Forum etiquette.

anagram, i have shown goodwill and still do. you have no grounds for withdrawing goodwill but you are free to do so, of course. and i am surprised you are willing to speak for other gransnetters.

what happened then happened also here today. stop imagining gn has no room for improvement.

bagitha, are you looking for it too? three or four lines. i know who posted it but i am too polite to say. i searched some of the words shortly after the event - i didn't find it, but you might.

I reiterate, it sounded like a threat Anagram

Anagran I did NOT mean to start the thread up again! I just wanted to put a quick remark up to Granbunny.

I shouldn't have done so I suppose, but you didn't all have to start up again.

imjingl are you being tongue in cheek when you say you shouldn't have started up the thread again?

Surely no-one person can order others not to post.

I'm not being tongue in cheek. Why would I be in this context? The thread had 'gone to sleep'. I felt bad about re-awakening it. But I just wnated to say what I did to Granbunny.

"Anagran I did NOT mean to start the thread up again! I just wanted to put a quick remark up to Granbunny.

I shouldn't have done so I suppose, but you didn't all have to start up again."

that made me laugh, jingl, in a nice way!

"imjingl are you being tongue in cheek when you say you shouldn't have started up the thread again?"

well, i did wonder... but i didn't mind, either way.

I'm not ordering anyone about anything.

you could have pm'd me, jingl...

I've lost it now.

Can't follow any of it.

Night night. xx

(would say one thing though Gb. When GN delete a post it shows up as 'message deleted by Gransnet'. Don't know if that helps at all or not.)

I don't want to get into pm-ing.

Only with Glass.

This is getting muddled. Just to clarify imjingl I meant surely you didn't think that you shouldn't post because someone else had told (ordered) you not to.

I wasn't saying YOU were ordering people not to post.

Actually I was glad the thread was reactivated because I didn't think the topic had come to a natural end. It would be good if everyone concerned could be left with no hard feelings before we let the matter drop.

petallus, how on earth can I, as a single member, be 'threatening' granbunny with the withdrawal of goodwill from every other member, which I presume is what you're implying? It was a prediction, that's all. Which I stand by.

Well Anagram -

'you are going to end up exhausting the goodwill members are showing towards you very soon at this rate'

did sound to me like a prediction which involved GN 'members' as a whole rather than just yourself. It was threatening because to have no goodwill from other members of a group one belonged to would be unpleasant, you could even say a punishment.

But that's only my interpretation. The problem is that none of us can hear voice inflection, see facial expressions and so on and hence there is plenty of scope for comments to be misunderstood.

I sincerely hope all this blows over soon and that no-one leaves GN as a result of it.

please stick to being nasty to me, those who need to, rather than being unpleasant with each other!

petallus - hard feelings? i remember three names, i probably won't forget them for a while. this evening i'm beginning to wonder if someone else was deeply involved - but i don't care.

what i want, as i've said, is that people should be nice. not just to the people they 'know' but also to those they don't know. some gnetters do just that. others, not so much.

I think it is time for a drink. We all have arguments with our families and are more in line with some than others. We are a group of decent people who have been very supportive of each other and even shed tears because of their sadness. We also have had lots of laughs and fun along the way and have been happy when things are going well for other members. Lots of us are going through difficult times and lots of us will go through difficult times in the future. I hate the thought of upsetting someone that is going through difficulties. I don't like to see old and new posters upset because then they leave and they all have too much to offer!

a sip or two before the night, perhaps.

I agree with Faye

I firmly agree with Faye!!!!

Faye it's too early for so ,you wise bird you! I agree

See!

Thank you Geraldine - I am sure I speak for most members in saying that you have given a very concise and useful summing-up of what GN is about.

Let's slay this dragon and put an end to this! It has gone on long enough, even my GCs don't prolong a spat for this long! (Just wanted to use the new emoticon really)

Well said Geraldine. Let's hope we can all move on.