIL certainly was not to blame, it was my feeling and fear of embarrassing her I suppose. The little one was only a couple of weeks old and it was the first time I had walked to town with him and MIL (second husband's mother and OUR first child together) Lived in a village with the other four as babies and it was the norm to feed wherever.

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 18-Mar-14 22:39:36

The worst thing about breastfeeding for me was having to wear "suitable" clothing. All that front opening stuff, and awful bras.

DebnCreme Tue 18-Mar-14 23:26:16

I wish I had been able to feed my girls myself sad

thatbags Wed 19-Mar-14 07:08:24

I never wore "front opening stuff". Just lifted up my T-shirt. Top bit of bosom is covered and the baby covers one's midriff. Discreet. Stop inventing problems, jings.

thatbags Wed 19-Mar-14 07:11:21

I travelled long distances by train in those days (didn't have a car) so that the kids could see their grandparents. If you're six hours on a train with a baby, you'll need to feed it. Stop pretending sitting at the kitchen table is the only suitable place, jings.

Oh, sorry. I forgot that saying it how it was is "sanctimonious garbage."

thatbags Wed 19-Mar-14 07:14:00

And, as others have said, hardly anyone noticed. People who did notice just smiled.

Trying to remember how many times I've seen someone breast-feeding a baby in a public place.... fewer times than I can count on my fingers.

It's not a big deal. Stop making it one.

Penstemmon Wed 19-Mar-14 07:32:05

Of course women should feed their babies when ever they need feeding. A cafe seems to be a logical place! Mountain/molehill comes to mind. .though if talking about milk laden boobs maybe wrong metaphors! ! grin

JessM Wed 19-Mar-14 07:35:00

Easy answer jingle , don't spend time in cafes. Or if you need to sit with your back to the other customers then nothing they do will offend your eyes. If on public transport, keep your gaze lowered.

thatbags Wed 19-Mar-14 07:37:28

I think The Jings was just in a let's wind them all up mood wink

So let's feed her some more sanctimonious garbage smile

The main reason for BF is that, if you can do it, it's the easiest option – less clutter to carry around, no sterilising, and you get to eat more than you would if you weren't feeding a baby.

ffinnochio Wed 19-Mar-14 07:46:10

Winding up successfully accomplished it would seem. smile

Brendawymms Wed 19-Mar-14 08:26:46

My elder daughter is 43 and all those years ago I fed her whilst on a train, on buses, in car parks, shops etc etc and I never had a comment made about it. You do not gave to flaunt the activity but a quiet baby is better than a distressed one.